Boyfriend making me fat

[Anonymous]

I’ve been single for a long time waiting on someone who I truly click with. I met my boyfriend several months ago and everything has been wonderful, except he likes to go out ALL THE TIME. I like having someone to go out with and his company is enjoyable. But he wants to go out to eat every day! It’s causing me to gain weight and I miss cooking. How do I bring this up gently?

[Anonymous]

Offer to cook him a nice meal.

Is he fat?

[Anonymous]

Can't you just order salad or other healthy/unprocessed items? I like to go out too but have not found this to be an issue.

[Anonymous]

Tell him you’re cooking dinner tomorrow night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Offer to cook him a nice meal.

Is he fat?

I offer to cook daily and he says no he wants to go out. He eats my food occasionally and seems to enjoy it. He’s not fat at all. He has a super high metabolism.

[Anonymous]

stop ordering the good stuff and stick with salads

[Anonymous]

Eat only half your portion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:stop ordering the good stuff and stick with salads

She might be hungry and want more than a daily salad

[Anonymous]

Why can't you be honest?
Suggest a different activity not food related. He should be flexible here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Offer to cook him a nice meal.

Is he fat?

I offer to cook daily and he says no he wants to go out. He eats my food occasionally and seems to enjoy it. He’s not fat at all. He has a super high metabolism.

Don't "offer." tell him you want to stay in every other date, or whatever. The same way he says he wants to go out.

[Anonymous]

eat less its not that difficult

[Anonymous]

Keep it up and you won't have a BF. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been single for a long time waiting on someone who I truly click with. I met my boyfriend several months ago and everything has been wonderful, except he likes to go out ALL THE TIME. I like having someone to go out with and his company is enjoyable. But he wants to go out to eat every day! It’s causing me to gain weight and I miss cooking. How do I bring this up gently?

Why does this sound like it was ripped from some old Ann Landers column?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Offer to cook him a nice meal.

Is he fat?

I offer to cook daily and he says no he wants to go out. He eats my food occasionally and seems to enjoy it. He’s not fat at all. He has a super high metabolism.

Don't "offer." tell him you want to stay in every other date, or whatever. The same way he says he wants to go out.

This. Then start involving him in cooking and meals you make and eat together. If he insists he doesn't like cooking, when you cook for you both, he can clean up after! If he's close enough you refer to him as a boyfriend, he's close enough for you to speak up like PP says. Be positive about it. Note that the $$$ involved in constantly eating out could be money you both could use to do other things--whatever you find fun. Outings, concerts, movies, plays, travel, etc. Then start suggesting those outings. Less eating in restaurants. More picnics that you make.

He sounds careless about both money and health if he eats out pretty much daily, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:eat less its not that difficult

She’s hungry!

Objection. Assuming facts not in evidence.