11 year-old son self-conscious about big butt
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Not really. More likely just how they are genetically meant to be shaped/store fat. I know lots of people and kids with large butts and it doesn’t correlate to how athletic they are. It isn’t like her 11 yr old is a power lifter and is squatting some huge weight rack on the regular |
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| At 11 your kid is likely to enter a growth spurt and will be completely different in 1-2 years. |
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You really need to reinfornce the expectation of respect. No one should be slapping his butt or touching him and him thinking this is fine because he is a boy.
Acceptance is important. Maybe he will grow into it, maybe he won't. Maybe it will become a feature he likes, maybe he will always wish it was smaller but regardless this is his body. This is why I think that the idea of talking about bodies as a big dark taboo topic doesn't help anyone. It is okay that he has insecurities that he needs to learn how to manage. You can build up his confidence in other ways. Everyone needs to learn to cope with difficult and negative feelings and emotions and know that this is normal to experience. |
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| The kid that slapped his butt, that needs to be addressed immediately with the school. I personally would fill out a bullying report for that, especially since there's a section for that in there. |
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| Don’t feed him any junk food. Focus on vegetables and protein. |
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We are very booty positive in our all-boy household. My 11 year old swimmer wants the biggest butt possible = strong for swimming. Unfortunately, his 13 year old brother edges him out, a wrestler.
It sucks to be bullied. Try to change the narrative. Flat butts aren't in. |
Anonymous
Haha. My husband has a Hank Hill butt and I have a huge one that I passed on to my son. I think it helps him be an excellent baseball player. He catches and is very strong |
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What?!?!? Swimmers don't tolerate body high fat; it's dead weight and interferes with streamlined motion. |
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No fat. It's muscle. Strong glutes are key. |
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More fat actually makes swimming easier. You have to work less to stay on top of the water- more buoyant. |
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| He has to own his badonkadonk. |
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| Its ok my 7 year old is the same way |
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| 11 is a weird time for bodies. Just remind him he's got lots of growing UP to do. And that his legs and backside are strong, which is a good thing. |
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| Are they strong glutes or flabby? |