Missing college student in the Dominican Republic from Ashburn

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has that old Indian auntie been on this thread all day?

It’s impressive how quickly people jump to conclusions about others when they don’t even know who’s behind the screen. But sure, let’s distract from the actual discussion by trying to make assumptions about identity. Maybe focus on the substance of the conversation instead of your need to stereotype or attack someone you know nothing about. Keep it classy.

[Anonymous]

I married into a Dominican family and have been there quite a few times. The way people behave at the resorts is shameful. My child once had her pool float taken by a drunk guy who proceeded to pass out on it-in the kiddie pool. I've seen people get ridiculously drunk then ill only to blame it on the resort for poisioning them via food or drink. I've seen women harrassing the male employees to the point where it is embarrassing, not to mention the gross old men cavorting with teenage Dominican girls. On the other hand, I've never once felt unsafe due to any action by the resort staff. I haven't read all 165 pages of this thread, but damn, some of you all are showing your racism loud and clear!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She was drinking. They all were drinking. Zero hint of any drugs except for on this page, coming from women who need a pill or two.

It's truly impressive how some people can turn a tragic event into an opportunity to shame victims rather than seek understanding. Drinking doesn't erase the need for accountability, and the only pill here should be a dose of common sense. If you spent half as much energy on empathy as you do on making excuses, maybe we'd all be a little better off

Since both victims were drinking, both victims deserve empathy. Since we can't give it to her, we give sympathy to her family.

Zero excuses.

Ah, I see. So now we’re extending empathy to the person under arrest, as if their actions somehow erase the harm caused to others? It’s truly something to witness when people leap straight into victimhood for the suspect while ignoring the very real victims in this situation. If empathy is being offered, it should go to the ones who are no longer here to defend themselves—not to someone who’s being investigated for their role in a tragic event. Maybe the only thing more tragic than what happened is the attempt to make the perpetrator into a victim.

If genders were reversed and the male disappeared, no one would investigate at all.

Two drunk college kids went swimming in the ocean at night. Only one came out.

It’s always convenient to make comparisons when the facts don’t align with your narrative. The gender of the people involved doesn’t change the reality of the situation, and what’s tragic here is that one person is dead and another is under investigation. Let’s not pretend this would be any less of a tragedy if roles were reversed—both victims deserve justice. The focus should be on finding the truth, not turning this into some “what if” exercise about gender. Two drunk college kids went swimming, yes, but only one of them is dead, and that’s where the investigation should stay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married into a Dominican family and have been there quite a few times. The way people behave at the resorts is shameful. My child once had her pool float taken by a drunk guy who proceeded to pass out on it-in the kiddie pool. I've seen people get ridiculously drunk then ill only to blame it on the resort for poisioning them via food or drink. I've seen women harrassing the male employees to the point where it is embarrassing, not to mention the gross old men cavorting with teenage Dominican girls. On the other hand, I've never once felt unsafe due to any action by the resort staff. I haven't read all 165 pages of this thread, but damn, some of you all are showing your racism loud and clear!

Yeah its clear you haven't read the thread b/c no one is blaming anyone who is Dominican, they are blaming the white kid.

[Anonymous]

personal responsibility is tough, especially when you pay with your life

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She was drinking. They all were drinking. Zero hint of any drugs except for on this page, coming from women who need a pill or two.

It's truly impressive how some people can turn a tragic event into an opportunity to shame victims rather than seek understanding. Drinking doesn't erase the need for accountability, and the only pill here should be a dose of common sense. If you spent half as much energy on empathy as you do on making excuses, maybe we'd all be a little better off

For most Americans, pointing out that college students on spring break were drinking has nothing to do with "shaming" them.

Drinking causes people to lose their inhibitions, their balance, the contents if their stomach and their consciousness eventually which is what happened here.

What an odd, odd, odd thing to write. There is nothing "shameful" about college kids partying on spring break.

read this thread and you will understand the response

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When I went out with my girlfriends in college we always had a pact to watch each other’s backs and we all left together. Always. Period. And that was before cellphones!

I can’t imagine letting my girlfriend get blackout throw-up drunk and letting her leave with a man we just met. And then shrugging off that she was missing the next morning? No, just no. Those are terrible friends.

+1

And seems like really weird behavior since “friends of the friends“ say they’re all “nice good girls“. Nice good girls would be alarmed if their friend were unable to be found after last being seen with a stranger on a beach at 5 AM. They certainly would not go off on a boat excursion because her friends behavior would be uncharacteristic.

We have no idea when the excursion left or what went down when they left her on the beach. It easily could have been "we're going back to sleep because the excursion leaves at 8 am;" "I'm going to stay here with this guy." Then, when she doesn't show up at 8 having basically flagged that she may not -- and keep in mind, they only leave her a few hours earlier -- it may not seem like a big deal. They also may have thought she'd meet them at the excursion if at all. So they go there to wait. She doesn't show. They decide to go ahead but are a bit worried (maybe this is why CJ is reaching out to Ribe, because they text him at whatever time she doesn't show), so when they still can't track her down afterwards, they immediately report her missing. Remember that if they aren't worried at all, she wouldn't have been reported as early as 4 pm when she could have still be sleeping it off/off with the guy. The reason they know she isn't is because they are looking for her at least passively (i.e., by text).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The boy too is now a victim — of a witch-hunt by racists and trolls and celibate women who binge watch too many hysteric crime thrillers and podcasts.

Because the real tragedy here is the "poor boy" who’s now the victim of a witch-hunt, rather than the actual victims involved. Never mind the circumstances or the investigation—let's shift the narrative to the guy who's under arrest. It's truly remarkable how some can twist things to make a suspect the center of sympathy. Maybe if we spent less time watching crime thrillers and more time paying attention to facts and accountability, we'd be in a better place. But hey, at least you're not the one on trial.

He’s not under arrest. Why are you making stuff up?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The boy too is now a victim — of a witch-hunt by racists and trolls and celibate women who binge watch too many hysteric crime thrillers and podcasts.

Because the real tragedy here is the "poor boy" who’s now the victim of a witch-hunt, rather than the actual victims involved. Never mind the circumstances or the investigation—let's shift the narrative to the guy who's under arrest. It's truly remarkable how some can twist things to make a suspect the center of sympathy. Maybe if we spent less time watching crime thrillers and more time paying attention to facts and accountability, we'd be in a better place. But hey, at least you're not the one on trial.

Wrong. Some just understand US constitutional rights and how the US should demand the same for this US citizen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When I went out with my girlfriends in college we always had a pact to watch each other’s backs and we all left together. Always. Period. And that was before cellphones!

I can’t imagine letting my girlfriend get blackout throw-up drunk and letting her leave with a man we just met. And then shrugging off that she was missing the next morning? No, just no. Those are terrible friends.

+1

And seems like really weird behavior since “friends of the friends“ say they’re all “nice good girls“. Nice good girls would be alarmed if their friend were unable to be found after last being seen with a stranger on a beach at 5 AM. They certainly would not go off on a boat excursion because her friends behavior would be uncharacteristic.

We have no idea when the excursion left or what went down when they left her on the beach. It easily could have been "we're going back to sleep because the excursion leaves at 8 am;" "I'm going to stay here with this guy." Then, when she doesn't show up at 8 having basically flagged that she may not -- and keep in mind, they only leave her a few hours earlier -- it may not seem like a big deal. They also may have thought she'd meet them at the excursion if at all. So they go there to wait. She doesn't show. They decide to go ahead but are a bit worried (maybe this is why CJ is reaching out to Ribe, because they text him at whatever time she doesn't show), so when they still can't track her down afterwards, they immediately report her missing. Remember that if they aren't worried at all, she wouldn't have been reported as early as 4 pm when she could have still be sleeping it off/off with the guy. The reason they know she isn't is because they are looking for her at least passively (i.e., by text).

Bending yourself into a pretzel

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The boy too is now a victim — of a witch-hunt by racists and trolls and celibate women who binge watch too many hysteric crime thrillers and podcasts.

Because the real tragedy here is the "poor boy" who’s now the victim of a witch-hunt, rather than the actual victims involved. Never mind the circumstances or the investigation—let's shift the narrative to the guy who's under arrest. It's truly remarkable how some can twist things to make a suspect the center of sympathy. Maybe if we spent less time watching crime thrillers and more time paying attention to facts and accountability, we'd be in a better place. But hey, at least you're not the one on trial.

Wrong. Some just understand US constitutional rights and how the US should demand the same for this US citizen.

Who are the “victimS” you mention in this case besides Sudiksha?
And has been stated by every human involved, the guy’s not been identified as a “suspect” as you wrongly claim.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When I went out with my girlfriends in college we always had a pact to watch each other’s backs and we all left together. Always. Period. And that was before cellphones!

I can’t imagine letting my girlfriend get blackout throw-up drunk and letting her leave with a man we just met. And then shrugging off that she was missing the next morning? No, just no. Those are terrible friends.

+1

And seems like really weird behavior since “friends of the friends“ say they’re all “nice good girls“. Nice good girls would be alarmed if their friend were unable to be found after last being seen with a stranger on a beach at 5 AM. They certainly would not go off on a boat excursion because her friends behavior would be uncharacteristic.

Those girls made some bad decisions and choices. They will live with it for the rest of their lives. We all know that . They didn’t have anything to do with Sudiksha’s disappearance.

They did absolutely nothing to help find her. If they’d all acted more prudently, this incident would never have happened. Many bad choices.

Lies, reporting her missing to resort and contacting her family is not nothing. It was JR and CJ who did nothing.

His failure to alert resort at 10am or before is all the more curious given his claimed heroic actions and risking of his own life. Hmmmm.

There is nothing suspicious about the boys' behavior towards a literal stranger. Their behavior matches their recounting of what happened and all the evidence supports what they said happened AND what the friends said happened.

I bet you think its fine that her very close friends just hopped on a plane the next day after their friend disappeared.

Her friends are either sociopaths or she wasn’t actually their friend at all, she was just a late addition hanger-on to help off-set a group rate.

One of her friends on the trip went to TJ with her.

There are 2,000 kids at TJ, doesn’t mean they’re genuine friends.

You don't think the girl she Venmo'd on Thursday afternoon for the night before at Coco Bongo, who also graduated with her at TJ, and went to Pitt with her, isn't her friend?

[Anonymous]

I think it is peculiar that her parents ask that the drunk staggering video not be used. Can't put that genie back in the bottle. (End of video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X5BDA9aAhtQ)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When I went out with my girlfriends in college we always had a pact to watch each other’s backs and we all left together. Always. Period. And that was before cellphones!

I can’t imagine letting my girlfriend get blackout throw-up drunk and letting her leave with a man we just met. And then shrugging off that she was missing the next morning? No, just no. Those are terrible friends.

+1

And seems like really weird behavior since “friends of the friends“ say they’re all “nice good girls“. Nice good girls would be alarmed if their friend were unable to be found after last being seen with a stranger on a beach at 5 AM. They certainly would not go off on a boat excursion because her friends behavior would be uncharacteristic.

I actually think they were just a little naive. I mean, who immediately thinks their friend is dead in the middle of the Atlantic Ocean at ~8am when they are loading onto the bus? I'm sure by the time (lunch time? IDK) they realized she hadn't woken up and gone to the front desk asking for a key and getting access to her phone, and they couldn't get ahold of her, they started to freak out.

“Just a little naive”???

yes no one has it all figured out while in college as a 20 year old.

Doctors of tomorrow. God help us all.

tomorrow is the key word here. They would have aged and matured, educated and trained. They are right now just 20 year olds.

Or AI. It's going to be them or is it students from Midwest?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a hearing today re his release per NYP. More details may come out.

Is that why headlines are now back to something like : " DR putting drowning back as a possibility" ? In drowning cases, are bodies usually recovered? Prayers to the families involved.