Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op, others are overcharging ... all those "Billable Hours" aren't happening, not as reported. Either act as others do and make peace with it, or get out.
Not true. And super unethical. Don't do this OP. It will cost you your job, your career and your integrity.
FWIW My DH billed 3000 hours and not one hour was made up. It's extreme, I know, but what he had to do. We just never saw him at home. Ever. Out the door by 8am home at midnight M-F with 8 hour days on weekends and ample travel for trials during which he routinely pulled all nighters. In the 3 years he was at the firm, he aged 15 years. Lack of sleep causes real issues. Add incredible amounts of stress and general assholery of your colleagues, and it's what heart attacks at 40 are made of. Plus, he never saw his son.
He worked his personal network, hard!, for a year and also worked with a headhunter to find an in-house position that required us to move cross country. Though it was an old law school peer that he reached out to via LinkedIn that helped him get a foot in the door. I work form home so that wasn't an issue. If you can open up your search to other areas, especially those with lower costs of living, your life will improve dramatically. I know the PTO is hiring lawyers like.crazy. Also, can you can transfer within your firm to a smaller office? We had friends who did this and often the pressure is a lot less though opportunity can also diminish.
If you decide to stay, you need swing childcare. Not a full time nanny but more like a relief babysitter who can be there for you when your nanny needs to leave and on weekends. Think of a college student(s) etc. who you can pay cash by the hour. Also, pull in family help. Get a parent to come for a week and take over all care including meals and housework and use that time as a power week at work. Bill 80+ hours and you'll be feeling good. Get a real deal mentor at work. Someone who can usher you through these tough years and show you the light. Finally, and this is long term advice, use your network to bring in a client. Even if it's a small one this could be a huge gold star for you and shows them partnership potential. Rely on friends and family here to help jumpstart your search.
Good luck!