Top Tier Boarding school vs. TJ

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the kids at the top boarding schools have a lot less pressure because they all have a safety net.
Most if the kids from TJ will have to make it on their own.

+ and family connections.

TJ kids maybe as capable as BS kids but TJ parents cannot provide the same level of support BS parents can.

What does "support" mean? You mean pure cash, right? Because nothing about the BS parents suggests they are full of love and care (their time is spent cheating people to amass that ill-gotten wealth. Did you learn nothing from the banking crisis ?? ) You must be one of those idiots who went to BS

If you have to ask, you will never get it. Where you are in the food chain is where you are meant to be. Bottom feeders will always be on the bottom.

So which "progressive" private does your child attend?

[Anonymous]

Teenagers should be at home for developmental reasons unless the family situation is dysfunctional. They need guidance. Support and a chance to separate in a more natural way than BS. I wNt to BS because of divorce. The social interactions with parents for most kids were not normal

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teenagers should be at home for developmental reasons unless the family situation is dysfunctional. They need guidance. Support and a chance to separate in a more natural way than BS. I wNt to BS because of divorce. The social interactions with parents for most kids were not normal

I used to think this too, but then I started working at a boarding and day school. Most of the boarders were typical kids who just wanted a different experience for high school. I don't think this school is on the same academic level as TJ, but one could definitely get a top notch education there. I think comparing TJ to boarding school is difficult because they are so different. Honestly, if you are considering both, move beyond the prestige label, think about what each school offers and how that benefits your DC.

Also totally off-topic, but before moving to DC, my only knowledge of TJ came from that discrimination suit that girl filed against the Silicon Valley entrepreneur who was ten years older than she was, but she was having a relationship with him? So I guess that goes to show TJ grads can do weird things too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teenagers should be at home for developmental reasons unless the family situation is dysfunctional. They need guidance. Support and a chance to separate in a more natural way than BS. I wNt to BS because of divorce. The social interactions with parents for most kids were not normal

I used to think this too, but then I started working at a boarding and day school. Most of the boarders were typical kids who just wanted a different experience for high school. I don't think this school is on the same academic level as TJ, but one could definitely get a top notch education there. I think comparing TJ to boarding school is difficult because they are so different. Honestly, if you are considering both, move beyond the prestige label, think about what each school offers and how that benefits your DC.

Also totally off-topic, but before moving to DC, my only knowledge of TJ came from that discrimination suit that girl filed against the Silicon Valley entrepreneur who was ten years older than she was, but she was having a relationship with him? So I guess that goes to show TJ grads can do weird things too.

At Stanford?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teenagers should be at home for developmental reasons unless the family situation is dysfunctional. They need guidance. Support and a chance to separate in a more natural way than BS. I wNt to BS because of divorce. The social interactions with parents for most kids were not normal

? Why? As I said above, DC has 300 brothers and sisters at BS, we see DC multiple times during the year including 3 months in the summer. DC can't wait to get back to friends at the BS. But choose carefully, some of them are nicer and more nurturing than others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teenagers should be at home for developmental reasons unless the family situation is dysfunctional. They need guidance. Support and a chance to separate in a more natural way than BS. I wNt to BS because of divorce. The social interactions with parents for most kids were not normal

I used to think this too, but then I started working at a boarding and day school. Most of the boarders were typical kids who just wanted a different experience for high school. I don't think this school is on the same academic level as TJ, but one could definitely get a top notch education there. I think comparing TJ to boarding school is difficult because they are so different. Honestly, if you are considering both, move beyond the prestige label, think about what each school offers and how that benefits your DC.

Also totally off-topic, but before moving to DC, my only knowledge of TJ came from that discrimination suit that girl filed against the Silicon Valley entrepreneur who was ten years older than she was, but she was having a relationship with him? So I guess that goes to show TJ grads can do weird things too.

At Stanford?

Yes at Stanford. The poor girl seemed to be unstable and had a host of mental health issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teenagers should be at home for developmental reasons unless the family situation is dysfunctional. They need guidance. Support and a chance to separate in a more natural way than BS. I wNt to BS because of divorce. The social interactions with parents for most kids were not normal

I used to think this too, but then I started working at a boarding and day school. Most of the boarders were typical kids who just wanted a different experience for high school. I don't think this school is on the same academic level as TJ, but one could definitely get a top notch education there. I think comparing TJ to boarding school is difficult because they are so different. Honestly, if you are considering both, move beyond the prestige label, think about what each school offers and how that benefits your DC.

Also totally off-topic, but before moving to DC, my only knowledge of TJ came from that discrimination suit that girl filed against the Silicon Valley entrepreneur who was ten years older than she was, but she was having a relationship with him? So I guess that goes to show TJ grads can do weird things too.

At Stanford?

Speaking of Stanford, here is something BS parents cannot say. TJ is the ONLY school in the United States that produced a student who was admitted to Harvard and Stanford at the same time.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/15/476545.page

Harvard and Stanford made a special and first time program (just for her!!) where she gets to study at both places roughly 50-50 and she gets to choose which school should have the honor of granting her the degree after 4 years. That was what was the big deal since she claims both schools came up with this special unprecedented program just for her because they both wanted her to attend their school so much.

Except... It was all lies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went to one of the BS mentioned here. I loved it, and it continues to feel like home to me when I visit. I was a FA kid, so not by any means the old money 1% club. We're at that level (at least wealth-wise) now, and it's probably not in small part as a result of skills I developed and people I met at that early age. Not really a comparison vis a vis TJ (since I'd never heard of it before moving here), but just my experience. I do think the point a PP raised above is very true and, while subtle, very important. BS kids at Harvard or Yale are on a different footing from public school kids. There were around 25 kids from my senior class that were also in my class at Yale, and I had a natural fluency them and with other kids from similar environs that ends up being important in all sorts of ways that you can't really appreciate from the outside (though I was probably more sensitive to them being an "outsider" on the inside).

Anyway, this thread is unfortunate. Class differences are (understandably) very frustrating to those on the outside looking in. But it sounds like we are talking about a very small, elite universe of highly capable kids (whether BS or TJ) who are all going to do just fine.

This isn't true. I was friends with many young adults in NY who went to public schools, including in new Canaan and Greenwich. Many of them worked on Wall Street. There were people who came from all sorts of backgrounds and there wasn't any huge representation from boarding school. I'm sure boarding school kids do well, especially from top boarding schools, but there isn't any huge disadvantage or advantage. There are many paths to success.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teenagers should be at home for developmental reasons unless the family situation is dysfunctional. They need guidance. Support and a chance to separate in a more natural way than BS. I wNt to BS because of divorce. The social interactions with parents for most kids were not normal

I used to think this too, but then I started working at a boarding and day school. Most of the boarders were typical kids who just wanted a different experience for high school. I don't think this school is on the same academic level as TJ, but one could definitely get a top notch education there. I think comparing TJ to boarding school is difficult because they are so different. Honestly, if you are considering both, move beyond the prestige label, think about what each school offers and how that benefits your DC.

Also totally off-topic, but before moving to DC, my only knowledge of TJ came from that discrimination suit that girl filed against the Silicon Valley entrepreneur who was ten years older than she was, but she was having a relationship with him? So I guess that goes to show TJ grads can do weird things too.

At Stanford?

Speaking of Stanford, here is something BS parents cannot say. TJ is the ONLY school in the United States that produced a student who was admitted to Harvard and Stanford at the same time.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/15/476545.page

Harvard and Stanford made a special and first time program (just for her!!) where she gets to study at both places roughly 50-50 and she gets to choose which school should have the honor of granting her the degree after 4 years. That was what was the big deal since she claims both schools came up with this special unprecedented program just for her because they both wanted her to attend their school so much.

Except... It was all lies.

Give it a rest you don't want all the dirt dug up on BS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teenagers should be at home for developmental reasons unless the family situation is dysfunctional. They need guidance. Support and a chance to separate in a more natural way than BS. I wNt to BS because of divorce. The social interactions with parents for most kids were not normal

I used to think this too, but then I started working at a boarding and day school. Most of the boarders were typical kids who just wanted a different experience for high school. I don't think this school is on the same academic level as TJ, but one could definitely get a top notch education there. I think comparing TJ to boarding school is difficult because they are so different. Honestly, if you are considering both, move beyond the prestige label, think about what each school offers and how that benefits your DC.

Also totally off-topic, but before moving to DC, my only knowledge of TJ came from that discrimination suit that girl filed against the Silicon Valley entrepreneur who was ten years older than she was, but she was having a relationship with him? So I guess that goes to show TJ grads can do weird things too.

At Stanford?

Speaking of Stanford, here is something BS parents cannot say. TJ is the ONLY school in the United States that produced a student who was admitted to Harvard and Stanford at the same time.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/15/476545.page

Harvard and Stanford made a special and first time program (just for her!!) where she gets to study at both places roughly 50-50 and she gets to choose which school should have the honor of granting her the degree after 4 years. That was what was the big deal since she claims both schools came up with this special unprecedented program just for her because they both wanted her to attend their school so much.

Except... It was all lies.

I am sure she is not the only one. She's the only one who got caught.

[Anonymous]

Look. Some TJ kids are unstable and some screw up. Some boarding school kids are unstable and screw up. In fact, across all races, ethnicities, SES, etc. there are some bad apples-- and some good kids who make bad choices. But since the BS crew will not let it go with the "a TJ kid lied about college admissions story," let us remind ourselves that board schools also have scandals. From just a couple months ago:

http://www.usnews.com/news/us/articles/2016-04-12/exclusive-boarding-schools-rocked-by-sex-scandals

So tell me why BS is this idyllic place where nothing bad ever happens and kids breath rarified air again? If I were a BS parent this would scare the sh*t out of me.

Not loving some of these things that came to light, either. Child porn? No thanks:

http://www.ranker.com/list/boarding-school-scandals/mike-rothschild?var=6&utm_expid=16418821-195.m5pTRuP7RgatBsyg5czXEw.5&utm_referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2F

[Anonymous]

TJ or Prep School, I think we can all agree that Restless Virgins was pretty bad even for a lifetime movie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teenagers should be at home for developmental reasons unless the family situation is dysfunctional. They need guidance. Support and a chance to separate in a more natural way than BS. I wNt to BS because of divorce. The social interactions with parents for most kids were not normal

I used to think this too, but then I started working at a boarding and day school. Most of the boarders were typical kids who just wanted a different experience for high school. I don't think this school is on the same academic level as TJ, but one could definitely get a top notch education there. I think comparing TJ to boarding school is difficult because they are so different. Honestly, if you are considering both, move beyond the prestige label, think about what each school offers and how that benefits your DC.

Also totally off-topic, but before moving to DC, my only knowledge of TJ came from that discrimination suit that girl filed against the Silicon Valley entrepreneur who was ten years older than she was, but she was having a relationship with him? So I guess that goes to show TJ grads can do weird things too.

At Stanford?

Speaking of Stanford, here is something BS parents cannot say. TJ is the ONLY school in the United States that produced a student who was admitted to Harvard and Stanford at the same time.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/15/476545.page

Harvard and Stanford made a special and first time program (just for her!!) where she gets to study at both places roughly 50-50 and she gets to choose which school should have the honor of granting her the degree after 4 years. That was what was the big deal since she claims both schools came up with this special unprecedented program just for her because they both wanted her to attend their school so much.

Except... It was all lies.

I am sure she is not the only one. She's the only one who got caught.

Was she able to graduate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hesitant to weigh in here since this thread has devolved, but I haven't seen anyone mention the actual value and benefits of the BS education. I went from a top public high school, all AP classes, to Andover and the difference was astounding - not just the grade level/difficulty but the enthusiasm and depth. Reading Shakespeare outside with a class of 12 on a beautiful New England spring day is memorable to me even with my 25th reunion coming up. Yes I got into HYP, and I found it a lot easier than my roommates who had not gone to prep school because I had already experienced a soul-crushing amount of homework at Andover, but the depth of study and the way we were pushed to learn and explore and think, not just study and memorize, was remarkable. My kids are in elementary school still but I have them at a progressive school in the hopes that they will learn to love learning, not just learn how to learn.

How does experiencing a soul-crushing amount of homework teach one to learn to love learning?

Hey, she got int HYP. Now she can teach her kids to have a love for learning.

Progressive school = not soul crushing at all. I looked at sidwell and other "top" schools and didn't even apply because I think they should first learn the joy of learning before they get pushed into overdrive, whether that happens in HS or college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the kids at the top boarding schools have a lot less pressure because they all have a safety net.
Most if the kids from TJ will have to make it on their own.

+ and family connections.

TJ kids maybe as capable as BS kids but TJ parents cannot provide the same level of support BS parents can.

You win. You're better than us just as capable but not old money upper middle class families.

the game was lost before you started... before you got married, before you had your kid. you just didn't know it.

That's it. This Republican has officially decided to turn Democrat.

? You think one's better than the other?

Not to mention that there are way more Democrats at those "too tier" boarding schools than Republicans. What do you think the liberal elite is all about?