I'm a stripper. AMA.

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Anonymous wrote:A while back, I asked the original poster if she had even considered being a webcam girl and didn't get an answer.

I thought it was a reason able question. They can work from a studio or home, so it would be safer. They can make a ton of money, depending upon what they are willing to do and how many hours they are willing to work.

They can set their own hours.

Webcam girls come in all shapes, sizes, and ages. Many much older than the OP are doing quite well.

Countries, and areas within a country can be blocked, to keep people that you don't want to know what you are doing from finding out online. Seems like it would be easier to protect your identity than if stripping in a club.

Also, there are webcam girls that dance and make good money while probably showing less skin than OP does.

Sorry I overlooked that question.

No, I'm not interested in becoming a webcam girl. I don't even know what that is, but I imagine it would involve my computer and my home. So...not interested.

Why do you have such a high opinion of yourself?

Why shouldn't she? And what does that have to do with webcam stripping versus strip club stripping?

Her whole attitude is "I am above prostitution" "I am above using my home" "I don't want to see erect penises"

So you think op shouldn't have a right to set boundaries?

She takes her clothes off for strangers for money, having boundaries at this point is kinda ridiculous

So you would feel exactly the same if your husband looked at someone else's naked breasts as if he had intercourse with a prostitute?

Looking for a second? no. Paying someone for it? hell yes

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Anonymous wrote:A while back, I asked the original poster if she had even considered being a webcam girl and didn't get an answer.

I thought it was a reason able question. They can work from a studio or home, so it would be safer. They can make a ton of money, depending upon what they are willing to do and how many hours they are willing to work.

They can set their own hours.

Webcam girls come in all shapes, sizes, and ages. Many much older than the OP are doing quite well.

Countries, and areas within a country can be blocked, to keep people that you don't want to know what you are doing from finding out online. Seems like it would be easier to protect your identity than if stripping in a club.

Also, there are webcam girls that dance and make good money while probably showing less skin than OP does.

Sorry I overlooked that question.

No, I'm not interested in becoming a webcam girl. I don't even know what that is, but I imagine it would involve my computer and my home. So...not interested.

Why do you have such a high opinion of yourself?

Why shouldn't she? And what does that have to do with webcam stripping versus strip club stripping?

Her whole attitude is "I am above prostitution" "I am above using my home" "I don't want to see erect penises"

So you think op shouldn't have a right to set boundaries?

She takes her clothes off for strangers for money, having boundaries at this point is vital and empowering to her.

Fixed that for you!

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Anonymous wrote:A while back, I asked the original poster if she had even considered being a webcam girl and didn't get an answer.

I thought it was a reason able question. They can work from a studio or home, so it would be safer. They can make a ton of money, depending upon what they are willing to do and how many hours they are willing to work.

They can set their own hours.

Webcam girls come in all shapes, sizes, and ages. Many much older than the OP are doing quite well.

Countries, and areas within a country can be blocked, to keep people that you don't want to know what you are doing from finding out online. Seems like it would be easier to protect your identity than if stripping in a club.

Also, there are webcam girls that dance and make good money while probably showing less skin than OP does.

Sorry I overlooked that question.

No, I'm not interested in becoming a webcam girl. I don't even know what that is, but I imagine it would involve my computer and my home. So...not interested.

Why do you have such a high opinion of yourself?

Why shouldn't she? And what does that have to do with webcam stripping versus strip club stripping?

Her whole attitude is "I am above prostitution" "I am above using my home" "I don't want to see erect penises"

So you think op shouldn't have a right to set boundaries?

She takes her clothes off for strangers for money, having boundaries at this point is vital and empowering to her.

Fixed that for you!

How is it empowering? She shows men her naked body, but won't have sex with them. Excellent boundary there.

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Anonymous wrote:A while back, I asked the original poster if she had even considered being a webcam girl and didn't get an answer.

I thought it was a reason able question. They can work from a studio or home, so it would be safer. They can make a ton of money, depending upon what they are willing to do and how many hours they are willing to work.

They can set their own hours.

Webcam girls come in all shapes, sizes, and ages. Many much older than the OP are doing quite well.

Countries, and areas within a country can be blocked, to keep people that you don't want to know what you are doing from finding out online. Seems like it would be easier to protect your identity than if stripping in a club.

Also, there are webcam girls that dance and make good money while probably showing less skin than OP does.

Sorry I overlooked that question.

No, I'm not interested in becoming a webcam girl. I don't even know what that is, but I imagine it would involve my computer and my home. So...not interested.

Why do you have such a high opinion of yourself?

Why shouldn't she? And what does that have to do with webcam stripping versus strip club stripping?

Her whole attitude is "I am above prostitution" "I am above using my home" "I don't want to see erect penises"

So you think op shouldn't have a right to set boundaries?

She takes her clothes off for strangers for money, having boundaries at this point is vital and empowering to her.

Fixed that for you!

How is it empowering? She shows men her naked body, but won't have sex with them. Excellent boundary there.

So, by your logic, either there is no difference between being naked in front of members of the opposite or if a woman shows her naked body to a man then she's pretty much obligated to have sex with him. On the latter, is that a sliding scale where burqa means no sex at all, normal western clothing means some light touching, a one-piece swim suit means the guy gets to cop a feel, a bikini means he gets a BJ and full nude means he gets sex?

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Anonymous wrote:A while back, I asked the original poster if she had even considered being a webcam girl and didn't get an answer.

I thought it was a reason able question. They can work from a studio or home, so it would be safer. They can make a ton of money, depending upon what they are willing to do and how many hours they are willing to work.

They can set their own hours.

Webcam girls come in all shapes, sizes, and ages. Many much older than the OP are doing quite well.

Countries, and areas within a country can be blocked, to keep people that you don't want to know what you are doing from finding out online. Seems like it would be easier to protect your identity than if stripping in a club.

Also, there are webcam girls that dance and make good money while probably showing less skin than OP does.

Sorry I overlooked that question.

No, I'm not interested in becoming a webcam girl. I don't even know what that is, but I imagine it would involve my computer and my home. So...not interested.

Why do you have such a high opinion of yourself?

Why shouldn't she? And what does that have to do with webcam stripping versus strip club stripping?

Her whole attitude is "I am above prostitution" "I am above using my home" "I don't want to see erect penises"

So you think op shouldn't have a right to set boundaries?

She takes her clothes off for strangers for money, having boundaries at this point is vital and empowering to her.

Fixed that for you!

How is it empowering? She shows men her naked body, but won't have sex with them. Excellent boundary there.

Um, yeah, it is. How is it that you don't see that? The men coming in know those are the rules, she's reaffirming it in her stance and answers here, she's making money (more than a lot of us) by doing so. In my mind, as long as she's cool with it, that equals empowering and having boundaries.

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By saying she shouldn't have boundaries, you're insinuating she would deserve rape if it happened. Just take your train of thought to the finish. See where it ends up? OP is a human, she's allowed to set boundaries over who, where, when and why anyone sees or touches her.

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Anonymous wrote:By saying she shouldn't have boundaries, you're insinuating she would deserve rape if it happened. Just take your train of thought to the finish. See where it ends up? OP is a human, she's allowed to set boundaries over who, where, when and why anyone sees or touches her.

It baffles anyone's (logical) mind that that's not inherently obvious, but nice point.

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Anonymous wrote:By saying she shouldn't have boundaries, you're insinuating she would deserve rape if it happened. Just take your train of thought to the finish. See where it ends up? OP is a human, she's allowed to set boundaries over who, where, when and why anyone sees or touches her.

It baffles anyone's (logical) mind that that's not inherently obvious, but nice point.

Same logic that says wearing a tight sweater or short skirt is asking to me raped.

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Anonymous wrote:A while back, I asked the original poster if she had even considered being a webcam girl and didn't get an answer.

I thought it was a reason able question. They can work from a studio or home, so it would be safer. They can make a ton of money, depending upon what they are willing to do and how many hours they are willing to work.

They can set their own hours.

Webcam girls come in all shapes, sizes, and ages. Many much older than the OP are doing quite well.

Countries, and areas within a country can be blocked, to keep people that you don't want to know what you are doing from finding out online. Seems like it would be easier to protect your identity than if stripping in a club.

Also, there are webcam girls that dance and make good money while probably showing less skin than OP does.

Sorry I overlooked that question.

No, I'm not interested in becoming a webcam girl. I don't even know what that is, but I imagine it would involve my computer and my home. So...not interested.

Why do you have such a high opinion of yourself?

Why shouldn't she? And what does that have to do with webcam stripping versus strip club stripping?

Her whole attitude is "I am above prostitution" "I am above using my home" "I don't want to see erect penises"

So you think op shouldn't have a right to set boundaries?

She takes her clothes off for strangers for money, having boundaries at this point is vital and empowering to her.

Fixed that for you!

How is it empowering? She shows men her naked body, but won't have sex with them. Excellent boundary there.

Um, yeah, it is. How is it that you don't see that? The men coming in know those are the rules, she's reaffirming it in her stance and answers here, she's making money (more than a lot of us) by doing so. In my mind, as long as she's cool with it, that equals empowering and having boundaries.

Would you encourage your dd to do it?

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OP here. I see there's a poster who doesn't think I have the right to set boundaries - it's that mentality that leads to the rape and killing of women. Very upsetting. You win PP!

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Anonymous wrote:I know you don't do it, but can you give us any advice on how one of us may succeed in hooking up with a stripper? Is there a particular technique that could result in getting a stripper to join a client in a hotel after work? Any insight is appreciated.

Most women I work with do not/ would not date the men who come in. Sorry, I don't have any advice for you.

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Anonymous wrote:Great AMA! OP, did you and your husband have a sit down to make the decision to go for this? I am wondering how it came about and also what the first few weeks were like for you. Thanks!

Thanks!

We did. I job hunted for nearly a year months - and landed a few promising interviews - before I came to the sad realization that I just wasn't going to find a job that was both flexible and paid enough to be worth it (to cover the cost of childcare). Stripping was something I'd always been curious about, and I asked my husband if he'd be okay with my going to an amateur night (many clubs have these as a means to recruit new dancers) - he was.

I felt ambivalent and nervous as hell at first, but I walked away from that experience the first night feeling empowered and alive in a new way. Maybe it was the addict in me responding to something, but it was a really, really good feeling. My husband and I talked about it at length, really explored the implications and various possibilities that come along with doing this job, and I decided to try it - knowing, of course, that I could quit at anytime.

The first few weeks (months, really) presented a huge learning curve. It's easy to dismiss stripping and strippers as your "last resort" type of work (like waitressing) but there really is a lot to learn. About self-presentation (and self-preservation - it's easy to get f*cked in the head doing this job), sales (all the job really is), and ultimately about human nature. It has a very dark side, undeniably so. But I value these experiences.

I am curious to know if stripping has changed your sex-life at home? Are you more open, daring, kinky? Or are you more reserved with DH, because you do not want him to think that your moves are something you are absorbing from your work life?

If your DH and you are cool with it, more power to you! I think we may have become as a society less liable to become shocked with nudity, thanks to celebrities like the Kardashians, Miley Cyrus, and the nude photo hacking of hollywood A listers like JLaw.

My sex life hasn't really changed as a result of my job. I'm tired, which gets in the way, but I think this is common for many mothers of small children!

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OP here - thank you all for defending me against the creepy, misogynistic troll!

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Anonymous wrote:I say good for you, OP. Unlike me who is getting fat and unhealthy sitting at a desk job all day, you are getting paid AND getting a work out! And spending the time you want with your child. I envy you.

Yes, I would never have the self confidence to do what you do*, and I definitely don't have the breasts (unless you like your nipples at navel level). Speaking of which, are most of your coworkers' bodies natural, or is breast augmentation common among strippers?

*I am talking both about stripping AND about setting up an AMA about it-- brave woman!

Thank you! I'd say about half of the women I work with have implants - and I think it's good for business! I'm natural, myself. But I do find myself wondering about getting them done. Another reason I'm glad this job (for me) has a shelf life!

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I see there's a poster who doesn't think I have the right to set boundaries - it's that mentality that leads to the rape and killing of women. Very upsetting. You win PP!

The point is that she's selling her self/body for money which really makes her no better than a hooker. It's all a part of the same industry:sex.

And stop the madness. There is nothing empowering to women about a woman who takes her clothes off for male enjoyment, as if she's a zoo animal.

An empowered female would draw the line at selling her body for a dollar.

If she was so empowered there would be no shame or secrecy in her actions.

Needing to have someone walk you to your car at the end of the night because your profession is wrought with so much strife is NOT empowering. Clearly it's harmful, scary and unsafe.

Spin all you'd like sister.