It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like it’s all part of this weirdness.

https://www.vanityfair.com/style/story/ballerina-farm-jd-vance-babies

Sounds good on paper but leads to heartache for a lot of women. It’s becoming a status symbol to have tons of kids. To do that you need to start earlier.

Often to have kids at all you need to start earlier. Many of my girlfriends discovered they were infertile in their mid 30s. Or they have one and couldn’t have another.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's funny that old people think that women shouldn't get married until after 30, so controlling

I think my kids should get married whenever they feel like they’ve met someone they want to marry. If that’s at 22, so be it. But I’m getting the sense that the posters who are most supportive of young marriages are the controlling ones. These are the parents who have carefully controlled their kids’ friendships since preschool, making sure they only ever mix with the “right” families. The marriage to the appropriate partner is essentially what they’ve been building up to.

I mean, this sounds “controlling” to you but it sounds smart to me? After a certain age we know that kids’ peers have more influence on them than their parents. Trying to make sure your kids interact with kids whose parents share your particular values just seems like common sense.

Of course I want my kid with an appropriate partner- don’t you?? I mean, be honest with yourself, would you be happy to be mother of the bride at Lana del Ray’s bayou wedding? I would not.

Can you all conceive of real relationships without comparing to celebrities?

And it doesn’t just sound controlling, it is controlling. I trust my kids to figure what an appropriate partner means to them. Just as both my parents and my IL’s did for my husband and me. If our parents had exerted any kind of control on the type of people we married, we probably would have ended up with very different people, and we would have been miserable.

+1

TikTok isn’t real life.

“ Trying to make sure your kids interact with kids whose parents share your particular values ” is straight up creepy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's funny that old people think that women shouldn't get married until after 30, so controlling

I think my kids should get married whenever they feel like they’ve met someone they want to marry. If that’s at 22, so be it. But I’m getting the sense that the posters who are most supportive of young marriages are the controlling ones. These are the parents who have carefully controlled their kids’ friendships since preschool, making sure they only ever mix with the “right” families. The marriage to the appropriate partner is essentially what they’ve been building up to.

I mean, this sounds “controlling” to you but it sounds smart to me? After a certain age we know that kids’ peers have more influence on them than their parents. Trying to make sure your kids interact with kids whose parents share your particular values just seems like common sense.

Of course I want my kid with an appropriate partner- don’t you?? I mean, be honest with yourself, would you be happy to be mother of the bride at Lana del Ray’s bayou wedding? I would not.

Can you all conceive of real relationships without comparing to celebrities?

And it doesn’t just sound controlling, it is controlling. I trust my kids to figure what an appropriate partner means to them. Just as both my parents and my IL’s did for my husband and me. If our parents had exerted any kind of control on the type of people we married, we probably would have ended up with very different people, and we would have been miserable.

Celebrities and rich influencers are the Generation Z trendsetters. Trends spread like wildfire on TikTok and Instagram. Millie, Sophia Ritchie, and Joey King have over 100 million followers. If you don’t think young people are influenced when they see these gorgeous weddings and the young rich wife/mom aesthetic you are in denial. The wisest college kids are dating to marry and are repelled at the idea of being unmarried and childless at 30 — or using an app to meet a husband.

Fine, but if you seriously think this type of influence is a solid foundation for a healthy long-term relationship, then you too are in serious denial.

[Anonymous]

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Tiktok isn’t real life.

Actually, it is when it comes to journalism and doing the job CNN won't

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's funny that old people think that women shouldn't get married until after 30, so controlling

I think my kids should get married whenever they feel like they’ve met someone they want to marry. If that’s at 22, so be it. But I’m getting the sense that the posters who are most supportive of young marriages are the controlling ones. These are the parents who have carefully controlled their kids’ friendships since preschool, making sure they only ever mix with the “right” families. The marriage to the appropriate partner is essentially what they’ve been building up to.

I mean, this sounds “controlling” to you but it sounds smart to me? After a certain age we know that kids’ peers have more influence on them than their parents. Trying to make sure your kids interact with kids whose parents share your particular values just seems like common sense.

Of course I want my kid with an appropriate partner- don’t you?? I mean, be honest with yourself, would you be happy to be mother of the bride at Lana del Ray’s bayou wedding? I would not.

Can you all conceive of real relationships without comparing to celebrities?

And it doesn’t just sound controlling, it is controlling. I trust my kids to figure what an appropriate partner means to them. Just as both my parents and my IL’s did for my husband and me. If our parents had exerted any kind of control on the type of people we married, we probably would have ended up with very different people, and we would have been miserable.

+1

TikTok isn’t real life.

“ Trying to make sure your kids interact with kids whose parents share your particular values ” is straight up creepy.

Why so aggressive?! I’m just “nudging” them, not “controlling” them!!

/s

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's funny that old people think that women shouldn't get married until after 30, so controlling

I think my kids should get married whenever they feel like they’ve met someone they want to marry. If that’s at 22, so be it. But I’m getting the sense that the posters who are most supportive of young marriages are the controlling ones. These are the parents who have carefully controlled their kids’ friendships since preschool, making sure they only ever mix with the “right” families. The marriage to the appropriate partner is essentially what they’ve been building up to.

No. It's more like wisdom. The pickings are really slim after 30 if you aren't already coupled. That's just reality.

Maybe in weirdo Bible land there are only so many people from “the right families”. But in normal, cosmopolitan areas there are plenty of great people looking to settle down after they are established.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I bet all these young folks divorce. No one has the tenacity for marriage anymore. People put their own “journey” before the hardcore commitment a marriage takes. Everyone is so opinionated and sure of themselves. Let’s see these marriages in a decade. There is no residency in this generation.

Only a damaged, bitter, and jaded person sees beautiful wedding photos of a gorgeous young couple and impulsively predicts (let’s be honest, you hope for) a divorce. I honestly feel sorry for you and anyone else spamming similar. You’re projecting your own baggage onto these madly in love and glowing young people.

I’m being real. You should, too.


The divorce rate is already 55%. And with Me Too and women not taking any perceived sht anymore from men, obsessive “self-care”, young people’s obsession with mental health and proudly wearing their anxiety on their sleeve, and just normal trends, we’re going to see many of these young marriages fail. I’m sorry you can’t handle reality.

[Anonymous]

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Tiktok isn’t real life.

Actually, it is when it comes to journalism and doing the job CNN won't

No. TikTok is not real life.

How old are you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's funny that old people think that women shouldn't get married until after 30, so controlling

I think my kids should get married whenever they feel like they’ve met someone they want to marry. If that’s at 22, so be it. But I’m getting the sense that the posters who are most supportive of young marriages are the controlling ones. These are the parents who have carefully controlled their kids’ friendships since preschool, making sure they only ever mix with the “right” families. The marriage to the appropriate partner is essentially what they’ve been building up to.

I mean, this sounds “controlling” to you but it sounds smart to me? After a certain age we know that kids’ peers have more influence on them than their parents. Trying to make sure your kids interact with kids whose parents share your particular values just seems like common sense.

Of course I want my kid with an appropriate partner- don’t you?? I mean, be honest with yourself, would you be happy to be mother of the bride at Lana del Ray’s bayou wedding? I would not.

Can you all conceive of real relationships without comparing to celebrities?

And it doesn’t just sound controlling, it is controlling. I trust my kids to figure what an appropriate partner means to them. Just as both my parents and my IL’s did for my husband and me. If our parents had exerted any kind of control on the type of people we married, we probably would have ended up with very different people, and we would have been miserable.

Celebrities and rich influencers are the Generation Z trendsetters. Trends spread like wildfire on TikTok and Instagram. Millie, Sophia Ritchie, and Joey King have over 100 million followers. If you don’t think young people are influenced when they see these gorgeous weddings and the young rich wife/mom aesthetic you are in denial. The wisest college kids are dating to marry and are repelled at the idea of being unmarried and childless at 30 — or using an app to meet a husband.

No, the wisest college kids are there for academic and professional pursuits. MS not MRS.

I’m not sure why you believe finding a good partner would negate this somehow. My smartest classmates did.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's funny that old people think that women shouldn't get married until after 30, so controlling

I think my kids should get married whenever they feel like they’ve met someone they want to marry. If that’s at 22, so be it. But I’m getting the sense that the posters who are most supportive of young marriages are the controlling ones. These are the parents who have carefully controlled their kids’ friendships since preschool, making sure they only ever mix with the “right” families. The marriage to the appropriate partner is essentially what they’ve been building up to.

I mean, this sounds “controlling” to you but it sounds smart to me? After a certain age we know that kids’ peers have more influence on them than their parents. Trying to make sure your kids interact with kids whose parents share your particular values just seems like common sense.

Of course I want my kid with an appropriate partner- don’t you?? I mean, be honest with yourself, would you be happy to be mother of the bride at Lana del Ray’s bayou wedding? I would not.

Can you all conceive of real relationships without comparing to celebrities?

And it doesn’t just sound controlling, it is controlling. I trust my kids to figure what an appropriate partner means to them. Just as both my parents and my IL’s did for my husband and me. If our parents had exerted any kind of control on the type of people we married, we probably would have ended up with very different people, and we would have been miserable.

Celebrities and rich influencers are the Generation Z trendsetters. Trends spread like wildfire on TikTok and Instagram. Millie, Sophia Ritchie, and Joey King have over 100 million followers. If you don’t think young people are influenced when they see these gorgeous weddings and the young rich wife/mom aesthetic you are in denial. The wisest college kids are dating to marry and are repelled at the idea of being unmarried and childless at 30 — or using an app to meet a husband.

No, the wisest college kids are there for academic and professional pursuits. MS not MRS.

They’re ambitious overachievers. They are doing both. Our 23 year old niece is at a top 10 law school and is engaged to be married next summer to a boy she met in undergrad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Tiktok isn’t real life.

Actually, it is when it comes to journalism and doing the job CNN won't

No. TikTok is not real life.

How old are you?

TikTok is only for the dumbest people in America.

Seriously, you are an idiot if you visit TikTok in 2024.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Tiktok isn’t real life.

Actually, it is when it comes to journalism and doing the job CNN won't

No. TikTok is not real life.

How old are you?

TikTok is only for the dumbest people in America.

Seriously, you are an idiot if you visit TikTok in 2024.

+1

Dumbest of the dumb.

[Anonymous]

Reality flash to all these folks who are going in to debt in a bad job market to have a perfect tik tok wedding, y’all, first of all, should wait until you’re 30 at the youngest to get married and secondly hold the wedding at an Outback Steakhouse and invest the actual $25k or whatever expensive amount it would have cost and invest it in UPRO and TMF during a market downturn. You’ll be millionaires in 20 years, have less debt and generally smarter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:waiting until you are 40 to have kids, college graduation picture!

No
Mommy was a girl boss who waited 15 years to have kids because she was too busy with zoom meetings, emails, PowerPoints, spreadsheets, drunken happy hours and earning airline status.

I’ll take spreadsheets and frequent flyer miles over Gilead. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Have at it, Gen Z and parents. Everything old is new again. They can know the "problem with no name" like my mom and other post-WWII era SAHMs did. Oh, and tell them to read Fascinating Womanhood, also on many mothers' bookshelves.