It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again

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Anonymous wrote:It's funny that old people think that women shouldn't get married until after 30, so controlling

I think my kids should get married whenever they feel like they’ve met someone they want to marry. If that’s at 22, so be it. But I’m getting the sense that the posters who are most supportive of young marriages are the controlling ones. These are the parents who have carefully controlled their kids’ friendships since preschool, making sure they only ever mix with the “right” families. The marriage to the appropriate partner is essentially what they’ve been building up to.

No. It's more like wisdom. The pickings are really slim after 30 if you aren't already coupled. That's just reality.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

Yes, instead they should marry that schmuck when they're 22.

Newsflash but if more people are getting married earlier (which, for the record, the only evidence of on this thread is MBB marrying a Bon Jovi) then that means that some of those 30-something schmucks are joining the early 20s marriage pool. Because it's not like more better guys are appearing out of thin air at age 22. So people are just marrying the same dud men, at earlier ages when they are even more immature and useless than their 30 year old self (who at least knows how to use the dishwasher and w/d).

And for the record! I met DH when i was in college, him in grad school and I married at 26. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with it, but i do think having some kind of agenda at age 22 to find marriage material is bizarre.

Of course people would be far better off marrying the same person they settled for in their 30s five or ten years sooner. You’d have ten years of equity in your house, your kids would be in elementary school, you’d be closer to retirement, you’d be healthier. You wouldn’t have all that trauma and baggage from failed relationships in your 20s.

I hate to break it to you, but that’s not how most people view their 20s. Most of us were having a blast. No “trauma”. And just because a relationship doesn’t end in marriage doesn’t mean it “failed”. I enjoyed my relationships in college and early 20s (still friends with some) but I’m so glad I didn’t marry them. You don’t have to settle for the first guys you meet because you’re desperate to get married.

NP but I got married in my early 20’s to my first boyfriend (dated since we were 18). Not because I was desperate to get married, but because I loved him and wanted to marry him and wasn’t interested in seeing if maybe the grass might be greener somewhere else. I believe he felt the same way.

We still managed to have a blast in our 20’s - we just did it together. We’ve been together for over 20 years now and we have learned how to be adults and how to be parents together. No regrets.

That seems ideal to me. I wonder what the agenda is from these posters who insist that people have to wait until their 30s/40s to settle down and start a family?

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Anonymous wrote:It's funny that old people think that women shouldn't get married until after 30, so controlling

I think my kids should get married whenever they feel like they’ve met someone they want to marry. If that’s at 22, so be it. But I’m getting the sense that the posters who are most supportive of young marriages are the controlling ones. These are the parents who have carefully controlled their kids’ friendships since preschool, making sure they only ever mix with the “right” families. The marriage to the appropriate partner is essentially what they’ve been building up to.

I mean, this sounds “controlling” to you but it sounds smart to me? After a certain age we know that kids’ peers have more influence on them than their parents. Trying to make sure your kids interact with kids whose parents share your particular values just seems like common sense.

Of course I want my kid with an appropriate partner- don’t you?? I mean, be honest with yourself, would you be happy to be mother of the bride at Lana del Ray’s bayou wedding? I would not.

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Anonymous wrote:It's funny that old people think that women shouldn't get married until after 30, so controlling

I think my kids should get married whenever they feel like they’ve met someone they want to marry. If that’s at 22, so be it. But I’m getting the sense that the posters who are most supportive of young marriages are the controlling ones. These are the parents who have carefully controlled their kids’ friendships since preschool, making sure they only ever mix with the “right” families. The marriage to the appropriate partner is essentially what they’ve been building up to.

I mean, this sounds “controlling” to you but it sounds smart to me? After a certain age we know that kids’ peers have more influence on them than their parents. Trying to make sure your kids interact with kids whose parents share your particular values just seems like common sense.

Of course I want my kid with an appropriate partner- don’t you?? I mean, be honest with yourself, would you be happy to be mother of the bride at Lana del Ray’s bayou wedding? I would not.

Can you all conceive of real relationships without comparing to celebrities?

And it doesn’t just sound controlling, it is controlling. I trust my kids to figure what an appropriate partner means to them. Just as both my parents and my IL’s did for my husband and me. If our parents had exerted any kind of control on the type of people we married, we probably would have ended up with very different people, and we would have been miserable.

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I bet all these young folks divorce. No one has the tenacity for marriage anymore. People put their own “journey” before the hardcore commitment a marriage takes. Everyone is so opinionated and sure of themselves. Let’s see these marriages in a decade. There is no residency in this generation.

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Resiliency.

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I feel like it’s all part of this weirdness.

https://www.vanityfair.com/style/story/ballerina-farm-jd-vance-babies

Sounds good on paper but leads to heartache for a lot of women. It’s becoming a status symbol to have tons of kids. To do that you need to start earlier.

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Anonymous wrote:It's funny that old people think that women shouldn't get married until after 30, so controlling

I think my kids should get married whenever they feel like they’ve met someone they want to marry. If that’s at 22, so be it. But I’m getting the sense that the posters who are most supportive of young marriages are the controlling ones. These are the parents who have carefully controlled their kids’ friendships since preschool, making sure they only ever mix with the “right” families. The marriage to the appropriate partner is essentially what they’ve been building up to.

I mean, this sounds “controlling” to you but it sounds smart to me? After a certain age we know that kids’ peers have more influence on them than their parents. Trying to make sure your kids interact with kids whose parents share your particular values just seems like common sense.

Of course I want my kid with an appropriate partner- don’t you?? I mean, be honest with yourself, would you be happy to be mother of the bride at Lana del Ray’s bayou wedding? I would not.

Can you all conceive of real relationships without comparing to celebrities?

And it doesn’t just sound controlling, it is controlling. I trust my kids to figure what an appropriate partner means to them. Just as both my parents and my IL’s did for my husband and me. If our parents had exerted any kind of control on the type of people we married, we probably would have ended up with very different people, and we would have been miserable.

Why are you being so aggressive and rude? Where did I say I’m controlling who my kids MARRY? Nudging your kids towards other decent kids is VERY different from choosing who they marry. But those early friendships are very impactful in how kids learn about boundaries and appropriate behavior. And you bet I am talking to my kids even now about what kind of a partner they want in life and what red flags to run from.

The unnecessary aggression just makes you seem insecure and unhappy with your fabulous life choices.

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Anonymous wrote:I bet all these young folks divorce. No one has the tenacity for marriage anymore. People put their own “journey” before the hardcore commitment a marriage takes. Everyone is so opinionated and sure of themselves. Let’s see these marriages in a decade. There is no residency in this generation.

Only a damaged, bitter, and jaded person sees beautiful wedding photos of a gorgeous young couple and impulsively predicts (let’s be honest, you hope for) a divorce. I honestly feel sorry for you and anyone else spamming similar. You’re projecting your own baggage onto these madly in love and glowing young people.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

Yes, instead they should marry that schmuck when they're 22.

Newsflash but if more people are getting married earlier (which, for the record, the only evidence of on this thread is MBB marrying a Bon Jovi) then that means that some of those 30-something schmucks are joining the early 20s marriage pool. Because it's not like more better guys are appearing out of thin air at age 22. So people are just marrying the same dud men, at earlier ages when they are even more immature and useless than their 30 year old self (who at least knows how to use the dishwasher and w/d).

And for the record! I met DH when i was in college, him in grad school and I married at 26. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with it, but i do think having some kind of agenda at age 22 to find marriage material is bizarre.

Of course people would be far better off marrying the same person they settled for in their 30s five or ten years sooner. You’d have ten years of equity in your house, your kids would be in elementary school, you’d be closer to retirement, you’d be healthier. You wouldn’t have all that trauma and baggage from failed relationships in your 20s.

I hate to break it to you, but that’s not how most people view their 20s. Most of us were having a blast. No “trauma”. And just because a relationship doesn’t end in marriage doesn’t mean it “failed”. I enjoyed my relationships in college and early 20s (still friends with some) but I’m so glad I didn’t marry them. You don’t have to settle for the first guys you meet because you’re desperate to get married.

NP but I got married in my early 20’s to my first boyfriend (dated since we were 18). Not because I was desperate to get married, but because I loved him and wanted to marry him and wasn’t interested in seeing if maybe the grass might be greener somewhere else. I believe he felt the same way.

We still managed to have a blast in our 20’s - we just did it together. We’ve been together for over 20 years now and we have learned how to be adults and how to be parents together. No regrets.

That seems ideal to me. I wonder what the agenda is from these posters who insist that people have to wait until their 30s/40s to settle down and start a family?

The only one with an agenda is OP.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

BG, don’t forget about all of those horrid BRUNCHES.

Brunch is another one of those Gen X and millennial women scams. Marketed at lonely yuppy strivers to make day drinking your weekends away seem stylish. Also makes them unlikely to attend church or synagogue, in other words, Godless gluttony and hedonism. It’s a sad and unserious waste of life by people more than old enough and successful enough to have a baby and a husband. Weekends raising a baby are a bit more meaningful than overpriced carbs and booze.

My friends with babies all go to brunch on the weekends. So…

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Anonymous wrote:I bet all these young folks divorce. No one has the tenacity for marriage anymore. People put their own “journey” before the hardcore commitment a marriage takes. Everyone is so opinionated and sure of themselves. Let’s see these marriages in a decade. There is no residency in this generation.

Only a damaged, bitter, and jaded person sees beautiful wedding photos of a gorgeous young couple and impulsively predicts (let’s be honest, you hope for) a divorce. I honestly feel sorry for you and anyone else spamming similar. You’re projecting your own baggage onto these madly in love and glowing young people.

PP was talking about the age of the couple, not wedding photos. “Madly in love”? “glowing”? Those aren’t what make a happy marriage. And you certainly can’t tell anything from a photo. Maybe if you weren’t so fixated on appearances you’d understand that.

Tiktok isn’t real life.

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Anonymous wrote:It's funny that old people think that women shouldn't get married until after 30, so controlling

I think my kids should get married whenever they feel like they’ve met someone they want to marry. If that’s at 22, so be it. But I’m getting the sense that the posters who are most supportive of young marriages are the controlling ones. These are the parents who have carefully controlled their kids’ friendships since preschool, making sure they only ever mix with the “right” families. The marriage to the appropriate partner is essentially what they’ve been building up to.

I mean, this sounds “controlling” to you but it sounds smart to me? After a certain age we know that kids’ peers have more influence on them than their parents. Trying to make sure your kids interact with kids whose parents share your particular values just seems like common sense.

Of course I want my kid with an appropriate partner- don’t you?? I mean, be honest with yourself, would you be happy to be mother of the bride at Lana del Ray’s bayou wedding? I would not.

Can you all conceive of real relationships without comparing to celebrities?

And it doesn’t just sound controlling, it is controlling. I trust my kids to figure what an appropriate partner means to them. Just as both my parents and my IL’s did for my husband and me. If our parents had exerted any kind of control on the type of people we married, we probably would have ended up with very different people, and we would have been miserable.

Celebrities and rich influencers are the Generation Z trendsetters. Trends spread like wildfire on TikTok and Instagram. Millie, Sophia Ritchie, and Joey King have over 100 million followers. If you don’t think young people are influenced when they see these gorgeous weddings and the young rich wife/mom aesthetic you are in denial. The wisest college kids are dating to marry and are repelled at the idea of being unmarried and childless at 30 — or using an app to meet a husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like it’s all part of this weirdness.

https://www.vanityfair.com/style/story/ballerina-farm-jd-vance-babies

Sounds good on paper but leads to heartache for a lot of women. It’s becoming a status symbol to have tons of kids. To do that you need to start earlier.

Gross. They see women as breeders to populate their misogynistic Gilead.

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Anonymous wrote:It's funny that old people think that women shouldn't get married until after 30, so controlling

I think my kids should get married whenever they feel like they’ve met someone they want to marry. If that’s at 22, so be it. But I’m getting the sense that the posters who are most supportive of young marriages are the controlling ones. These are the parents who have carefully controlled their kids’ friendships since preschool, making sure they only ever mix with the “right” families. The marriage to the appropriate partner is essentially what they’ve been building up to.

I mean, this sounds “controlling” to you but it sounds smart to me? After a certain age we know that kids’ peers have more influence on them than their parents. Trying to make sure your kids interact with kids whose parents share your particular values just seems like common sense.

Of course I want my kid with an appropriate partner- don’t you?? I mean, be honest with yourself, would you be happy to be mother of the bride at Lana del Ray’s bayou wedding? I would not.

Can you all conceive of real relationships without comparing to celebrities?

And it doesn’t just sound controlling, it is controlling. I trust my kids to figure what an appropriate partner means to them. Just as both my parents and my IL’s did for my husband and me. If our parents had exerted any kind of control on the type of people we married, we probably would have ended up with very different people, and we would have been miserable.

Celebrities and rich influencers are the Generation Z trendsetters. Trends spread like wildfire on TikTok and Instagram. Millie, Sophia Ritchie, and Joey King have over 100 million followers. If you don’t think young people are influenced when they see these gorgeous weddings and the young rich wife/mom aesthetic you are in denial. The wisest college kids are dating to marry and are repelled at the idea of being unmarried and childless at 30 — or using an app to meet a husband.

No, the wisest college kids are there for academic and professional pursuits. MS not MRS.