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Missing Manassas Park woman - Mamta Kafle Bhatt
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Anonymous
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From Nadia. Who is this “team”? Now she wants to use the money for a personal lawyer? That can’t be allowed.
I know I haven’t been saying very much. I have been trying not to worry my team, because I tend to say what I know is true without worrying about the ramifications. But I’m committed to the truth. Would you all be willing to help me find a lawyer? I can amend the gofundme to include those expenses. Anything I spend money on, you guys will know. I am committed to the truth and I won’t be muzzled by fear or potential “legal” ramifications. |
Anonymous
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If it weren’t for this girl making a big stink on social media and making this story go viral, the husband would have left the country with the baby.
Whether you like it or not, she actually made a difference. Mamta RIP |
Anonymous
| Probably needs a lawyer to try to get custody of the baby. Maybe knows things about the family. |
Anonymous
| Keep in mind she's under intense stress. Her best friend was murdered |
Anonymous
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She spent her own money printing flyers, probably taking time off from work. I would love to have a friend like her if I suddenly disappeared.
This case is very sad. |
Anonymous
Do we know if this woman really was her best friend? I get the feeling she was more of a casual friend. |
Anonymous
I think she was the closest thing she had to a best friend, and I think Mamata’s husband under estimated the friendship. He thought she had no one and that her disappearance would go unnoticed. |
Anonymous
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A post in another of the groups:
First of all, thank you, admin, for respecting everyone’s right to their opinion. Here’s mine. This is a long post, and I apologize for that—I'm just expressing all my pent-up feelings and opinions. So, there's this certain close friend of Mamta, whom we all know, who started the search campaign for her. I, along with many others, have been supporting her from the beginning, and I really respect her initiative. However, as time went by, the focus seemed to shift. I sense an entitlement from her (and her fan following), as if she believes she should have or adopt the baby (something she hinted at multiple times and even mentioned on the GoFundMe page, which has since been redacted). This is completely wrong! It’s not her decision to make, especially when there are laws in place and the baby has a living blood relative. In Nepali culture, we deeply value blood relations. No one else can love you more than your immediate family. Mamta and her mom used to call each other up to three times a day to share everything about the baby, which shows how much we value our family in our culture. I’m sorry, but the Western culture is so rooted in individualism that it may not grasp our strong family bonds. The way I, and many others, see it, this friend wasn’t as close to Mamta as it seems. She was paid to be the babysitter. Mamta did not share her situation with this friend. If Mamta confided in her about what she was going through, and the friend failed to help her, that’s concerning. She may have started the campaign out of guilt, as she didn’t pick up Mamta’s calls on July 28, and the next day, Mamta was gone. I completely understand this—we are all human. If I were in her place and my best friend had gone missing, I would do everything in my power to find her, and my mission would be just that. However, I wouldn’t try to take the baby away from the family. Sorry, but you just can’t be that selfish. We all need to put ourselves in Mamta’s shoes and think about what she would have wanted. I’m sure we can all agree that she would want her baby to learn the culture, religion, and traditions that Mamta believed in so deeply. As a Westerner, you simply cannot give this to the baby. Perhaps all of this would make sense to someone who already has kids and would want the best for their baby if they were no longer around. |
Anonymous
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I don’t care about wild goose chases, I care about inadvertently tampering with evidence and letting g this guy get off on a technicality. |
Anonymous
She did. But now she’s overstepping the bounds. She’s acting irresponsibly likely due to stress. |
Anonymous
| The baby should be with the maternal grandparents. And the money should go to them. This is the right thing to do. |
Anonymous
| A motion was filed and another hearing has been scheduled for 8/29, perhaps linked to the searches yesterday. |
Anonymous
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https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/a-timeline-of-the-investigation-into-the-missing-virginia-mother-whose-husband-is-now-accused-of-killing-her-in-their-home/ar-AA1plMrV?ocid=BingNewsSerp
Dude is a monster. Hope he goes away for life. |
Anonymous
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And this is Nadia’s latest post. Saving here in case she deletes it, she’s already preparing her side of the story so she can take away that baby or use that money for lawyers. Disgusting! I do not believe any of the things shes saying here. So she Nadia was the only one aware of all of this and everyone else is lying uhmm okay..
I have been extremely reluctant to make this post, and I know that the backlash from this post will be unlike backlash I have received before. Unfortunately, I am committed to the truth, regardless of how ugly it is. I do not gain anything from saying this, I may actually need a lawyer after this. I have gotten so many messages from women who are survivors of domestic abuse who resonate with Mamta. I know this page is about her, but it is also about domestic abuse. So many people don't understand how domestic abuse can arise, and I feel that I have the platform to warn others. Domestic abuse thrives off shaming victims into silence. Their tactics include blame shifting, gaslighting, and manipulation. Today, I am not going to be silenced. I am going to say her truth, come what may, because I love her, and I love women. -Mamta's parents knew Naresh's family. They arranged for them to meet. There was no way for Mamta to meet him otherwise, as he already lived in the United States. Mamta did feel a connection to Naresh, and she agreed to the arrangement. She had never dated any man prior to this. She was committed to being the perfect daughter and wife. - The abuse Mamta faced was not a secret. Not only did Naresh abuse her, but his mother also abused Mamta. In an interview, family members described how she was starved by both Naresh and his mother after she had her baby. In one instance, Naresh tripped in the bathroom and Mamta made a snide remark in Nepali (something along the lines of, well done). Both Naresh and his mother, Prabatti Bhatt, beat Mamta until she was black and blue. -Unfortunately, Mamta's family was well aware of her situation. Friends were also aware. She was not provided with the support she needed to leave. Her family is now deleting evidence of the fact that they were aware, and in their most recent interview they are claiming that Mamta did not have an arranged marriage and that they were not aware of the abuse she faced. I am not sure why they are changing their story, all I know is that they are. I am not going to publicly speculate, I'm just giving you the facts. -In February 2024, Mamta became so afraid that she did, in fact, call the police. However, upon looking at her husband's face she felt guilty of betraying him. So she lied to the police when they arrived. - Naresh kicked Mamta out of the house and completely drained their joint bank account. He canceled her phone plan and took her phone. He left her with nothing. At this time she went to stay with a friend, who did not call the police. She did provide Mamta with a second cell phone and helped her create her own bank account. -Mamta did not have the familial or community support she needed. She tried to speak with a social worker, she tried to speak with community leaders (some have even gone on to publicly express that Naresh was not a suspect, if you remember). There is no record of Naresh having a violent history because everyone involved failed to report it. -Mamta began looking for help online. She wasn't aware of the resources available to her, and she was deeply trusting. She did not know what her rights were, and believed Naresh when he said that he could take away the baby's custody and give her up for adoption if she tried to leave him. -Naresh was also sexually abusing her. YOU have the right to make a report to the police when you are abused. Even if you don't want to press charges, having a documented police report can help you in the long run should you need to pursue legal action, including a restraining order or custody petition. Documenting the abuse is critical, even if you don't think it's important or are afraid. Furthermore, if you witness something, report it. It is far better to lose a friendship than to lose a friend. There are so many resources available to us, but we are not made aware. |
Anonymous
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I have a feeling that Mamta’s blood family may be abusive too. That’s why she so easily fell victim to her abusive husband. If she had family to lean on it wouldn’t have happened.
The child might actually be doing best if she is with that friend, not family (and in the U.S. and not Nepal). |