Was I married to a stranger? Even socialites get ghosted. Modern Love!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Belle Burden?
Is that a real name?

Amanda Burden's daughter?

Amanda Mortimer Burden has a daughter named Flobelle. Amanda,'s mother was Babe Paley and she married Carter Burden. Part of New York's Four hundred.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Two people in the same family wrote Modern Love pieces??

So, one brother had an affair and left his wife during COVID and the other brother has his his AP around his wife and kids. (I'm a little more open to the second scenario because of his wife's early Alzheimer's but I'm not sure I could do that. You never know, I suppose.)

Look, as sad as it is, there is no more wife - there is an empty shell of a person. In old times she would be gone years ago, it’s a miracle of modern advances that we keep those shells breathing and eating and doing things that come after eating.

I understand the man’s impossible position and I am trying not to judge… but the entire story just gave me the ick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Belle Burden?
Is that a real name?

Amanda Burden's daughter?

Amanda Mortimer Burden has a daughter named Flobelle. Amanda,'s mother was Babe Paley and she married Carter Burden. Part of New York's Four hundred.

Naomi Watts plays Babe Paley in Feud: Capote vs. The Swans on hulu now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Belle Burden?
Is that a real name?

Amanda Burden's daughter?

Amanda Mortimer Burden has a daughter named Flobelle. Amanda,'s mother was Babe Paley and she married Carter Burden. Part of New York's Four hundred.

Interesting because about 10 yrs ago another member of NY’s elite wrote a tell all about being left unexpectedly with young kids by her husband, similar to this letter in Modern Love. I think it was called It Happens Every Day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is the same family as the white people who jumped the broom. Now the broom jumping husband is in the NYT justifying having an affair because his wife has Alzheimer’s. “In sickness” unless you’re rich and your girlfriend is, too.
Selfish rich people.

Where did you see this? I am curious to read it.

Start a new thread. This one is about the NYT piece and the parties involved there.

For those who were interested like me, here's a gift link to the article. I think he is Belle's brother-in-law?
A Family Dinner With My Wife and Girlfriend https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/23/style/modern-love-alzheimers-family-dinner-with-my-wife-and-girlfriend.html?unlocked_article_code=1.YU0.Q1y8.nnBrKz8HdIaX&smid=nytcore-android-share

They married in 2002 when they were late 30s so they were only married a dozen years before she was diagnosed. I'd been picturing them getting married in their early 20s and having been married for decades. Either way, it's sad all around. Horribly sad to be diagnosed so young and have no recognition of your children. No judgment here on how the husband is handling it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Belle Burden?
Is that a real name?

Amanda Burden's daughter?

Amanda Mortimer Burden has a daughter named Flobelle. Amanda,'s mother was Babe Paley and she married Carter Burden. Part of New York's Four hundred.

Amanda Burden’s father was an heir to the Standard Oil fortune. The family is loaded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is the same family as the white people who jumped the broom. Now the broom jumping husband is in the NYT justifying having an affair because his wife has Alzheimer’s. “In sickness” unless you’re rich and your girlfriend is, too.
Selfish rich people.

Where did you see this? I am curious to read it.

Start a new thread. This one is about the NYT piece and the parties involved there.

For those who were interested like me, here's a gift link to the article. I think he is Belle's brother-in-law?
A Family Dinner With My Wife and Girlfriend https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/23/style/modern-love-alzheimers-family-dinner-with-my-wife-and-girlfriend.html?unlocked_article_code=1.YU0.Q1y8.nnBrKz8HdIaX&smid=nytcore-android-share

They married in 2002 when they were late 30s so they were only married a dozen years before she was diagnosed. I'd been picturing them getting married in their early 20s and having been married for decades. Either way, it's sad all around. Horribly sad to be diagnosed so young and have no recognition of your children. No judgment here on how the husband is handling it.

DP. I don’t judge him for having an affair. I judge him for bringing the AP to dinner with his kids before wife #1 is under ground.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is the same family as the white people who jumped the broom. Now the broom jumping husband is in the NYT justifying having an affair because his wife has Alzheimer’s. “In sickness” unless you’re rich and your girlfriend is, too.
Selfish rich people.

Where did you see this? I am curious to read it.

Start a new thread. This one is about the NYT piece and the parties involved there.

For those who were interested like me, here's a gift link to the article. I think he is Belle's brother-in-law?
A Family Dinner With My Wife and Girlfriend https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/23/style/modern-love-alzheimers-family-dinner-with-my-wife-and-girlfriend.html?unlocked_article_code=1.YU0.Q1y8.nnBrKz8HdIaX&smid=nytcore-android-share

They married in 2002 when they were late 30s so they were only married a dozen years before she was diagnosed. I'd been picturing them getting married in their early 20s and having been married for decades. Either way, it's sad all around. Horribly sad to be diagnosed so young and have no recognition of your children. No judgment here on how the husband is handling it.

DP. I don’t judge him for having an affair. I judge him for bringing the AP to dinner with his kids before wife #1 is under ground.

Huh. You are very rigid.
My husband has my blessing one hundred times over to move in a girlfriend in the event that I become intellectually incapacitated.

[Anonymous]

We aren't talking about toddlers. The kids are old enough that it would probably be worse if dad had the "affair" and didn't inform them of it. That strata of Manhattan is a small world and they would have found out from someone else. Much better that it is open, IMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is the same family as the white people who jumped the broom. Now the broom jumping husband is in the NYT justifying having an affair because his wife has Alzheimer’s. “In sickness” unless you’re rich and your girlfriend is, too.
Selfish rich people.

Where did you see this? I am curious to read it.

Start a new thread. This one is about the NYT piece and the parties involved there.

For those who were interested like me, here's a gift link to the article. I think he is Belle's brother-in-law?
A Family Dinner With My Wife and Girlfriend https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/23/style/modern-love-alzheimers-family-dinner-with-my-wife-and-girlfriend.html?unlocked_article_code=1.YU0.Q1y8.nnBrKz8HdIaX&smid=nytcore-android-share

They married in 2002 when they were late 30s so they were only married a dozen years before she was diagnosed. I'd been picturing them getting married in their early 20s and having been married for decades. Either way, it's sad all around. Horribly sad to be diagnosed so young and have no recognition of your children. No judgment here on how the husband is handling it.

DP. I don’t judge him for having an affair. I judge him for bringing the AP to dinner with his kids before wife #1 is under ground.

Huh. You are very rigid.
My husband has my blessing one hundred times over to move in a girlfriend in the event that I become intellectually incapacitated.

I wouldn’t want my husband to write a column about it, especially before I died. The indignity of Alzheimer’s is bad enough. Maybe that’s what is making me feel less than sympathetic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He left her and abandoned their kids-I’m not broken hearted abt his reputation being sullied.

He didn’t abandon the kids. Where are you getting that? One child is in college. Maybe the mom wanted full custody.

From the New York Times article this thread is about. Did you read it? Perhaps you should if you two are friends. His behavior and abandonment of his children is shameful and appalling. No future colleague of his will ever be in the dark about it either. Cold.

His law school buddies won’t care. But the easy access to her Vanderbilt connections she gave him is gone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is the same family as the white people who jumped the broom. Now the broom jumping husband is in the NYT justifying having an affair because his wife has Alzheimer’s. “In sickness” unless you’re rich and your girlfriend is, too.
Selfish rich people.

Where did you see this? I am curious to read it.

Start a new thread. This one is about the NYT piece and the parties involved there.

For those who were interested like me, here's a gift link to the article. I think he is Belle's brother-in-law?
A Family Dinner With My Wife and Girlfriend https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/23/style/modern-love-alzheimers-family-dinner-with-my-wife-and-girlfriend.html?unlocked_article_code=1.YU0.Q1y8.nnBrKz8HdIaX&smid=nytcore-android-share

They married in 2002 when they were late 30s so they were only married a dozen years before she was diagnosed. I'd been picturing them getting married in their early 20s and having been married for decades. Either way, it's sad all around. Horribly sad to be diagnosed so young and have no recognition of your children. No judgment here on how the husband is handling it.

DP. I don’t judge him for having an affair. I judge him for bringing the AP to dinner with his kids before wife #1 is under ground.

Huh. You are very rigid.
My husband has my blessing one hundred times over to move in a girlfriend in the event that I become intellectually incapacitated.

I wouldn’t want my husband to write a column about it, especially before I died. The indignity of Alzheimer’s is bad enough. Maybe that’s what is making me feel less than sympathetic.

I found the Alzheimer's piece extremely sympathetic. He cared for his wife for six+ years post-diagnosis before getting together with the GF and continues to do so. Early onset often progresses very fast; 6 years with it is a long time. She doesn't even recognize her kids. The fact that he has his wife's family's blessing is likely a testament to him continuing to treat his wife well.

[Anonymous]

Was Carter Burden gay?

[Anonymous]

Someone claiming to be an insider has posted that a woman in her early 20s regularly visits his apartment. Who knows if it's true, but it's plausible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone claiming to be an insider has posted that a woman in her early 20s regularly visits his apartment. Who knows if it's true, but it's plausible.

This is Henry Davis, ex-husband of Belle Burden, author of the Socialites get Ghosted piece.