I hate weekends b/c my husband is around but not much help! vent
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Sorry, just have to get it out... I HATE weekends!!! I SAH with a toddler. My husband does nothing around the house, almost literally. Not that there's a huge household to take care of, so I don't complain. the only thing I really want and need him to do is to take our toddler for a walk in the afternoon on Sat and Sun, to give me a couple hours to relax, do chores, run errands and what not. I just want to be ALONE, I don't mind cleaning etc in the meantime. And he routinely finds excuses NOT to do it. At first he swore he would do both morning and afternoon walks. then suddenly he is sooo tired and has to sleep in in the mornings. Fine. Then he is again sooo tired of not having days off without any chores (and who does have them??) and he wants Saturday to himself. This long weekend he "is not feeling well" so no Saturday walk again!! I am so freaking tired of it. On top of it, his lazy a** is on the couch, I am sick of overhearing his stupid movies he watches on his laptop, and of course when it is time for the toddler's nap he absolutely has to get up and start hovering around, of course the little guy runs out of his bedroom - dada! dada! Arrrgghhhh.
I know I am a lazy sucker b/c I even have a babysitter come in twice a week to watch the kid for a couple of hours, but...arrrghhh. |
Anonymous
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Oh, you're tired and don't feel up to going out? No problem! (Insert bright smile here) I am going to run out and do a couple of errands and get my nails done. You're right it is probably too hot for a walk this afternoon! I will see you in a couple hours. Jimmy started his nap at 1 and it is 2:30 now so he will probably be up in half an hour. There are cheerios and milk for his snack and I just broke open a new box of diapers. They are upstairs. Enjoy your afternoon! I will be home before dinner!
And then leave. And don't come back. And don't answer your cell phone. |
Anonymous
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OP, I have felt frustrated over the same thing many times in the past. I SAH and I have 2 little ones.
I did have several discussions with my husband about what my day is like 24/7, 7 days a week, with no break, because the weekends seem to be no different. I wrote down everything I do all the time and read it aloud and then I added, "while you lay on the couch all day because you are tired." I also recommend just leaving the house (for hours). Go to a book store, go window shop, get a pedi. There have been times when I just sat in the parking lot in my car and listened to music just to get some piece and quiet. Bottom line is, you need and deserve a break. You have to communicate your needs and be specific. Just sucking it up and running the rat race 24/7 is burning you out and making you a cranky mommy and wife. |
Anonymous
| I agree with the above posters about leaving the house. If it's in your budget, maybe try hiring a babysitter for a couple hours a day one or two days a week...maybe a college student that has a few free afternoons or something... |
Anonymous
Love it! Pure genius! 
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Anonymous
| Also, withhold sex. |
Anonymous
| what is up with these lazy husbands? Mine drives me crazy about a lot of things (controlling, bossy, messy, lacks self-awareness) and I definitely do a lot more cleaning/house stuff, but pretty much every weekend morning he is up at the ass crack of dawn with our toddler, taking him around and getting him exercise so I have some quiet time. Today he took both kids from 1 pm till 7 pm, and I had lunch with friends, then a nap and a massage...that is not the norm, but it is also not unheard of. I also give him plenty of long kid-free stretches and we do stuff together on the weekends. It's probably the one marital issue we have not fought over! |
Anonymous
| a man doing housework is a bitch |
Anonymous
Yea he might be a bitch, but he is sooo getting a blow job later! |
Anonymous
Awesome! |
Anonymous
| Agree. He is behaving this way because you let him. He is your husband, not your warden. You don't need his permission to have free time - just tell him how it is going to be. |
Anonymous
See, this is the problem in most marriages. Women, if you want your men to be housework-bitches, get those kneepads out of storage. |
Anonymous
I wonder what the divorce rate is in marriages where men help out their wives regularly and the wives give blowjobs at least once a week?..... Probably pretty low. |
Anonymous
| +1 |
Anonymous
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OP here. Thank god this stupid long weekend is over. All I got out of it was three hours away from the kid. And this was presented to me like a huge favor, and yes, I had to give a blowjob.
Our half a day outing together was not bad though (better than most), except husband was sullen half of the time. Geez, its so much better to go out and about with friends on weekdays, and the kid is so much better behaved today, went down for a nap beautifully... |