I hate weekends b/c my husband is around but not much help! vent
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Anonymous
| You just need to give more blowjobs. Really, ladies, this can work miracles. |
Anonymous
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No, the problem is that this OP is married to a dick who seems to not care at all that he is a dad. He presumably works many hours during the week but is TOTALLY FREE, with no work on Saturdays and Sundays but is too tired to take a walk with his child? This guy does not care that he has a child. OP,l how much quality time does he spend with your children each week?
Does he have an extremely exhausting, manual labor type job that actually renders him physically beat at the end of the day? Like - is he a contractor or something? Bc if his ass is sitting at a desk and needs to crash on the couch all weekend long, to recover, he is full of it and he is a jerk. Good luck. He deserves no blowjobs. See a therapist or get a new DH. |
Anonymous
| PP doesn't swallow, that much is clear. |
Anonymous
| OP, if your husband is truly tired, he needs a medical checkup or is in the wrong line of work. Insist this be looked into. Second, is the issue taking the kid for a walk or is it that he isn't spending time with the kid? If it's the walk, chill on that. It shouldn't matter to you what they do. If it's spending time with the kid then say that to him. Tell him he can do whatever he wants with the kid. He has as much right todo that as you do being that he's also a parent. You don't get to set the plan and make him execute it like you would a sitter. |
Anonymous
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OP, why on earth are you giving DH a BJ because he spent a few hours caring for HIS OWN CHILD! That is crazy! You are rewarding him for needing to be talked into staying in and taking care of the child for a few hours. Stop it! Ever heard the saying "you teach people how to treat you"? DH is going to start expecting "rewards" for doing things which he should be doing as a decent husband and father.
Just because he works during the week and you stay home does not mean that he should be completely hands-off when it comes for caring for his child; spending time doing things with a child is part of being a good parent. Maybe you need to remind him of that. I was a SAHM. When our DC's were young, my DH would take them out for a few hours on either Saturday or Sunday, not only to give me a break but also to bond with them. They would usually go to the playground and then to get a treat, and my children (who are now teens) still remember and talk about those special times they shared. I hope things will improve for you; being a SAHM isn't easy, but it can be very rewarding. |
Anonymous
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OP, we both work because my DH would totally take advantage if I didn't put in as many hours or make as much as he does. We are THAT 50/50. That said, we approach time off this way:
Spouse #1: Hey babe, I would like some time off without kids from 9am until 1pm on Saturday. Is that something your schedule can accomodate? I will return the favor on Sunday, Saturday night, or the following weekend - whatever works. Spouse #2: Ok. (Or, we negotiate if one of us had something we were planning to do but hadn't discussed yet.) OP, your DH does work, and not that his job is the hardest thing in the world, but he doesn't get alone time, either. The whole point is to give each other a break from everyone else, including your DC. That's why it's so great when DH is gone, because you get alone time when DC is sleeping. Once you have 2 kids, you realize that you really do need alone time to be happy in a marriage and relationship. You might also consider a scheduled activity every saturday AM - like a fitness class - something that DH can expect and then, in turn, develop his routine with DC. (And yes, the house will be a disaster and DC won't nap and DH will grumble, but he WILL get used to it, and so will you.) |
Anonymous
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My husband and I are also very 50-50. Take turns bathing the kids, we each put one to bed each night, etc.
One thing that really helped us is instituting "nights off." We each get a night off each week, starting at about 6PM. We can do whatever the hell we want with that time, no questions asked. We make sure to do it EVERY WEEK, no exceptions. Except maybe if we are on vacation as a family. An alternative I know some people do is with poker chips - you each get like 3 chips per week, and each chip represents an hour. You can cash them in as you like - bank them up for a weekend away with the girls, or use them for an hour off every few days. But find something and do it. You do not need permission. Good grief! |
Anonymous
Sounds SO like my ex husband. Cheer up, when my ex husband got a new GF - with kids - he painted on his happy, look at me, I'm a good daddy face. So at least now that we are divorced he spends some time with my kids, every other weekend. I'm sure my kids will have happy memories of fun with dad insted of what an ass he was to them while we were married. And I actually get some real free time. So just get a divorce, problem solved. |
Anonymous
| PP, now he probably gets regular BJs. Problem solved. |
Anonymous
Nope, I was the Queen of BJs. Seriously, I like doing that. |
Anonymous
| Well, then, what's your number? |
Anonymous
This. Just tell him that you are going out of the house from x to x. Don't let him give you any excuses. You've let him get away with this behavior for long enough... |
Anonymous
| I hate weekends. My S.O. thinks he needs to sleep til noon and acts like all life in the house needs to be on hold as he sleeps. My 4 year old can not make a peep from the time he wakes up til the time my SO wakes up or I will never hear the end of it. I am pregnant with baby #2 and terrified of what life will be with a crying baby on top of it all. What the heck am I to do? I need a sound proof room to keep me and the kids in all the time he is home. |
Anonymous
Show me where the broom is! |
Anonymous
| Who brings home $? |