Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

[Anonymous]

Or perhaps SAHMs who are happy with their choice aren't playing the martyr at all. How does choosing to be at home make you a martyr? When I hear that accusation, especially from a WOHM, it becomes crystal clear that there are some major insecurities at play. Why else would you make such judgmental and frankly, false, accusations about another person's life choices? Has it ever occurred to you that SAHMs could easily take on employment if they wished to, but they *choose not to*? I'm extremely organized, motivated, and intelligent - as are my other friends who are SAHMs. Your remarks just make you sound bitter and resentful. If you're so delighted with your life, then you shouldn't feel the need to knock down others who wouldn't be happy working outside the home. Right?

I WOH b/c I like working - but I also know that I'm 50% of the HH income!

I have three degrees and use the skills from all three in my current role.

I am the mother of a daughter and son who are still young - too young to really understand the dynamics of a two-income HH. Still, I simply can't imagine fooling them into thinking that the odds of one or both staying home with their children are great.

The odds are slim. Chances are both of my kids will have to work - just as my husband and I do.

Are my kids inconvenienced from time to time?
hell yes!
There are days when we rush home only to scoop them up and out to an activity. Down time on those days doesn't exist.

But that's life. Life is about handling obstacles thrown our way.

A parent staying home may create a stable environment, but that's a temporary bubble. Life's not a bubble. It can get ugly,in fact, but developing resilience and embracing flexibility are keys to leading a happy life.

[Anonymous]

I work outside the home. I have friends who don't. This shit never comes up. This is ridiculous. Women need to back each other up. God knows nobody else is looking out for us.

[Anonymous]

Some kids need a good spanking and time outs aren't cutting it for them. If their moms gave them a good can of whip ass, they wouldn't be 9 years old banging their head on the car window (while you're driving) screaming they wish they were dead or punching their penis or spitting on you or pooping on your friends carpet etc. or 18 getting locked up. These kids needed WHIP ASS THEIR ASS!! But noooooo, all those years their mommies did time outs, counseling, and meds.

[Anonymous]

Rather telling a single wohm can't say what she would say to her dc when they ask her why she choose to work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rather telling a single wohm can't say what she would say to her dc when they ask her why she choose to work

Are you kidding me with this?

"Larla, adults have to work. We need money to provide for our families. Sometimes work is fulfilling, and sometimes it's unpleasant. But the bottom line is if we didn't have money we'd end up homeless or something. You'll work when you're an adult someday too."

WOW, SO HARD. MUCH TELLING.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work outside the home. I have friends who don't. This shit never comes up. This is ridiculous. Women need to back each other up. God knows nobody else is looking out for us.

I know right???? Lets please shut this down already it is worn out. Do your thing, do your best, show some fucking compassion for others and please for the love of god and humanity STFU already.
Sigh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rather telling a single wohm can't say what she would say to her dc when they ask her why she choose to work

Because mommy loves you so much she wants to help keep a roof over your head and food on the table.

Because mommy loves you so much she wants to make sure you can get a good education like she did, so you can grow up to also be successful (insert whatever child wants to be).

Because mommy is smart and hardworking just like daddy and does work that is important to a lot of people.

I dunno ... these are just a few off the top of my head. Not saying being a SAHM is bad, but there are plenty of good reasons to explain to your child why you work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rather telling a single wohm can't say what she would say to her dc when they ask her why she choose to work

Are you kidding me with this?

"Larla, adults have to work. We need money to provide for our families. Sometimes work is fulfilling, and sometimes it's unpleasant. But the bottom line is if we didn't have money we'd end up homeless or something. You'll work when you're an adult someday too."

WOW, SO HARD. MUCH TELLING.

I thought you worked because you Had to use your big graduate degree. Why has the story changed now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rather telling a single wohm can't say what she would say to her dc when they ask her why she choose to work

Are you kidding me with this?

"Larla, adults have to work. We need money to provide for our families. Sometimes work is fulfilling, and sometimes it's unpleasant. But the bottom line is if we didn't have money we'd end up homeless or something. You'll work when you're an adult someday too."

WOW, SO HARD. MUCH TELLING.

I thought you worked because you Had to use your big graduate degree. Why has the story changed now?

I don't have a big fancy graduate degree. I'm one of those poor folks who needs money to survive and my husband and I are roughly equal income earners. But if I did have one I don't see why that would change my answer? Families need money. Everyone needs money. Most of us get money through work. It really doesn't matter what ones education level is ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rather telling a single wohm can't say what she would say to her dc when they ask her why she choose to work

Are you kidding me with this?

"Larla, adults have to work. We need money to provide for our families. Sometimes work is fulfilling, and sometimes it's unpleasant. But the bottom line is if we didn't have money we'd end up homeless or something. You'll work when you're an adult someday too."

WOW, SO HARD. MUCH TELLING.

I thought you worked because you Had to use your big graduate degree. Why has the story changed now?

I don't have a big fancy graduate degree. I'm one of those poor folks who needs money to survive and my husband and I are roughly equal income earners. But if I did have one I don't see why that would change my answer? Families need money. Everyone needs money. Most of us get money through work. It really doesn't matter what ones education level is ...

Children need their mothers too, or has everyone forgotten about that in the fabulous shower of money all wohm's earn

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rather telling a single wohm can't say what she would say to her dc when they ask her why she choose to work

Are you kidding me with this?

"Larla, adults have to work. We need money to provide for our families. Sometimes work is fulfilling, and sometimes it's unpleasant. But the bottom line is if we didn't have money we'd end up homeless or something. You'll work when you're an adult someday too."

WOW, SO HARD. MUCH TELLING.

I thought you worked because you Had to use your big graduate degree. Why has the story changed now?

I don't have a big fancy graduate degree. I'm one of those poor folks who needs money to survive and my husband and I are roughly equal income earners. But if I did have one I don't see why that would change my answer? Families need money. Everyone needs money. Most of us get money through work. It really doesn't matter what ones education level is ...

Children need their mothers too, or has everyone forgotten about that in the fabulous shower of money all wohm's earn

You need to stop with this vicious hate of working moms. It's not a good look for SAHMs (even though I know most are not as hateful and spiteful as you) and it makes you seem incredibly uneducated as if you cannot fathom a woman can do anything beyond procreate. Of course children need their moms, but that doesn't mean a woman has to be around 24/7 to "be there" for her kids. Children need stability in their lives. For many, this can involve structured high quality childcare coupled with a mom and dad who spend quality time with their children mornings, evenings, and weekends. Children will not be harmed by having a loving nanny, daycare worker, grandparent helping care for them in addition to their parents. Not to mention, many working parents have flexible hours and ability to work from home nowadays, which allows us to have a career and be with out children for a large part of the day. And once kids are in school, it really shouldn't make a difference whether mom is working during the schools day or at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rather telling a single wohm can't say what she would say to her dc when they ask her why she choose to work

Are you kidding me with this?

"Larla, adults have to work. We need money to provide for our families. Sometimes work is fulfilling, and sometimes it's unpleasant. But the bottom line is if we didn't have money we'd end up homeless or something. You'll work when you're an adult someday too."

WOW, SO HARD. MUCH TELLING.

I thought you worked because you Had to use your big graduate degree. Why has the story changed now?

I don't have a big fancy graduate degree. I'm one of those poor folks who needs money to survive and my husband and I are roughly equal income earners. But if I did have one I don't see why that would change my answer? Families need money. Everyone needs money. Most of us get money through work. It really doesn't matter what ones education level is ...

Children need their mothers too, or has everyone forgotten about that in the fabulous shower of money all wohm's earn

If I wasn't working it wouldn't matter how much I was around. We would have trouble putting food on the table and clothes on our backs. I grew up like that and it has affected me as an adult.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:To get away from this riveting discussion of stay at home mommy martyrdom, I contribute that I like Daylight Savings Time. The time change doesn't bother me much and I like that it stays light out much longer.

If by "martyr" you're referring to the WOHMs who insist that they do "SO much more" and "would NEVER spend all day on DCUM," then I agree. It's so interesting that there are plenty of WOHMs available during the day to continue this scintillating conversation. Hey wait - I thought you were all oh so busy at your incredibly interesting and fulfilling jobs!! Funny how you always show up on DCUM but then like to insinuate that it's only SAHMs who would possibly have time to do something so frivolous. Hypocritical much?

Good effort to change the topic, PP.

In response, I'll say: I like the extra hour of daylight, but this back and forth is annoying. Can't we leave it one way and stop switching?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rather telling a single wohm can't say what she would say to her dc when they ask her why she choose to work

Are you kidding me with this?

"Larla, adults have to work. We need money to provide for our families. Sometimes work is fulfilling, and sometimes it's unpleasant. But the bottom line is if we didn't have money we'd end up homeless or something. You'll work when you're an adult someday too."

WOW, SO HARD. MUCH TELLING.

I thought you worked because you Had to use your big graduate degree. Why has the story changed now?

I don't have a big fancy graduate degree. I'm one of those poor folks who needs money to survive and my husband and I are roughly equal income earners. But if I did have one I don't see why that would change my answer? Families need money. Everyone needs money. Most of us get money through work. It really doesn't matter what ones education level is ...

Children need their mothers too, or has everyone forgotten about that in the fabulous shower of money all wohm's earn

You need to stop with this vicious hate of working moms. It's not a good look for SAHMs (even though I know most are not as hateful and spiteful as you) and it makes you seem incredibly uneducated as if you cannot fathom a woman can do anything beyond procreate. Of course children need their moms, but that doesn't mean a woman has to be around 24/7 to "be there" for her kids. Children need stability in their lives. For many, this can involve structured high quality childcare coupled with a mom and dad who spend quality time with their children mornings, evenings, and weekends. Children will not be harmed by having a loving nanny, daycare worker, grandparent helping care for them in addition to their parents. Not to mention, many working parents have flexible hours and ability to work from home nowadays, which allows us to have a career and be with out children for a large part of the day. And once kids are in school, it really shouldn't make a difference whether mom is working during the schools day or at home.

No, children need their mothers. It's a fact that's been commonly known for centuries. Why can't you accept it and move on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Or perhaps SAHMs who are happy with their choice aren't playing the martyr at all. How does choosing to be at home make you a martyr? When I hear that accusation, especially from a WOHM, it becomes crystal clear that there are some major insecurities at play. Why else would you make such judgmental and frankly, false, accusations about another person's life choices? Has it ever occurred to you that SAHMs could easily take on employment if they wished to, but they *choose not to*? I'm extremely organized, motivated, and intelligent - as are my other friends who are SAHMs. Your remarks just make you sound bitter and resentful. If you're so delighted with your life, then you shouldn't feel the need to knock down others who wouldn't be happy working outside the home. Right?

I WOH b/c I like working - but I also know that I'm 50% of the HH income!

I have three degrees and use the skills from all three in my current role.

I am the mother of a daughter and son who are still young - too young to really understand the dynamics of a two-income HH. Still, I simply can't imagine fooling them into thinking that the odds of one or both staying home with their children are great.

The odds are slim. Chances are both of my kids will have to work - just as my husband and I do.

Are my kids inconvenienced from time to time?
hell yes!
There are days when we rush home only to scoop them up and out to an activity. Down time on those days doesn't exist.

But that's life. Life is about handling obstacles thrown our way.

A parent staying home may create a stable environment, but that's a temporary bubble. Life's not a bubble. It can get ugly,in fact, but developing resilience and embracing flexibility are keys to leading a happy life.

I'm not sure what the point of your post is. You enjoy WOH. That's great. SAHMs also enjoy what they do. Why does it have to be a competition? Resilience and flexibility can be developed in either situation.