Do parents drink at your tween’s sporting events?

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the hell do people spend so much time at things that bore them this much? Tell the kid to find another hobby. Jesus.

"I know you love baseball, Billy, but mommy gets really bored at your games. I've enrolled you in dance instead; I'll enjoy that much more"

"That doesn't work for our family so we'll have to pick something else. Here are three options. Which would you like, or would you like to come up with another idea?"

That doesn't work for me because I'm selfish and only want you to engage in activities that I like to watch. That's what you're saying. What a great mom you are.

This is a bizarre read. My parents didn’t do any of this travel/watch practices or games stuff with me. They had work, they worked on and around our home, and I had a sibling whose needs/wants were also in the mix. Also we had one car.

They’re great parents; I don’t see a reason to do differently from them on this piece. You do you, I guess.

I think this is a symptom of many parents today being way too involved in their kids' lives. I'm Gen X, and though my dad would often drop me off at my baseball games growing up, my parents almost never went to the games, and neither did any of the the other parents of the kids on my teams. And, I had no interest in them being there. Who wants to spend a weekend afternoon with their parents?

I think sports can be good for kids, but I think a lot of parents today are really overdoing their involvement.

Imiagine the mental gymnastics one has to go to to equate attending your son's baseball game with "overdoing your invovement"

My 14 year old son plays travel baseball and has a game in Olney today. That's 45 minute from my home in Alexandria. Do you propose I drive 45 minutes there, then 45 minutes home, wait 40 minutes and then drive 45 minutes back to Olney to retrieve him?

Because my current plan is to throw the folding chair in the trunk, pack a small lunch cooler with a tuna salad sandwich and 2 IPAs and spend a gorgeous afternon camped out on first baseline enjoyng the outdoors and watching my son play short stop. But I'm really worried others will think I'm an over involved alcoholic.

Yes, 2 IPAs in 2 hours does seem extreme to me for the activity you're describing, which is watching your son's practice, when you're driving afterwards.

Np but that is so far from extreme in our family 2ipas in 2 hours is just normal and not even what I would call "drinking"

Are you driving afterwards? The PP is. That's extreme and very concerning.

DUI enforcemnet officer here. Not extreme and not concerning. Totally legal too.

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I do, and about half our team does. Its normally just 1 drink in a yeti or something

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the hell do people spend so much time at things that bore them this much? Tell the kid to find another hobby. Jesus.

"I know you love baseball, Billy, but mommy gets really bored at your games. I've enrolled you in dance instead; I'll enjoy that much more"

"That doesn't work for our family so we'll have to pick something else. Here are three options. Which would you like, or would you like to come up with another idea?"

This whole thread has basically been about baseball and swimming. It's not like we're talking about heli skiing or something completely off the wall that would disrupt a family.

If enrolling your kid in baseball or swim "doesn't work" for your family, you need to re-evaluate yourself as a parent

Not PP, but I would not consider someone a failure as a parent for declining to plan their weekends around rec sports.

Well, there's a difference between planning your weekend around weekend sports, and declining a child's request to play in a sport because it interferes with your weekend leisure plans.

Hell, at the very least, drop the kid off and let them play while that crappy parent does whatever they want to do. That's still really lousy parenting, but at least its better than saying no

Wait, why is it lousy parenting? Why does a child need to be watched while they engage in their hobby? My mother had a studio where she would do art. Was I a crappy child for not accompanying her to observe her artistic endeavors?

Funny, I don't hear a lot of adults complaining that their parents went to all of their recitals or was always in the stands. I do hear a lot of complaining about the opposite though

No one said they would complain, but is it really necessary? Frankly, if you're an adult still grousing about how mommy and daddy didn't come to your eleventy bazillion sports events, you need therapy. Get over that shit already. Christ.

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Anonymous wrote:YES..Youth Baseball could not be MORE BORING! Good grief..3.5 hours average per game !

Most baseball games last about 1.5 hours. All baseball games have an official drop dead time limit of 2 hours. No idea where you came up with 3.5, but you are very wrong.

But ya didn't dispute the BORING BORING BORING part. For the love of all things..2 hours is too long.

Generally, when people call baseball boring it's because they don't understand the game. And generally, they are too dim to understand it.

No, baseball is just too long and with too little eye candy. Paunchy dudes in jumpsuits standing around doing very little for the vast majority of the game. With other sports, like soccer, the (very fit) players are always on the move and there's always something to be watching. And they do it all in 90 minutes and change! Perfect sport. There's a reason no one calls baseball the beautiful game. Sorry you're butthurt about it.

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the hell do people spend so much time at things that bore them this much? Tell the kid to find another hobby. Jesus.

"I know you love baseball, Billy, but mommy gets really bored at your games. I've enrolled you in dance instead; I'll enjoy that much more"

"That doesn't work for our family so we'll have to pick something else. Here are three options. Which would you like, or would you like to come up with another idea?"

That doesn't work for me because I'm selfish and only want you to engage in activities that I like to watch. That's what you're saying. What a great mom you are.

This is a bizarre read. My parents didn’t do any of this travel/watch practices or games stuff with me. They had work, they worked on and around our home, and I had a sibling whose needs/wants were also in the mix. Also we had one car.

They’re great parents; I don’t see a reason to do differently from them on this piece. You do you, I guess.

I think this is a symptom of many parents today being way too involved in their kids' lives. I'm Gen X, and though my dad would often drop me off at my baseball games growing up, my parents almost never went to the games, and neither did any of the the other parents of the kids on my teams. And, I had no interest in them being there. Who wants to spend a weekend afternoon with their parents?

I think sports can be good for kids, but I think a lot of parents today are really overdoing their involvement.

Imiagine the mental gymnastics one has to go to to equate attending your son's baseball game with "overdoing your invovement"

My 14 year old son plays travel baseball and has a game in Olney today. That's 45 minute from my home in Alexandria. Do you propose I drive 45 minutes there, then 45 minutes home, wait 40 minutes and then drive 45 minutes back to Olney to retrieve him?

Because my current plan is to throw the folding chair in the trunk, pack a small lunch cooler with a tuna salad sandwich and 2 IPAs and spend a gorgeous afternon camped out on first baseline enjoyng the outdoors and watching my son play short stop. But I'm really worried others will think I'm an over involved alcoholic.

Yes, 2 IPAs in 2 hours does seem extreme to me for the activity you're describing, which is watching your son's practice, when you're driving afterwards.

Np but that is so far from extreme in our family 2ipas in 2 hours is just normal and not even what I would call "drinking"

Are you driving afterwards? The PP is. That's extreme and very concerning.

DUI enforcemnet officer here. Not extreme and not concerning. Totally legal too.

Two beers over two hours for a grown man is in no way concerning, and not an issue for driving.

Some people are just nuts.

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Anonymous wrote:YES..Youth Baseball could not be MORE BORING! Good grief..3.5 hours average per game !

Most baseball games last about 1.5 hours. All baseball games have an official drop dead time limit of 2 hours. No idea where you came up with 3.5, but you are very wrong.

Ha. Ha-ha. Hahahahahahahaha.

Oh, sweet summer child and t-ball parent, I like your optimism. I also like drop-dead times, but they tend to get longer as kids get older and (shhhh) disappear entirely for many travel ball games, many of which are also double-headers. I could also tell you about the 4-hour high school games I’ve sat through, but I don’t want to spoil your enthusiasm for your own set of facts.

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the hell do people spend so much time at things that bore them this much? Tell the kid to find another hobby. Jesus.

"I know you love baseball, Billy, but mommy gets really bored at your games. I've enrolled you in dance instead; I'll enjoy that much more"

"That doesn't work for our family so we'll have to pick something else. Here are three options. Which would you like, or would you like to come up with another idea?"

That doesn't work for me because I'm selfish and only want you to engage in activities that I like to watch. That's what you're saying. What a great mom you are.

This is a bizarre read. My parents didn’t do any of this travel/watch practices or games stuff with me. They had work, they worked on and around our home, and I had a sibling whose needs/wants were also in the mix. Also we had one car.

They’re great parents; I don’t see a reason to do differently from them on this piece. You do you, I guess.

I think this is a symptom of many parents today being way too involved in their kids' lives. I'm Gen X, and though my dad would often drop me off at my baseball games growing up, my parents almost never went to the games, and neither did any of the the other parents of the kids on my teams. And, I had no interest in them being there. Who wants to spend a weekend afternoon with their parents?

I think sports can be good for kids, but I think a lot of parents today are really overdoing their involvement.

Imiagine the mental gymnastics one has to go to to equate attending your son's baseball game with "overdoing your invovement"

My 14 year old son plays travel baseball and has a game in Olney today. That's 45 minute from my home in Alexandria. Do you propose I drive 45 minutes there, then 45 minutes home, wait 40 minutes and then drive 45 minutes back to Olney to retrieve him?

Because my current plan is to throw the folding chair in the trunk, pack a small lunch cooler with a tuna salad sandwich and 2 IPAs and spend a gorgeous afternon camped out on first baseline enjoyng the outdoors and watching my son play short stop. But I'm really worried others will think I'm an over involved alcoholic.

Yes, 2 IPAs in 2 hours does seem extreme to me for the activity you're describing, which is watching your son's practice, when you're driving afterwards.

Np but that is so far from extreme in our family 2ipas in 2 hours is just normal and not even what I would call "drinking"

it depends on the IPA- if we're talking 10% abv, then it's a lot

Are you driving afterwards? The PP is. That's extreme and very concerning.

DUI enforcemnet officer here. Not extreme and not concerning. Totally legal too.

Two beers over two hours for a grown man is in no way concerning, and not an issue for driving.

Some people are just nuts.

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Anonymous wrote:YES..Youth Baseball could not be MORE BORING! Good grief..3.5 hours average per game !

Most baseball games last about 1.5 hours. All baseball games have an official drop dead time limit of 2 hours. No idea where you came up with 3.5, but you are very wrong.

But ya didn't dispute the BORING BORING BORING part. For the love of all things..2 hours is too long.

Generally, when people call baseball boring it's because they don't understand the game. And generally, they are too dim to understand it.

Baseball has been around forever, played in PE and playgrounds. Everyone "get's" it for crying out loud. It's really not that hard to understand. It's still boring. 5 minutes between each batter! What other sport needs to play a song between plays because it's BORING. Basketball, volleyball, lacrosse, tennis, swimming... exciting.. And those are actual athletes.

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Anonymous wrote:YES..Youth Baseball could not be MORE BORING! Good grief..3.5 hours average per game !

Most baseball games last about 1.5 hours. All baseball games have an official drop dead time limit of 2 hours. No idea where you came up with 3.5, but you are very wrong.

But ya didn't dispute the BORING BORING BORING part. For the love of all things..2 hours is too long.

Generally, when people call baseball boring it's because they don't understand the game. And generally, they are too dim to understand it.

Baseball has been around forever, played in PE and playgrounds. Everyone "get's" it for crying out loud. It's really not that hard to understand. It's still boring. 5 minutes between each batter! What other sport needs to play a song between plays because it's BORING. Basketball, volleyball, lacrosse, tennis, swimming... exciting.. And those are actual athletes.

And there's a pretty significant difference between watching baseball played by professional athletes versus middle-school kids. The latter is almost painful to watch.

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the hell do people spend so much time at things that bore them this much? Tell the kid to find another hobby. Jesus.

"I know you love baseball, Billy, but mommy gets really bored at your games. I've enrolled you in dance instead; I'll enjoy that much more"

"That doesn't work for our family so we'll have to pick something else. Here are three options. Which would you like, or would you like to come up with another idea?"

This whole thread has basically been about baseball and swimming. It's not like we're talking about heli skiing or something completely off the wall that would disrupt a family.

If enrolling your kid in baseball or swim "doesn't work" for your family, you need to re-evaluate yourself as a parent

Not PP, but I would not consider someone a failure as a parent for declining to plan their weekends around rec sports.

Well, there's a difference between planning your weekend around weekend sports, and declining a child's request to play in a sport because it interferes with your weekend leisure plans.

Hell, at the very least, drop the kid off and let them play while that crappy parent does whatever they want to do. That's still really lousy parenting, but at least its better than saying no

Wait, why is it lousy parenting? Why does a child need to be watched while they engage in their hobby? My mother had a studio where she would do art. Was I a crappy child for not accompanying her to observe her artistic endeavors?

Funny, I don't hear a lot of adults complaining that their parents went to all of their recitals or was always in the stands. I do hear a lot of complaining about the opposite though

Recitals don't happen every weekend, so I don't think they're comparable to baseball or soccer games.

I don't know, seems like something has changed in the last few decades. I played basketball and swam in high school, and all of our games and meets happened after school on weekdays. Some kids did play for sports teams on weekends outside of school, and also during the summers. But, we traveled to games on our own (I lived in a city with good transit options), and generally saw it as our activity, rather than something we needed to drag parents to. Certainly, with families with more than one kid, there wasn't an expectation that the entire family needed to go to every game.

The travel team phenomenon seems pretty crazy.

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the hell do people spend so much time at things that bore them this much? Tell the kid to find another hobby. Jesus.

"I know you love baseball, Billy, but mommy gets really bored at your games. I've enrolled you in dance instead; I'll enjoy that much more"

"That doesn't work for our family so we'll have to pick something else. Here are three options. Which would you like, or would you like to come up with another idea?"

This whole thread has basically been about baseball and swimming. It's not like we're talking about heli skiing or something completely off the wall that would disrupt a family.

If enrolling your kid in baseball or swim "doesn't work" for your family, you need to re-evaluate yourself as a parent

Not PP, but I would not consider someone a failure as a parent for declining to plan their weekends around rec sports.

Well, there's a difference between planning your weekend around weekend sports, and declining a child's request to play in a sport because it interferes with your weekend leisure plans.

Hell, at the very least, drop the kid off and let them play while that crappy parent does whatever they want to do. That's still really lousy parenting, but at least its better than saying no

Wait, why is it lousy parenting? Why does a child need to be watched while they engage in their hobby? My mother had a studio where she would do art. Was I a crappy child for not accompanying her to observe her artistic endeavors?

Funny, I don't hear a lot of adults complaining that their parents went to all of their recitals or was always in the stands. I do hear a lot of complaining about the opposite though

Recitals don't happen every weekend, so I don't think they're comparable to baseball or soccer games.

I don't know, seems like something has changed in the last few decades. I played basketball and swam in high school, and all of our games and meets happened after school on weekdays. Some kids did play for sports teams on weekends outside of school, and also during the summers. But, we traveled to games on our own (I lived in a city with good transit options), and generally saw it as our activity, rather than something we needed to drag parents to. Certainly, with families with more than one kid, there wasn't an expectation that the entire family needed to go to every game.

The travel team phenomenon seems pretty crazy.

lots of kids want to play for their high schools now, I doubt many basketball teams have kids not playing AAU on them at this point (at least not in areas where AAU is affordable for most families). Swim is no cut, but most of the kids actually competing in meets swim year round. There is no way someone who just wanted to do it would ever complete in a meet now.

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Anonymous wrote:I do, and about half our team does. Its normally just 1 drink in a yeti or something

Gross.

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Anonymous wrote:YES..Youth Baseball could not be MORE BORING! Good grief..3.5 hours average per game !

Most baseball games last about 1.5 hours. All baseball games have an official drop dead time limit of 2 hours. No idea where you came up with 3.5, but you are very wrong.

But ya didn't dispute the BORING BORING BORING part. For the love of all things..2 hours is too long.

Generally, when people call baseball boring it's because they don't understand the game. And generally, they are too dim to understand it.

No, baseball is just too long and with too little eye candy. Paunchy dudes in jumpsuits standing around doing very little for the vast majority of the game. With other sports, like soccer, the (very fit) players are always on the move and there's always something to be watching. And they do it all in 90 minutes and change! Perfect sport. There's a reason no one calls baseball the beautiful game. Sorry you're butthurt about it.

You realize that baseball is literally called this, right?

Look, I like baseball but some games are just boring, I get that too. That said, times have changed since the pre-roids era (and after), sure you will always have your DH guys who are built with a little extra junk in the trunk (Fielder, Ortiz)- who are generally beloved and still athletic as hell, BTW- but just look at the IGs of the leagues top players or just MLB teams in general, not going to spam the thread but paunchy and out of shape they are not. They are all about that longevity, agility, pliability kind of strength now (Tom Brady model if you will but less cray cray) Baseball pants are good as hell on these nice booties.

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Anonymous wrote:YES..Youth Baseball could not be MORE BORING! Good grief..3.5 hours average per game !

Most baseball games last about 1.5 hours. All baseball games have an official drop dead time limit of 2 hours. No idea where you came up with 3.5, but you are very wrong.

But ya didn't dispute the BORING BORING BORING part. For the love of all things..2 hours is too long.

Generally, when people call baseball boring it's because they don't understand the game. And generally, they are too dim to understand it.

Baseball has been around forever, played in PE and playgrounds. Everyone "get's" it for crying out loud. It's really not that hard to understand. It's still boring. 5 minutes between each batter! What other sport needs to play a song between plays because it's BORING. Basketball, volleyball, lacrosse, tennis, swimming... exciting.. And those are actual athletes.

And there's a pretty significant difference between watching baseball played by professional athletes versus middle-school kids. The latter is almost painful to watch.

Grade school kids aren't playing infield fly pop rules or forced vs unforced outs, dropped third strikes, subbing runners with the last out, balks, and 100 other intricasies that make baseball a lot more like chess. Soccer is more like hopscotch.

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Anonymous wrote:YES..Youth Baseball could not be MORE BORING! Good grief..3.5 hours average per game !

Most baseball games last about 1.5 hours. All baseball games have an official drop dead time limit of 2 hours. No idea where you came up with 3.5, but you are very wrong.

But ya didn't dispute the BORING BORING BORING part. For the love of all things..2 hours is too long.

Generally, when people call baseball boring it's because they don't understand the game. And generally, they are too dim to understand it.

Baseball has been around forever, played in PE and playgrounds. Everyone "get's" it for crying out loud. It's really not that hard to understand. It's still boring. 5 minutes between each batter! What other sport needs to play a song between plays because it's BORING. Basketball, volleyball, lacrosse, tennis, swimming... exciting.. And those are actual athletes.

And there's a pretty significant difference between watching baseball played by professional athletes versus middle-school kids. The latter is almost painful to watch.

My 14 year old is 5 ft 11, 175lbs and throws in the mid 80s. He'd straight up smoke your ass. You have no idea what you're talking about.