Fed up with parents who send sick kids to school

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Anonymous wrote:No one is complaining about kids with sniffles or kids that are contagious before they are ill. We all know that's part of being in a society. We ARE rightfully complaining about parents who send kids to school with medicated fevers, with still-contagious strep or within 24 hours of vomiting. That's just selfish and irresponsible.

If people are reading who do that -- you do know there are children out there with medical conditions and compromised immune systems, and your behavior is very dangerous to them.

I dont think you read the thread especially the block quote in your post which I cut. People are saying that you should keep your kids home before they are symptomatic? Two WEEKS after the diarrhea is gone?

Pp of the post suggesting you keep kids home before being symptomatic here. I was kidding. Sarcasm. People just need to understand that there's usually nobody to blame for getting sick. Just because little larla is coughing at school doesn't mean you didn't get your cold from your mildly sniffling co-worker, or the shopping cart. Also, Norovirus can spread long after symptoms disappear. That means, again, you can't pin your virus on the one unfortunate kid who barfed at school.

Actually teachers and kids are to blame if they keep coming in sick. Teachers also need to stop the sharing of supplies OR clean them often so the viruses don't spread. Teachers need to push more hand washing, cleaning the desks, chairs and other common spaces. We had one teacher very diligent. Only year kids didn't seem to get sick as much.

For sure teachers need to work harder to keep their class clean. Bus drivers too (with the buses).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keeping a child home for a common cold for two weeks is crazy, Karen.

If you keep them home to rest and recover, it won’t take two weeks. Three days, tops.

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Anonymous wrote:I know, all these people who don't have access to childcare or sick leave. Such jerks.

Get over yourself, OP, and be glad that's your biggest worry in life. I mean it. There are people who have a hell of a lot more to deal with.

Give me a break. Are people just not accountable for ANYTHING anymore. Your kids are sick, you keep them home. I am a pregnant teacher and will not tolerate any sick child in my class. They can sit in the nurses office all day if the parents don’t care to come get them. Most of them eventually do.

Don’t have kids if you can’t take care of them.

Dont be a teacher if you never want to be exposed to germs.

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't waded through this thread but have a hard time believing all the supposed school admin/staff posting here about parents too often bringing sick kids.

What I hear is the opposite. Schools are very focused on attendance rates, increasingly so, and parents that keep kids out for whatever reason including mild illness are a real concern.

PP, who can't look away from this thread.

I completely agree with you. My son's ES is very pushy about absences. We got a frickin' letter from the DA! The DA! It basically said if your kid missed more than 6 days in 6 months, you might be referred to social services. The school also has ample signage emphasizing being there every day, on time, ready to learn.

So yeah, we're not staying out for colds. My 4th grader has some social/emotional issues and is prone to somatic behavior at times. He's been out twice this school year, both for specious reasons. Luckily, no strep or vomiting at all. He does sniff a lot. It's related to his behavioral issues, not a cold. Sorry Karen, he'll be in class today, as he's not sick.

I'm not from the DC area BTW. Don't know if you all get letters from the DA about this.

Of course you’re not from the DC area so you can’t back up any of this post. The DA? Are you kidding me? This post is completely unbelievable. No school wants sick kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone who works at a school learns quickly who the shitty parents are. After about the third time, no one believes you when you say your kid was fine this morning or that you didn’t give them any meds before you put them on the bus. And yes, the lice parents are the worst.

+1. We know and we despise you. We can tell when you’ve dosed your poor kid with Motrin at 7am to hide that fever. It inevitably spikes at about lunchtime. We try to call. Leave a voicemail. You finally call back 30 minutes before school ends apologizing. You were in a meeting and, of course had no idea your child was sick. We know who you are. And we think you are a shitty parent.

+2

Nailed it. The other moms know, too. Gets old quick - no matter what the age.

The very sad thing that I see among a law firm associate moms. They do have sick leave that they can take, but they still stay at work to meet their billable hours. Even those who met 2,000 hours, still staying at work to get an extra bonus while the child is sick in a daycare. It is very very sad dynamics in those families.

NP gotta pay for those instagrammable vacation pics and larlo and larla vineyard vines clothes.

[Anonymous]

My 1yo spiked a fever the day after we were on a plane. I had even wiped down our row with disinfectant Wipes. Clearly there were sick people on our plane. Fever has been gone for 3 days but very slight sniffles - think we are ok to fly back tomorrow? I don’t want to get anyone else sick. We could change flight to two days later but would cost extra $800 for the 4 of us.

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Anonymous wrote:My 1yo spiked a fever the day after we were on a plane. I had even wiped down our row with disinfectant Wipes. Clearly there were sick people on our plane. Fever has been gone for 3 days but very slight sniffles - think we are ok to fly back tomorrow? I don’t want to get anyone else sick. We could change flight to two days later but would cost extra $800 for the 4 of us.

No you don’t need to change your flight. I wouldn’t even give it another thought.

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Anonymous wrote:Keeping a child home for a common cold for two weeks is crazy, Karen.

If you keep them home to rest and recover, it won’t take two weeks. Three days, tops.

Pure fiction right here, folks.

[Anonymous]

Pro tip: take your DC temp before sending to school. Is it over 100? Keep kid home.

Also, I've posted before but at about 10:30, your DC will start to feel "hot" or "sick" or "weird" again. DC will describe that "the medicine Mom gave me has worn off." Yeah, no kidding. But the important thing is, you got to send your kid to daycare and school and have already gotten in a 1/2 day.

Also love when a parent tells me, "he wasn't sick this morning!" Ok, but now he has a 102 fever.

If it hits 105, we call 911. Just come get your kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Pro tip: take your DC temp before sending to school. Is it over 100? Keep kid home.

Also, I've posted before but at about 10:30, your DC will start to feel "hot" or "sick" or "weird" again. DC will describe that "the medicine Mom gave me has worn off." Yeah, no kidding. But the important thing is, you got to send your kid to daycare and school and have already gotten in a 1/2 day.

Also love when a parent tells me, "he wasn't sick this morning!" Ok, but now he has a 102 fever.

If it hits 105, we call 911. Just come get your kid.

I have no doubt some parents do this, but there are 24hrs in a day for an illness to develop. If a child is in school/daycare for 8-10 hrs in a day, chances are at some point a fever or stomach bug will truly develop then. My (infant) DD woke up on Christmas Day seemingly fine. Seemed a little less chipper than tonal when I put her down for her morning nap but thought she was just tired. Woke up from nap with 102 degree fever.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone so quick to blame Karen and Becky.

You do realize that there are some parents who do not earn sick/vacation leave, and if they do not work, they do not get paid. And not getting paid that day or two might mean the difference in paying the rent or not, in buying medication for a family member or not, or putting meals on the table or not.

According to Mana Food Center (Montgomery County, https://www.mannafood.org/about/), there are 63,000 county residents who experience hunger and food insecurity. From the link: "Our county is one of the most affluent in the country, yet one in three public school students receives free and discounted school lunches..."

Even the schools with less than 5% FARMS have some students on FARMS. Not everyone lives the charmed life some of you seem to.

These are things that should be considered before choosing to bring a child into the world.

So only wealthy people should.have children? Oh right, and women who are raped or victims of incest shouldn't have an abortion, so what exactly should they do? Give me a break!

+1 So easy to blame parents for being uncaring when the truth is that many parents don't have the option to leave work to take care of sick kids without losing their wages (which leads to a whole host of other problems for the kid if they can't pay their bills/rent etc.)

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Anonymous wrote:I know, all these people who don't have access to childcare or sick leave. Such jerks.

Get over yourself, OP, and be glad that's your biggest worry in life. I mean it. There are people who have a hell of a lot more to deal with.

Give me a break. Are people just not accountable for ANYTHING anymore. Your kids are sick, you keep them home. I am a pregnant teacher and will not tolerate any sick child in my class. They can sit in the nurses office all day if the parents don’t care to come get them. Most of them eventually do.

Don’t have kids if you can’t take care of them.

Do you have any other children? I'm excited to see how this hard line stance shifts when it's your child that's sick.

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Anonymous wrote:Sending kids with vomiting, fevers, etc. is horrible, but I’m surprised to see so many people implying that kids should be kept home for coughs, colds, etc. Our pediatrician always says to go back to school after 24 hours fever free or similar...wouldn’t truancy be an issue if kids took a week off for every cold or minor virus? My otherwise-healthy little kids seem to have runny noses and sneezing half the winter, and the doctor says that’s typical.

Eh.. i'm not surprised, keeping up home whenever we didn't feel good was the norm. However, it never really happened that often, we just never got sick a lot. Also, we lived near family/friends, so childcare often wasn't an issue. Lastly, we were trustworthy kids/teens we never faked sick... so if we didn't feel good we didn't feel good it was no big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone who works at a school learns quickly who the shitty parents are. After about the third time, no one believes you when you say your kid was fine this morning or that you didn’t give them any meds before you put them on the bus. And yes, the lice parents are the worst.

+1. We know and we despise you. We can tell when you’ve dosed your poor kid with Motrin at 7am to hide that fever. It inevitably spikes at about lunchtime. We try to call. Leave a voicemail. You finally call back 30 minutes before school ends apologizing. You were in a meeting and, of course had no idea your child was sick. We know who you are. And we think you are a shitty parent.

How often does this happen? You’re dramatic so I’m assuming never. And I SAH and my kid missed days of this semester because I keep her home when sick!

It happens multiple times per year in my experience (Pk-2nd grade)

You are saying that multiple times per year there are different parents who dose their kids with motrin and then do not answer their phones for hours on end during the day? I have a really hard time believing it. Sorry.

But if they had Motrin and are fine, Whats the need for the parents to pick them up. They are fine. You are depriving Them of learning.

Apparently, you must have been sick at home during your own Biology class. A kid who has an active fever (even if it goes down for a few hours with Motrin) is NOT fine, and is actively spreading pathogens to all those around him/her.

Yes, and they are 100% NOT learning because they feel so terrible. They mostly spend their time keeping their little heads propped up on their arms or in many cases, fall asleep with their heads on the desk because the desktops are cool on their fevered heads.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone so quick to blame Karen and Becky.

You do realize that there are some parents who do not earn sick/vacation leave, and if they do not work, they do not get paid. And not getting paid that day or two might mean the difference in paying the rent or not, in buying medication for a family member or not, or putting meals on the table or not.

According to Mana Food Center (Montgomery County, https://www.mannafood.org/about/), there are 63,000 county residents who experience hunger and food insecurity. From the link: "Our county is one of the most affluent in the country, yet one in three public school students receives free and discounted school lunches..."

Even the schools with less than 5% FARMS have some students on FARMS. Not everyone lives the charmed life some of you seem to.

These are things that should be considered before choosing to bring a child into the world.

Yes! If you cannot provide for a child, don't have the child! It's selfish.