Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?

[Anonymous]

No. Like all jewelry I'll notice if something is strikingly gorgeous or not really my style, but I don't think the ring tells me anything about the wearer, or the wearer's spouse, or their marriage. I will, however, always ooh and ahh if someone shows me their ring right after getting engaged, because I was not raised in a barn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Define tiny. When I was in my 20s, women were happy to have a 3/4 carat stone. I love my 1 carat stone. These days, women think that's tiny and insist on these obnoxiously huge 2 and 3 carat stones.

Women had large stones in the past. I have my grandma's art deco one, almost 2 ct, European cut. It's exquisite.

[Anonymous]

I rarely notice them because I’m usually too preoccupied with something else.
My own ring is family ring but it’s one of the most beautiful I’ve seen and even though I didn’t choose it, it is something I would be drawn to if shopping for one. It is much larger than I would buy since I am very practical so if someone judged me as extravagant because of it they’d be way off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I judge women who show off huge stones. So much money wasted on a status symbol.

+1 I never judge small stones, but my opinion of you drops the bigger the diamond gets.

[Anonymous]

I am very much judging the PP from a few pages ago who bumped a six year old thread to tell everyone she has a four carat yellow diamond and a Cartier band.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge women who show off huge stones. So much money wasted on a status symbol.

+1 I never judge small stones, but my opinion of you drops the bigger the diamond gets.

Seems unfair. My sister has our grandmother’s 2ct ring. Our NYC firefighter grandfather worked hard and saved up money to buy this stone after many years of marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge women who show off huge stones. So much money wasted on a status symbol.

+1 I never judge small stones, but my opinion of you drops the bigger the diamond gets.

Seems unfair. My sister has our grandmother’s 2ct ring. Our NYC firefighter grandfather worked hard and saved up money to buy this stone after many years of marriage.

But why do you care about some nobody's opinion? They're just envious because they grew up poor and they are still poor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not at all. Also, my wealthiest friends all have smaller rings. Most are vintage or family rings but not all. I’m talking friends with very high net worths or big trust funds.

How do you define high net worth?

Net worth’s over $25 million.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge women who show off huge stones. So much money wasted on a status symbol.

+1 I never judge small stones, but my opinion of you drops the bigger the diamond gets.

If you dig down deep and find some tiny shred of creativity and intelligence, you might be able to find something of more substance to take into consideration when you run around judging people.

[Anonymous]

I don’t even notice their ring. I did in my 20s when a lot of people were getting engaged, but now I never really look. And so many people just wear their wedding band anyhow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t even notice their ring. I did in my 20s when a lot of people were getting engaged, but now I never really look. And so many people just wear their wedding band anyhow.

+100. Now that I’m in my 50s, I never notice unless it’s a huge ring and looks gaudy. Most of the women I know only wear their band.

[Anonymous]

The classic diamond engagement ring is pointless and we didn’t do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 38. I got married 20 years ago. It’s not something I even look at or care about anymore.

Just like bottle vs breast fed or how old the kid was when he was potty trained.

Nobody cares decades later.

This!

I’m married 20 years and in my 40s now. I love DH dearly and don’t wear a ring half the time due to an old tendon injury. How do you ladies judge me for that? Do you think I don’t love my husband because I don’t have a ring on? Does he not love me because he does sports where he constantly uses his hand and the ring is an obstacle? Nah, we have a great relationship that doesn’t really need a symbol. Oh, yeah and we are in the VHNW category - so no relationship to money.

[Anonymous]

I don’t even notice rings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do.

Sometimes when I see a woman with a tiny diamond I wonder how cheap her husband must be to not bother to get her something nicer.

The larger the diamond the more I think her husband wanted to impress her/ show his love. Also that he’s rich.

If size or cost of a ring or a wedding was a good measure of a couple's love or predictor of quality or length of the marriage, lives would be so easy.

Same goes for financial status. Just because a couple is frugal or carefree, doesn't mean they don't have higher income, investments or inheritance than schlubs with heavy loans flaunting their extravagant diamond.