Not a bro Dad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll take a stab at DC-area Bro Dads:

- Golfs. Like, actually likes it, not just for networking
- Fit, but not "too" fit ("dad bod")
- Polo shirts and ballcaps on the weekend
- Drinks beer
- May or may not smoke weed, but never around the kids
- Listens to Dave Mathews Bland- sorry, I mean "Band"
- Played guitar in college to get chicks, may play in a hobby band with his bro dad pals
- College educated
- Cell phone clipped to his belt (which is often one of those woven leather jobs)
- General air of benign douchebaggery

Did I miss anything?

Actually, for some inexplicable reason, they tend to wear visors more than actual hats.
Really into their son’s lax games and talks about lax all.the.time even if they didn’t play it.
Wife is SAHM
If not formerly involved in GOP politics then grew up in the area and does something in real estate, likely b/c either their family owns the company or their buddy from Prep/Landon/Gonzaga’s family owns the company.

NP here. Okay, this post is almost spot on.

[Anonymous]

I was just in SoCal for a week for work and visiting my family in OC.

Now that I'm a bit older and we are trying for a kid, I totally get the appeal of the Bro Dad lifestyle. The weather just naturally pushes you to this outdoor-centric Bro Dad life. Saw so many dads skateboarding or surfing with their sons this past week at the beach.

That said, the Bro Dad life really reinforces gender norms. I saw exactly zero Bro Dads engaging in one-on-one activities with their daughters. Lots of wives of Bro Dads had the daughters at the shopping centers, however.

I'm still conflicted. It's my destiny to be a Bro Dad, but at the same time it's a bit shallow. I did, however, buy a new pair of Billabong shorts to wear in DC lol

[Anonymous]

I don't get the hatred for them. They seem like ordinary guys who are really into spending time with their kids.

Only in stupid, vapid, DCUM-think is that something worthy of ridicule.


Compared to the typical "DCUM-dad", those guys are catches. At least they can probably change a flat tire without calling AAA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get the hatred for them. They seem like ordinary guys who are really into spending time with their kids.

Only in stupid, vapid, DCUM-think is that something worthy of ridicule.


Compared to the typical "DCUM-dad", those guys are catches. At least they can probably change a flat tire without calling AAA.

Bro is a micro aggressive term. It’s way to attack and put down all men. Micro aggression is a big thing with white women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't get the hatred for them. They seem like ordinary guys who are really into spending time with their kids.

Only in stupid, vapid, DCUM-think is that something worthy of ridicule.


Compared to the typical "DCUM-dad", those guys are catches. At least they can probably change a flat tire without calling AAA.

Bro is a micro aggressive term. It’s way to attack and put down all men. Micro aggression is a big thing with white women.

I hadn't thought of it in thAt way, but I believe you may actually be more right than you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't get the hatred for them. They seem like ordinary guys who are really into spending time with their kids.

Only in stupid, vapid, DCUM-think is that something worthy of ridicule.


Compared to the typical "DCUM-dad", those guys are catches. At least they can probably change a flat tire without calling AAA.

Bro is a micro aggressive term. It’s way to attack and put down all men. Micro aggression is a big thing with white women.

Wtf is a micro aggression term? Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was just in SoCal for a week for work and visiting my family in OC.

Now that I'm a bit older and we are trying for a kid, I totally get the appeal of the Bro Dad lifestyle. The weather just naturally pushes you to this outdoor-centric Bro Dad life. Saw so many dads skateboarding or surfing with their sons this past week at the beach.

That said, the Bro Dad life really reinforces gender norms. I saw exactly zero Bro Dads engaging in one-on-one activities with their daughters. Lots of wives of Bro Dads had the daughters at the shopping centers, however.

I'm still conflicted. It's my destiny to be a Bro Dad, but at the same time it's a bit shallow. I did, however, buy a new pair of Billabong shorts to wear in DC lol

Dude! If you have a daughter, you can still bro out with her. No matter how stereotypically "girly" she may be, you'll be able to find an activity where you two connect. It could be surfing, martial arts, sports, woodworking, whatever. For example, I'm what most what characterize as girly - I like clothes, pink, flowers, unicorns, all that. But I also love military & nautical history. You can find that common ground. We have faith in you, future bro Dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't get the hatred for them. They seem like ordinary guys who are really into spending time with their kids.

Only in stupid, vapid, DCUM-think is that something worthy of ridicule.


Compared to the typical "DCUM-dad", those guys are catches. At least they can probably change a flat tire without calling AAA.

Bro is a micro aggressive term. It’s way to attack and put down all men. Micro aggression is a big thing with white women.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't get the hatred for them. They seem like ordinary guys who are really into spending time with their kids.

Only in stupid, vapid, DCUM-think is that something worthy of ridicule.


Compared to the typical "DCUM-dad", those guys are catches. At least they can probably change a flat tire without calling AAA.

Bro is a micro aggressive term. It’s way to attack and put down all men. Micro aggression is a big thing with white women.

Wtf is a micro aggression term? Lol

Microaggressions are the everyday verbal, nonverbal, and environmental slights, snubs, or insults, whether intentional or unintentional, which communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative messages to target persons based solely upon their group membership.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll take a stab at DC-area Bro Dads:

- Golfs. Like, actually likes it, not just for networking
- Fit, but not "too" fit ("dad bod")
- Polo shirts and ballcaps on the weekend
- Drinks beer
- May or may not smoke weed, but never around the kids
- Listens to Dave Mathews Bland- sorry, I mean "Band"
- Played guitar in college to get chicks, may play in a hobby band with his bro dad pals
- College educated
- Cell phone clipped to his belt (which is often one of those woven leather jobs)
- General air of benign douchebaggery

Did I miss anything?

This is every 38 year old white guy in this town.

[Anonymous]

I somehow just saw this thread. It’s spot on. I grew up in Southern California and taught school out there too. I moved to DC a few years ago and there was a dad of a little boy in my class who was clearly a SoCal bro dad. I asked him where in California he was from, and he seemed so shocked that I knew he was from California. He has he his dad SUV lifted, ALWAYS wore a flat billed hat and wore a billabong shirt sleeved button down. I said oh you just have a California vibe.

[Anonymous]

I live in DC but I'm from California (Calabasas area) and I realize we may well be the BroDad and wife you're talking about. DH is outdoorsy, dresses like he's from SoCal, drives one of the biggest vehicles on the road, works in sales...

[Anonymous]

I’m on vacation in San Diego now and my husband started commenting on the dads we keep seeing and I thought “that sounds familiar” and had to find this thread for him. Spot on! Thanks to the so cal native with the description. My husband spotted the vans and flat brim hats early on. But I love San Diego! And fit bro dads seems like a lot of fun!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'll take a stab at DC-area Bro Dads:

- Golfs. Like, actually likes it, not just for networking
- Fit, but not "too" fit ("dad bod")
- Polo shirts and ballcaps on the weekend
- Drinks beer
- May or may not smoke weed, but never around the kids
- Listens to Dave Mathews Bland- sorry, I mean "Band"
- Played guitar in college to get chicks, may play in a hobby band with his bro dad pals
- College educated
- Cell phone clipped to his belt (which is often one of those woven leather jobs)
- General air of benign douchebaggery

Did I miss anything?

This is every 38 year old white guy in this town.

No, no way. The dads around here are nowhere cool enough to be bro dads. They’re not masculine enough.

[Anonymous]

I used to work with a NoVA bro dad. Late 30s, day job is in social media, in a band that plays local clubs and festivals, wears jeans with a t-shirt and slip-on checkerboard Vans, has tattoos, but only the meaningful kind related to his music or kids, brunches in Old Town or Del Ray.