It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

I don't know why people are so adamant about how great it is to be in your 40s with young kids. It's not! I'm speaking from experience! I applaud young women and men for not following this path.

+1. It's a cope. Nobody believes these people. Looking like a grandma with your young kids is sad, if we're being honest.

You think 38 is a grandma? Oh wait. That tracks.

No matter how stylish you think you are, you’ll still an old 45 year old mom at the primary school and the 60-ish looking grandma at their high school graduation. Remember the ‘hot moms’ growing up? They were hot because they had kids in their 20s and their bodies snapped back.

DP. To think that anyone cares about being a “hot mom.” Seriously pathetic.

+1 WTF?

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

I don't know why people are so adamant about how great it is to be in your 40s with young kids. It's not! I'm speaking from experience! I applaud young women and men for not following this path.

+1. It's a cope. Nobody believes these people. Looking like a grandma with your young kids is sad, if we're being honest.

You think 38 is a grandma? Oh wait. That tracks.

No matter how stylish you think you are, you’ll still an old 45 year old mom at the primary school and the 60-ish looking grandma at their high school graduation. Remember the ‘hot moms’ growing up? They were hot because they had kids in their 20s and their bodies snapped back.

DP. To think that anyone cares about being a “hot mom.” Seriously pathetic.

+1 WTF?

Stunted maturity.

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Anonymous wrote:waiting until you are 40 to have kids, college graduation picture!

That’s the ideal! Everyone is just jealous of all the pointless “fun” she had in her 20s and 30s. The hookups, dating apps, the traveling, the brunches, and all the Netflix shows she consumed.

Seems like some grannies are obsessed with that fun. Wonder why…

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

I don't know why people are so adamant about how great it is to be in your 40s with young kids. It's not! I'm speaking from experience! I applaud young women and men for not following this path.

+1. It's a cope. Nobody believes these people. Looking like a grandma with your young kids is sad, if we're being honest.

You think 38 is a grandma? Oh wait. That tracks.

No matter how stylish you think you are, you’ll still an old 45 year old mom at the primary school and the 60-ish looking grandma at their high school graduation. Remember the ‘hot moms’ growing up? They were hot because they had kids in their 20s and their bodies snapped back.

DP. To think that anyone cares about being a “hot mom.” Seriously pathetic.

+1 WTF?

Stunted maturity.

I guess when you are a 38 year old granny you missed a few developmental phases.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

Yes, instead they should marry that schmuck when they're 22.

Newsflash but if more people are getting married earlier (which, for the record, the only evidence of on this thread is MBB marrying a Bon Jovi) then that means that some of those 30-something schmucks are joining the early 20s marriage pool. Because it's not like more better guys are appearing out of thin air at age 22. So people are just marrying the same dud men, at earlier ages when they are even more immature and useless than their 30 year old self (who at least knows how to use the dishwasher and w/d).

And for the record! I met DH when i was in college, him in grad school and I married at 26. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with it, but i do think having some kind of agenda at age 22 to find marriage material is bizarre.

Of course people would be far better off marrying the same person they settled for in their 30s five or ten years sooner. You’d have ten years of equity in your house, your kids would be in elementary school, you’d be closer to retirement, you’d be healthier. You wouldn’t have all that trauma and baggage from failed relationships in your 20s.

I hate to break it to you, but that’s not how most people view their 20s. Most of us were having a blast. No “trauma”. And just because a relationship doesn’t end in marriage doesn’t mean it “failed”. I enjoyed my relationships in college and early 20s (still friends with some) but I’m so glad I didn’t marry them. You don’t have to settle for the first guys you meet because you’re desperate to get married.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

I don't know why people are so adamant about how great it is to be in your 40s with young kids. It's not! I'm speaking from experience! I applaud young women and men for not following this path.

+1. It's a cope. Nobody believes these people. Looking like a grandma with your young kids is sad, if we're being honest.

You think 38 is a grandma? Oh wait. That tracks.

No matter how stylish you think you are, you’ll still an old 45 year old mom at the primary school and the 60-ish looking grandma at their high school graduation. Remember the ‘hot moms’ growing up? They were hot because they had kids in their 20s and their bodies snapped back.

DP. To think that anyone cares about being a “hot mom.” Seriously pathetic.

+1 WTF?

Stunted maturity.

I guess when you are a 38 year old granny you missed a few developmental phases.

I can't even imagine what it's like to have an IRL conversation with a this person. Absolutely mind numbing.

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Anonymous wrote:waiting until you are 40 to have kids, college graduation picture!

That’s the ideal! Everyone is just jealous of all the pointless “fun” she had in her 20s and 30s. The hookups, dating apps, the traveling, the brunches, and all the Netflix shows she consumed.

Seems like some grannies are obsessed with that fun. Wonder why…

I had my kids in my 20s and I am obsessed with fun.

Because it is fun.

Sometimes fun like travel includes my now older kids, and sometimes it doesn’t.

Life is full of trade offs. I very purposefully had children early because very obvious health issues made it clear that my fertility would be more limited than other people. I don’t envy people who had fun 20s because that’s not the choice I made for myself. And I don’t think anyone should envy me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:waiting until you are 40 to have kids, college graduation picture!

That’s the ideal! Everyone is just jealous of all the pointless “fun” she had in her 20s and 30s. The hookups, dating apps, the traveling, the brunches, and all the Netflix shows she consumed.

Seems like some grannies are obsessed with that fun. Wonder why…

I had my kids in my 20s and I am obsessed with fun.

Because it is fun.

Sometimes fun like travel includes my now older kids, and sometimes it doesn’t.

Life is full of trade offs. I very purposefully had children early because very obvious health issues made it clear that my fertility would be more limited than other people. I don’t envy people who had fun 20s because that’s not the choice I made for myself. And I don’t think anyone should envy me.

So you were just looking for a baby daddy to get those kids asap.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:waiting until you are 40 to have kids, college graduation picture!

That’s the ideal! Everyone is just jealous of all the pointless “fun” she had in her 20s and 30s. The hookups, dating apps, the traveling, the brunches, and all the Netflix shows she consumed.

Seems like some grannies are obsessed with that fun. Wonder why…

I had my kids in my 20s and I am obsessed with fun.

Because it is fun.

Sometimes fun like travel includes my now older kids, and sometimes it doesn’t.

Life is full of trade offs. I very purposefully had children early because very obvious health issues made it clear that my fertility would be more limited than other people. I don’t envy people who had fun 20s because that’s not the choice I made for myself. And I don’t think anyone should envy me.

And others marry for love and have children when they are ready to be parents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

Yes, instead they should marry that schmuck when they're 22.

Newsflash but if more people are getting married earlier (which, for the record, the only evidence of on this thread is MBB marrying a Bon Jovi) then that means that some of those 30-something schmucks are joining the early 20s marriage pool. Because it's not like more better guys are appearing out of thin air at age 22. So people are just marrying the same dud men, at earlier ages when they are even more immature and useless than their 30 year old self (who at least knows how to use the dishwasher and w/d).

And for the record! I met DH when i was in college, him in grad school and I married at 26. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with it, but i do think having some kind of agenda at age 22 to find marriage material is bizarre.

Of course people would be far better off marrying the same person they settled for in their 30s five or ten years sooner. You’d have ten years of equity in your house, your kids would be in elementary school, you’d be closer to retirement, you’d be healthier. You wouldn’t have all that trauma and baggage from failed relationships in your 20s.

I hate to break it to you, but that’s not how most people view their 20s. Most of us were having a blast. No “trauma”. And just because a relationship doesn’t end in marriage doesn’t mean it “failed”. I enjoyed my relationships in college and early 20s (still friends with some) but I’m so glad I didn’t marry them. You don’t have to settle for the first guys you meet because you’re desperate to get married.

NP but I got married in my early 20’s to my first boyfriend (dated since we were 18). Not because I was desperate to get married, but because I loved him and wanted to marry him and wasn’t interested in seeing if maybe the grass might be greener somewhere else. I believe he felt the same way.

We still managed to have a blast in our 20’s - we just did it together. We’ve been together for over 20 years now and we have learned how to be adults and how to be parents together. No regrets.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

Yes, instead they should marry that schmuck when they're 22.

Newsflash but if more people are getting married earlier (which, for the record, the only evidence of on this thread is MBB marrying a Bon Jovi) then that means that some of those 30-something schmucks are joining the early 20s marriage pool. Because it's not like more better guys are appearing out of thin air at age 22. So people are just marrying the same dud men, at earlier ages when they are even more immature and useless than their 30 year old self (who at least knows how to use the dishwasher and w/d).

And for the record! I met DH when i was in college, him in grad school and I married at 26. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with it, but i do think having some kind of agenda at age 22 to find marriage material is bizarre.

Of course people would be far better off marrying the same person they settled for in their 30s five or ten years sooner. You’d have ten years of equity in your house, your kids would be in elementary school, you’d be closer to retirement, you’d be healthier. You wouldn’t have all that trauma and baggage from failed relationships in your 20s.

I hate to break it to you, but that’s not how most people view their 20s. Most of us were having a blast. No “trauma”. And just because a relationship doesn’t end in marriage doesn’t mean it “failed”. I enjoyed my relationships in college and early 20s (still friends with some) but I’m so glad I didn’t marry them. You don’t have to settle for the first guys you meet because you’re desperate to get married.

NP but I got married in my early 20’s to my first boyfriend (dated since we were 18). Not because I was desperate to get married, but because I loved him and wanted to marry him and wasn’t interested in seeing if maybe the grass might be greener somewhere else. I believe he felt the same way.

We still managed to have a blast in our 20’s - we just did it together. We’ve been together for over 20 years now and we have learned how to be adults and how to be parents together. No regrets.

That is gross. 🤮

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

Yes, instead they should marry that schmuck when they're 22.

Newsflash but if more people are getting married earlier (which, for the record, the only evidence of on this thread is MBB marrying a Bon Jovi) then that means that some of those 30-something schmucks are joining the early 20s marriage pool. Because it's not like more better guys are appearing out of thin air at age 22. So people are just marrying the same dud men, at earlier ages when they are even more immature and useless than their 30 year old self (who at least knows how to use the dishwasher and w/d).

And for the record! I met DH when i was in college, him in grad school and I married at 26. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with it, but i do think having some kind of agenda at age 22 to find marriage material is bizarre.

Of course people would be far better off marrying the same person they settled for in their 30s five or ten years sooner. You’d have ten years of equity in your house, your kids would be in elementary school, you’d be closer to retirement, you’d be healthier. You wouldn’t have all that trauma and baggage from failed relationships in your 20s.

I hate to break it to you, but that’s not how most people view their 20s. Most of us were having a blast. No “trauma”. And just because a relationship doesn’t end in marriage doesn’t mean it “failed”. I enjoyed my relationships in college and early 20s (still friends with some) but I’m so glad I didn’t marry them. You don’t have to settle for the first guys you meet because you’re desperate to get married.

NP but I got married in my early 20’s to my first boyfriend (dated since we were 18). Not because I was desperate to get married, but because I loved him and wanted to marry him and wasn’t interested in seeing if maybe the grass might be greener somewhere else. I believe he felt the same way.

We still managed to have a blast in our 20’s - we just did it together. We’ve been together for over 20 years now and we have learned how to be adults and how to be parents together. No regrets.

You definitely were desperate to get married. Stop lying.

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There are pluses and minuses to getting married and having kids younger vs later. Just glad to have the choice! I made the choice to do it later and I'm glad I did but others may feel differently!

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Anonymous wrote:There are pluses and minuses to getting married and having kids younger vs later. Just glad to have the choice! I made the choice to do it later and I'm glad I did but others may feel differently!

OP is most definitely not pro-choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:waiting until you are 40 to have kids, college graduation picture!

That’s the ideal! Everyone is just jealous of all the pointless “fun” she had in her 20s and 30s. The hookups, dating apps, the traveling, the brunches, and all the Netflix shows she consumed.

Seems like some grannies are obsessed with that fun. Wonder why…

I had my kids in my 20s and I am obsessed with fun.

Because it is fun.

Sometimes fun like travel includes my now older kids, and sometimes it doesn’t.

Life is full of trade offs. I very purposefully had children early because very obvious health issues made it clear that my fertility would be more limited than other people. I don’t envy people who had fun 20s because that’s not the choice I made for myself. And I don’t think anyone should envy me.

And others marry for love and have children when they are ready to be parents.

That’s a very interesting takeaway and doesn’t make you seem insecure or bitter at all 🤣🤣