Boy moms, you happy with your choice?

[Anonymous]

I didn’t and yes, I’m happy.

And for my fellow Jews questioning; Google behind the Bris. Granted we are Humanistic Jews and body autonomy was always a big one for us. But I know folks who practice Conservative Judaism who have slipped the bris or done an alternative (blood letting) that kept their kid intact.

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Anonymous wrote:I believe current rate in the US is close 50/50.

So while boomer parents cannot fathom choosing not to circumcise, and most of the children were circumcised, the US is a different place now. Lots of people are making more educated choses about healthcare vs the old thinking of "it looks funny/gross" if you don't circumcise. Plus more immigration. The 1970s-90s practice norms are dying. So while you personally may think it looks weird or girls won't like it, or some of the other dumb reasons since it was the norm in your generation- that will not the experience and opinions of the next generation of teens that are now young children.

I think this is a good point. Boomer and older Gen X women might thinks an uncut guy is "weird." But, younger women have probably experienced both worlds, and don't have a hangup about it, one way or the other.

It's just an odd old American practice that is dying out.

If the current rate in the us is 50-50, it is skewed by the number of Hispanic births. Truly. The large majority of white male babies in the DMV are circumcised. In very liberal/hippie circles it is closer to 50-50

I wonder what it is about white people in the US (and to a lesser extent, Australia), that causes them to be an outlier when compared to even the countries that we're closest to culturally (e.g., Canada and the UK). Canada is especially striking, because they have a much lower circumcision rate than the US, even though they're culturally, economically and religiously very similar to us. Countries in Europe have circumcision rates in the single digits.

What was the driving cause that made white Americans diverge so much from white people in the rest of the world?

It was promoted in the latter part of the 19th century as a somewhat cure for all that ails you. Including self pleasure. Look it up-it's very interesting how normal human anatomy became pathologized.

[Anonymous]

We did. If I had to go back I probably wouldn't but it's not something I obsess over.

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Anonymous wrote:I believe current rate in the US is close 50/50.

So while boomer parents cannot fathom choosing not to circumcise, and most of the children were circumcised, the US is a different place now. Lots of people are making more educated choses about healthcare vs the old thinking of "it looks funny/gross" if you don't circumcise. Plus more immigration. The 1970s-90s practice norms are dying. So while you personally may think it looks weird or girls won't like it, or some of the other dumb reasons since it was the norm in your generation- that will not the experience and opinions of the next generation of teens that are now young children.

I think this is a good point. Boomer and older Gen X women might thinks an uncut guy is "weird." But, younger women have probably experienced both worlds, and don't have a hangup about it, one way or the other.

It's just an odd old American practice that is dying out.

If the current rate in the us is 50-50, it is skewed by the number of Hispanic births. Truly. The large majority of white male babies in the DMV are circumcised. In very liberal/hippie circles it is closer to 50-50

Exactly this. "Oh the national average is around 50% so my son won't be the odd one out if I don't get him circumcised" is not a valid argument. If you live in an area without a large Hispanic population the rate is still close to 100% cut. I asked all my friends when my son was born and every single one got their sons circumcised. Yes, this was twelve years ago but it's still the same today.

My daughter (sixteen, very gen Z) works at a local (very hoity-toity) daycare/summer camp and there was a grand total of one boy that was uncircumcised (and apparently everyone thought it was gross to have to change him)

Okay, I circ’d my son, but I hate this trope of uncircumcised penises as “gross.” It’s a variation of a body part. No need to shame.

It's so weird. It basically means that people are having cosmetic surgery performed on infants.

Meh, it doesn't bother be that other people choose to circumcise any more than it bothers me that other people choose to pierce their baby daughter's ears. I don't think cosmetic decisions on behalf of babies are the end of the world. I *do* however think caregivers calling their infant charges "gross" for aesthetics is disturbing and worrying. I sure hope PP's daughter are her colleagues never work with children again.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Happy we circumcized. I've always, always been happy that my DH is circed too.

Same here - zero regrets (our boys, or should I say men? young men?) are in their 20s. Spouse late 50s

+1

[Anonymous]

We did circumcise. Can’t say I have thought about since. Alls well.

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Anonymous wrote:I believe current rate in the US is close 50/50.

So while boomer parents cannot fathom choosing not to circumcise, and most of the children were circumcised, the US is a different place now. Lots of people are making more educated choses about healthcare vs the old thinking of "it looks funny/gross" if you don't circumcise. Plus more immigration. The 1970s-90s practice norms are dying. So while you personally may think it looks weird or girls won't like it, or some of the other dumb reasons since it was the norm in your generation- that will not the experience and opinions of the next generation of teens that are now young children.

I think this is a good point. Boomer and older Gen X women might thinks an uncut guy is "weird." But, younger women have probably experienced both worlds, and don't have a hangup about it, one way or the other.

It's just an odd old American practice that is dying out.

If the current rate in the us is 50-50, it is skewed by the number of Hispanic births. Truly. The large majority of white male babies in the DMV are circumcised. In very liberal/hippie circles it is closer to 50-50

I wonder what it is about white people in the US (and to a lesser extent, Australia), that causes them to be an outlier when compared to even the countries that we're closest to culturally (e.g., Canada and the UK). Canada is especially striking, because they have a much lower circumcision rate than the US, even though they're culturally, economically and religiously very similar to us. Countries in Europe have circumcision rates in the single digits.

What was the driving cause that made white Americans diverge so much from white people in the rest of the world?

It was promoted in the latter part of the 19th century as a somewhat cure for all that ails you. Including self pleasure. Look it up-it's very interesting how normal human anatomy became pathologized.

DP but highly recommend this book.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0465026532/ref=ox_sc_act_title_33?smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&psc=1

[Anonymous]

We didn’t circumcise because my husband isn’t (he’s from a European country where it isn’t common). And I don’t think much about it. People are VERY weird about circumcision. .

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I believe current rate in the US is close 50/50.

So while boomer parents cannot fathom choosing not to circumcise, and most of the children were circumcised, the US is a different place now. Lots of people are making more educated choses about healthcare vs the old thinking of "it looks funny/gross" if you don't circumcise. Plus more immigration. The 1970s-90s practice norms are dying. So while you personally may think it looks weird or girls won't like it, or some of the other dumb reasons since it was the norm in your generation- that will not the experience and opinions of the next generation of teens that are now young children.

I think this is a good point. Boomer and older Gen X women might thinks an uncut guy is "weird." But, younger women have probably experienced both worlds, and don't have a hangup about it, one way or the other.

It's just an odd old American practice that is dying out.

If the current rate in the us is 50-50, it is skewed by the number of Hispanic births. Truly. The large majority of white male babies in the DMV are circumcised. In very liberal/hippie circles it is closer to 50-50

I wonder what it is about white people in the US (and to a lesser extent, Australia), that causes them to be an outlier when compared to even the countries that we're closest to culturally (e.g., Canada and the UK). Canada is especially striking, because they have a much lower circumcision rate than the US, even though they're culturally, economically and religiously very similar to us. Countries in Europe have circumcision rates in the single digits.

What was the driving cause that made white Americans diverge so much from white people in the rest of the world?

It was promoted in the latter part of the 19th century as a somewhat cure for all that ails you. Including self pleasure. Look it up-it's very interesting how normal human anatomy became pathologized.

I looked into it after this post, and the history is weird, some might say creepy. 19th century Americans had a strange fear of masturbation.

[Anonymous]

I got my son circumcised, and I'm very happy with my choice. There was never any doubt in mind about doing it really. My mom is pretty hippie-dippy so she didn't get my younger half-brother done, and he's had a whole bunch of issues because of it (he's only nineteen) with both hygiene/health and girls making fun of him, so I've always figured it was best to do it.

[Anonymous]

My husband wanted it done because he was circumcised at 6 for a foreskin issue. Since he has the equipment and I don't, I deferred to him

[Anonymous]

Circumcising boys is a form of child abuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you glad that you did/didn't get your son circumcised, or do you wish you could go back and make the opposite choice?

Please be civil! I know this topic can get heated.

Glad I did not.

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Anonymous wrote:I believe current rate in the US is close 50/50.

So while boomer parents cannot fathom choosing not to circumcise, and most of the children were circumcised, the US is a different place now. Lots of people are making more educated choses about healthcare vs the old thinking of "it looks funny/gross" if you don't circumcise. Plus more immigration. The 1970s-90s practice norms are dying. So while you personally may think it looks weird or girls won't like it, or some of the other dumb reasons since it was the norm in your generation- that will not the experience and opinions of the next generation of teens that are now young children.

I think this is a good point. Boomer and older Gen X women might thinks an uncut guy is "weird." But, younger women have probably experienced both worlds, and don't have a hangup about it, one way or the other.

It's just an odd old American practice that is dying out.

If the current rate in the us is 50-50, it is skewed by the number of Hispanic births. Truly. The large majority of white male babies in the DMV are circumcised. In very liberal/hippie circles it is closer to 50-50

Exactly this. "Oh the national average is around 50% so my son won't be the odd one out if I don't get him circumcised" is not a valid argument. If you live in an area without a large Hispanic population the rate is still close to 100% cut. I asked all my friends when my son was born and every single one got their sons circumcised. Yes, this was twelve years ago but it's still the same today.

My daughter (sixteen, very gen Z) works at a local (very hoity-toity) daycare/summer camp and there was a grand total of one boy that was uncircumcised (and apparently everyone thought it was gross to have to change him)

I'm sorry what?! How does the presence of foreskin make changing a diaper any more or less gross?

Certainly speaks to maturity level.

Very funny to see the last line of defense is always "because it looks gross to me, and everyone I know agrees".
I bet all these moms would explode into a sanctimonious rant if someone dared to comment on their middle aged (natural!) portly frame, and saggy appearance.

I'm not saying you have to circumcise your kid, and I'm not judging you if you don't, but if your justification for not doing it is "it's so common not to in the US that my son won't have to worry about getting teased or girls thinking he's gross" you are unfortunately mistaken.

I'm sorry if it's shallow, but I didn't want my son to have to worry about girls thinking he's gross. Because that is absolutely a thing that happens for uncircumcised boys in the US even with "gen z" girls, no matter what you read on your intactivist Facebook groups.

How do you know this?

Because my teenage daughter has talked about how her and her friends think uncircumcised is gross, and looking on TikTok that is not an unpopular opinion. The circumcision rate where I live in Virginia is as high now as it was when I'm a teenager. Why would the prevailing attitude that foreskin is gross had changed?

You always chime in on these threads about your daughter and her friends and TikTok. Seriously?

I personally live in VA, but believe it or not, my world extends beyond its borders. My kids' world does, too. We travel enough that this universal distaste is not a thing.

Oh wait - is that the school nurse who creepily keeps track of teen circumcision?

How would a school nurse get this information?

Sports physicals? I forget exactly. It was creepy.

I think I remember her, she wasn't a school nurse, she was a nurse practitioner that did sports physicals, and she just said that most boys she sees are circumcised.

60% in the northeast, for the age group born in 2005-2010

[Anonymous]

I have mixed feelings. But I made the most informed decision I could at the time.

Medically: There was a benefit in terms of reducing the incidence of STIs, particularly HIV, HPV, and syphilis. That still holds true.

Superficially: I wanted him to look like his peers. In my age bracket, almost no men were uncircumcised.