The supposedly rich people in the money forum who are freakin’ clueless about their finances. How is that even possible?? |
The person who starts every response with "You are aware ...." |
I don't post on M&F for advice, but I grew up UMC/wealthy and am now UMC/wealthy...but I'm only slightly above clueless about finances. My parents taught me basic things so I'm responsible, but I don't know about all the tax-advantaged stuff beyond our 401K. As an adult, I didn't earn much in my 20s and we had a moderate HHI when we got married. DH handles our investment stuff for the most part, so I still skew clueless relative to my HHI. I'm not defending myself, I'm just explaining how it can happen. Regardless, though, I'd ask advice from a finance professional or someone knowledgeable that I know in IRL...not DCUM. |
Along these lines, people with highly specific and personal definitions of [non-standardized term] that they insist everyone follow. "Your child is not potty trained until he is dry all night every night, can use the big toilet without an insert, handle every button and zipper ever invented, wash his hands consistently for at least 25 seconds, never have a single accident for any reason, etc. EVERYONE KNOWS THAT SO STOP INTENTIONALLY MISREPRESENTING HIM AS POTTY TRAINED!!" Or: "All kids under the age of 2 (or 3, or 4 or whatever) are in DAYCARE not SCHOOL." Or: "You cannot say your child is reading unless they can write a dissertation on the book they just read. And there'd better not be any misspellings!" |
The “bolt-ons” poster in the Trump fashion mishaps thread |
I know you meant it rhetorically, but I'll bite! A lot of adults with ADHD don't get diagnosed until well into adulthood (often only when their kid gets diagnosed). And that's if they even get diagnosed. They used to believe that you "outgrow" ADHD, so even if you did get a diagnosis as a kid, lots of people (including people with ADHD themselves) will assume you are "over it" now. And since you do develop coping mechanisms regardless as you get older, you can seem more together than you are... especially to people who don't know you intimately. Little things add up when you're around them day in and day out for 20 years. Things that might not have been apparent as long term, deep issues are clearer after 20 than after 2. Oh, he tends to be late, or misplace his keys, or whatever--but he's working on it! But then it doesn't get better, because the underlying issue hasn't been addressed. Lots of men have been socialized to pass along responsibilities that require executive functioning skills to women. Maybe they skated by okay as singles, but as they're married and especially once they have kids, they cede responsibility to their wives for scheduling, meal planning, making appointments, etc. This is true for men without ADHD, but moreso for them, because they suck at these things. I can't help but think of all the brilliant men of history who seem to have clearly had ADHD-- in many cases their brilliance was only ever known because they had a wife typing up their papers, helping them organize their thoughts, keeping them on task and on schedule, and taking care of literally every basic need, which they would have otherwise neglected. I'm sure I'm forgetting a couple reasons. But as a woman with ADHD (not diagnosed until adulthood) married to a man with ADHD (also not diagnosed until adulthood), I feel like I have some insight. |
Intelligent people who read a lot tend to be able to pick up nuances in writers' "voices". You should be impressed, not creeped out. These same people also notice plagarism. |
Did she mail that letter? |
Oh, sweetie. Bless your heart and open your marriage. |
300 views later.... nothing. LOL |
Except that so often it’s inaccurate. Then if you mention it, they maintain the assertions they are correct; then the character accusations fly. |
All of them. Including myself. |
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Agreed! I hate this website and can’t quit it! |
There’s someone I’ve seen a few times on the pets board who will reply to a post about a dog having incontinence issues or a cat with bad breath or whatever with a statement like “Ew, how disgusting. This is why I don’t have pets! Dogs / cats are so gross!”
Bortch, why are you posting on a pet message board if you are disgusted by animals?! |