I am loving quarantine, but no good way to admit it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another extreme introvert here and I feel exactly the same way, OP. I think part of this is just an interesting aspect of being a ‘minority’ on the personality scale. For the first time, many extroverts are forced to spend their time doing the things that introverts prefer, and many don’t enjoy it. Our society is structured around the preferences of extroverts so this type of quiet is disconcerting to many people. Add to that the very real tragedies associated with this disease and it’s unacceptable to admit that this new pace of life is in any way satisfying. To many people, I think the question of social isolation and tangible COVID tragedies have become conflated.

Like others here, I have two kids, and our days and weekends are normally packed with activities. We spend most Sundays with extended family and lots of time socializing. I also commute 45 minutes each way to my job. I enjoy those things because they make my kids and spouse very happy but truthfully prefer my time at home. We will return to all of that once this social distancing ends but in the meantime, I am secretly enjoying the pause and the privilege that allows me to do so.

+100 that this society is structured around and disproportionately and unfairly values the preferences of extroverts. It sucks for an introvert. Now, introverts are faring better.

[Anonymous]

I like having my family home, safe. I was having daily panic attacks during dh's last few days of commuting.

I now worry about the economy, and wonder how bad things will be. I have friends who are out of work, and almost broke. Another friend whose marriage may not survive this. Everybody missed getting together at Easter... all of those kids of things.

I figure I can worry about everything there is to worry about, and still be ok being at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And just to add, PP teacher, I don’t know anyone except teachers who is getting full salary for doing little work. I know lots of people who have lost their jobs or are furloughed with no pay, and lots of people who are expected to do all their work (plus, if you work in my industry) from home while watching the kids, but just you getting paid to do nothing.

Everyone employed in the school system is getting their full pay and most of them are doing absolutely NO work at all. The majority of employees in a school system are NOT teachers, the numbers of administrative staff both in school and in central offices far outweigh the teachers and they aren’t doing jack sh**and neither are school nurses, librarians, counselors, cafeteria cooks, bus drivers, etc. But everyone forgets that and focuses on the teachers, who are at least doing some work during this time.

+1 on all the other workers actually doing jack sh*t compared to teachers (unless you teach art, PE, music, or whatever subject that doesn't need to do zooms or prepare content). Teachers are easy targets of misdirected parental frustration of having to juggle more with kids at home.

[Anonymous]

Yeah luckily our district is scheduling PE and art via zoom, it’s high time!
I don’t understand why the librarian is not doing zoom read alouds.
I am definitely applying for jobs in the district once the crisis is over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those of you who find this relaxing - how old are your kids? Do you work?

I do. My kids are 9 and 11 and I fully acknowledge that if they were toddlers and maybe even teenagers, this would be far more miserable for us.

I just cannot fathom how anyone with kids who works find this even slightly slower paced or relaxing. I have two very active boys that are six and eight. My job is relatively flexible but I am stretched thin every minute of the day and can’t remember the last time I was alone. My mental health is seriously in a bad place. I love my kids and my family but we all need some space and some structure.

+1. I guess it is good people are feeling good but my kids are difficult and one has serious special needs and it has been awful. I am so exhausted and not even doing half my job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And just to add, PP teacher, I don’t know anyone except teachers who is getting full salary for doing little work. I know lots of people who have lost their jobs or are furloughed with no pay, and lots of people who are expected to do all their work (plus, if you work in my industry) from home while watching the kids, but just you getting paid to do nothing.

Everyone employed in the school system is getting their full pay and most of them are doing absolutely NO work at all. The majority of employees in a school system are NOT teachers, the numbers of administrative staff both in school and in central offices far outweigh the teachers and they aren’t doing jack sh**and neither are school nurses, librarians, counselors, cafeteria cooks, bus drivers, etc. But everyone forgets that and focuses on the teachers, who are at least doing some work during this time.

+1 on all the other workers actually doing jack sh*t compared to teachers (unless you teach art, PE, music, or whatever subject that doesn't need to do zooms or prepare content). Teachers are easy targets of misdirected parental frustration of having to juggle more with kids at home.

+1. What are admins doing?? It seems like they should have more work planing the online setup, managing tech, thinking about curriculum and rule changes, tracking down students in trouble. Although our teachers do nothing. One is online 20minutes per day in a chat room (no lessons or content or even video) and the other does zero. (My Es student has two teachers for the two halves of the day)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those of you who find this relaxing - how old are your kids? Do you work?

I do. My kids are 9 and 11 and I fully acknowledge that if they were toddlers and maybe even teenagers, this would be far more miserable for us.

I just cannot fathom how anyone with kids who works find this even slightly slower paced or relaxing. I have two very active boys that are six and eight. My job is relatively flexible but I am stretched thin every minute of the day and can’t remember the last time I was alone. My mental health is seriously in a bad place. I love my kids and my family but we all need some space and some structure.

Because we don’t have to rush in the morning getting ourselves and our kids, ready. We don’t have to deal (in person) with crappy bosses and co-workers, and we don’t have to come home supervise homework, and chauffeur our kids around to various activities, and on Saturdays we don’t have to be at some field at 8am, and haul along a snack for 15 kids. I can’t fathom how anyone can’t see how working from home, even with rambunctious kids, could be less stressful than the normal pace of life.

So you are proving the point earlier in the thread that something is wrong with your day to day life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those of you who find this relaxing - how old are your kids? Do you work?

I do. My kids are 9 and 11 and I fully acknowledge that if they were toddlers and maybe even teenagers, this would be far more miserable for us.

I just cannot fathom how anyone with kids who works find this even slightly slower paced or relaxing. I have two very active boys that are six and eight. My job is relatively flexible but I am stretched thin every minute of the day and can’t remember the last time I was alone. My mental health is seriously in a bad place. I love my kids and my family but we all need some space and some structure.

You have to get them into a good routine. In our house, our kids know they can't have screens or do anything fun without first getting all of their assigned school work done. Then they have a break then we start on supplemental schoolwork.

It's not that hard. Our kids are 6, 9, and 11.

OK I’m sorry. Your six-year-old does hours (The amount needed to focus at all on adult work, Since this conversation is totally pointless if you do not work) of schoolwork alone without bothering you? I literally know no one who is in that position. And I have a six-year-old who is very good in school and relatively self motivated. We also have a schedule with every hour from nine until three plotted out. Still doesn’t work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your life seriously sucked before if you are enjoying this current situation. Anyone who had a good life before does not enjoy this period.

Imagine making sweeping judgements about people you don't know, just to make yourself feel better about being absolutely miserable.

I guess misery truly does love company.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your life seriously sucked before if you are enjoying this current situation. Anyone who had a good life before does not enjoy this period.

Imagine making sweeping judgements about people you don't know, just to make yourself feel better about being absolutely miserable.

I guess misery truly does love company.

I mean I didn’t post that but this thread seems to confirm it.

[Anonymous]

OP, I mean this with peace and love, keep this to yourself.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say I'm "loving it" but I'm actually really OK with things.
People also shouldn't be complaining later about anything they dont have done, like at home. We all have that list of things to do, which may not cost money, just time. Cleaning that junk drawer, the hall closet, in my case its the basement.

Anything that doesn't have time to get done now....will never get done.

[Anonymous]

Would be we all like to get full pay and have a fraction of our work? So you are basically being paid to be a SAHM. How nice for you OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would be we all like to get full pay and have a fraction of our work? So you are basically being paid to be a SAHM. How nice for you OP!

Where does OP say she’s doing a fraction of her work. She says she and her husband are both working full-time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would be we all like to get full pay and have a fraction of our work? So you are basically being paid to be a SAHM. How nice for you OP!

I think maybe you're confused by the off topic ranting about teachers.