No one eats in this house

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Anonymous wrote:OP here


We tried the oh we're going to go eat,do you guys want anything blah blah blah plan. Mil looked like I had slapped her in the face. She started stomping around the kitchen and threw *literally threw a jar of pb, sandwich bread , cream cheese and two cans of progresso soup on the counter. Handed me a paper plate and said here.

We are here until after the new year.

When a restaurant is closed do you stand outside the door beating on it until someone lets you in? Just curious.

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This thread is a good reminder to me to make sure my current house guest (my husband’s 90 year old grandmother) is well fed. She doesn’t speak English and is so shy she won’t ask for anything. She is also too timid to just take something when she wants it. At our house houseguests are welcome to all food, so i have been going out of my way to make sure she gets plenty of food and coffee.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is a good reminder to me to make sure my current house guest (my husband’s 90 year old grandmother) is well fed. She doesn’t speak English and is so shy she won’t ask for anything. She is also too timid to just take something when she wants it. At our house houseguests are welcome to all food, so i have been going out of my way to make sure she gets plenty of food and coffee.

Oh crack out the youtube in her language. What does she speak?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here


We tried the oh we're going to go eat,do you guys want anything blah blah blah plan. Mil looked like I had slapped her in the face. She started stomping around the kitchen and threw *literally threw a jar of pb, sandwich bread , cream cheese and two cans of progresso soup on the counter. Handed me a paper plate and said here.

We are here until after the new year.

When a restaurant is closed do you stand outside the door beating on it until someone lets you in? Just curious.

+1
I was really invested in OP but now I don't really care.

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This is one of the many reason I love my chubby wife...there's NEVER a time when I am starving!

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Anonymous wrote:OP here


We tried the oh we're going to go eat,do you guys want anything blah blah blah plan. Mil looked like I had slapped her in the face. She started stomping around the kitchen and threw *literally threw a jar of pb, sandwich bread , cream cheese and two cans of progresso soup on the counter. Handed me a paper plate and said here.

We are here until after the new year.

Just pack up and leave, seriously. Why do you let people treat you this way? I wouldn't let a stranger treat me so rudely, never mind family. Just pack up and get the hell out. You will breathe a sigh of relief as you are driving away.

+1000

I'd be gone. And I would NEVER stay with them again. Cut the trip short, thanks for having us, we're hungry and need to leave now.

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I don't know, OP. You seem more interested in complaining than actually doing anything.

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I would 100 percent leave now. And I would not return. Invite them to see you, fine, but that behavior is nuts! Do they have booze? I could not survive that atmosphere.

My mom is kind of nuts about food health wise but there's a lot if it and we just go shopping and get things we want if it's not there. And this thread reminds me to make sure when we host there is an abundance of food available at all hours....which is not a problem cause DG usually stocks up like mad before guests....

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Anonymous wrote:OP here


We tried the oh we're going to go eat,do you guys want anything blah blah blah plan. Mil looked like I had slapped her in the face. She started stomping around the kitchen and threw *literally threw a jar of pb, sandwich bread , cream cheese and two cans of progresso soup on the counter. Handed me a paper plate and said here.

We are here until after the new year.

Just pack up and leave, seriously. Why do you let people treat you this way? I wouldn't let a stranger treat me so rudely, never mind family. Just pack up and get the hell out. You will breathe a sigh of relief as you are driving away.

+1

OP, GTFO. Yesterday. That woman is nuts.

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I just wanted to say thank you to all the posters on this thread. I'm visiting family in a nice warm weather locale - thank goodness with hosts with a help yourself policy in the kitchen and who have been shopping every day for food - but I've been sick as a dog and I've been hugely entertained by this thread and the one about what's weird where you are staying these stories are unbelievable!

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OP, it is time to leave that crazy place.

Tell your MIL "You seem to be upset that we are eating 3 meals a day. I'm not sure why it bothers you, because that is the standard meal plan in American culture. And it is who we are. We are people who enjoy eating meals three times a day, and some snacks. Since that seems to upset you, we are going to leave and not return any more for any visits. You are more than welcome to visit us at our house, but please understand that we will be continuing this lifestyle option of eating thrice a day."

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Anonymous wrote:I learned to take non-noisy food after my first visit to his parent's house. He even warned me that "my parents are kind of weird about food" but I was NOT prepared. What he should have said was "since both parents are huge marathoners and health nuts, they either eat air & water or tons of pasta with butter, depending on the day."

The first full day there, breakfast was black coffee (no cream or sugar in the house) and two very soft boiled eggs. I'm allergic to eggs and can only eat 100% hard boiled or else I break out in hives. I explained this to my future FIL who then proceeded to lecture me about how food allergies weren't real and the best cure to bombard my body with the offending food until it accepted it. Like, for real. Peanut allergy? Blasphemy! Eat this tub of peanut butter until you can't breathe and you'll be cured!

Lunch that day was a wedge salad, but not the yummy kind with bacon and blue cheese. No, it was a head of iceberg lettuce cut into 4 wedges and then sprinkled with oil & vinegar and salt & pepper. Dinner was a chicken breast each, 1c of steamed broccoli each, and a 1/2c brown rice each. Like, literally, portioned out. There were no seconds or leftovers.

I told my fiance that we needed to borrow his parent's car and run a fake errand because I had passed the hangry mark 2 hours prior. We hit up McDonald's and then I grabbed a bunch of snacks from the grocery store.

Unfortunately, I didn't factor in the "noise" associated with the food items I bought and was quickly found out. "I heard a crunching sound from your room. Do you have chips in there? We don't allow chips in our home or food in the bedrooms." I felt like a scolded child and my chips were confiscated. I cried. It was bad.

Now I buy my snacks before we arrive and take them out of their noisy wrappers and put them in ziploc bags. No more chips, though. Last time I was there, I had a loaf of bread and a jar of peanut butter in my suitcase and would eat illegal sandwiches in my room.

What complete a**holes. I have never typed that before on DCUM. Are you married yet? Did your fiancee stand up to his parents for treating you so poorly? I would never visit them again. I might not even invite them to our wedding. What truly selfish people, to not consider that you don't eat exactly like them and most importantly have a severe food allergy. Why did your fiancee not insist on a hotel?

Yes, we're married. I've learned their being "weird about food" is basically a cover up for two people with disordered eating finding each other. I have no idea how he survived growing up with them, that's for sure. He said to him it was normal, so he didn't realize other kids got sugar cereal for breakfast or got to have cake other than on their birthday until he was a teen and by then he was able to sneak and buy his own food when out and away from them. I still think it's a sad way to grow up.

Unfortunately, they live way, waaaaaay out in the country where the nearest hotel is around 45 mins. away. Even the nearest town is 30 mins. away and it's so small that there's no hotel or B&B in it.

Do you all have kids?

We do not and aren't planning on it.

If we did have kids, I don't think I would ever subject them to that house. MIL thinks that milk (unless breast) is the most revolting substance on earth. She has a photo of a chart on her phone that shows the amount of pus allowable in cow's milk in the US and whips it out all the time to argue with random people about how toxic milk is to the body.

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Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

Yikes. Do you warn your guests in advance? If you can only host if your guests stuff themselves beyond comfort (so they can last 20 hours) you should just stop hosting.

I just cleaned the kitchen and would like the morning off after having just treated everyone to a wonderful holiday meal. Lunch is not that far away. If you must eat before that - Burger King is open 24/7. Be there.

Honestly if hosting family is such a chore for you don’t do it.

Expecting others to eat Burger King (which is gross) because you want to close your kitchen for 20 hours is bizarre. Would it be so hard to have some clementines and bagels/ cream cheese for your guests? Taking a break from cooking is one thing, expecting your guests to starve or eat fast food on Christmas is another.

I made a lovely, abundant meal on Christmas Day. The morning after Christmas I brew coffee and take the the morning off. If someone did not eat enough at the big meal, that is hardly my doing.

Kitchen reopens at lunchtime.

So you're promoting everyone to engorge themselves at lunchtime to carry them until lunchtime the next day?

It just doesn't work like that!

Plus, I'm that person at a holiday meal who takes 1 spoonful of everything to try it and then goes back for seconds of the times I really like. I don't stuff myself and eat a holiday meal like any other meal, expecting to eat again in 5-6 hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here


We tried the oh we're going to go eat,do you guys want anything blah blah blah plan. Mil looked like I had slapped her in the face. She started stomping around the kitchen and threw *literally threw a jar of pb, sandwich bread , cream cheese and two cans of progresso soup on the counter. Handed me a paper plate and said here.

We are here until after the new year.

Please tell me you left that disgusting crap on the counter and went on with your plan to go eat. Please.

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Anonymous wrote:Almost as bad here. There's food here, yes, if you want ham for breakfast, lunch and dinner. It's ginormous. So we did an adult thing of going to the store and purchasing food we like and extras for the house. Mom is livid. Can't win.

I'm convinced that once our parents reach a certain age, there really is no pleasing them.

We always do our big meal on Christmas Eve. We then eat leftovers on Christmas day as it just makes the day flow better. We had ham and turkey, green bean casserole, corn casserole, stweet potato casserole, brussel sprouts, roasted broccoli, and rolls.

So,

Christmas Eve evening - big meal
Christmas morning - light breakfast as as people woke & then we did gifts (think toast & coffee, or a muffin & coffee, and fruit)
Christmas lunch - big meal of leftovers
Christmas dinner - everyone is on their own to reheat leftovers whenever they got hungry
Tuesday morning - mom made omelettes with leftover ham
Tuesday lunch - ham/turkey sandwiches and leftover sides
Tuesday dinner - leftovers again. still going.
Wednesday morning - omelettes with leftover ham again! :/
Wednesday lunch - ham/turkey sandwiches; the sides are mostly gone except for some sweet potatoes
Wednesday dinner - we (the kids) decided to take mom & dad out to dinner because we literally cannot eat leftovers once again. All my mom did was complain the whole time about how wasteful we were being with "all that food at home." All that food equals ham for days, some crumbly turkey, and the sweet potato casserole that just won't quit, man!

I woke early this morning and made waffles and the first thing my mom said was, "what? You're not even eating ham on the side? You should really eat some ham on the side!"

I ate leftovers for 3.5 days. That's my limit. I've already informed her that I'm going to the store soon to get stuff for lunch and to cook dinner. She's been very huffy ever since.