No one eats in this house

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here


We tried the oh we're going to go eat,do you guys want anything blah blah blah plan. Mil looked like I had slapped her in the face. She started stomping around the kitchen and threw *literally threw a jar of pb, sandwich bread , cream cheese and two cans of progresso soup on the counter. Handed me a paper plate and said here.

We are here until after the new year.

Please tell me you left that disgusting crap on the counter and went on with your plan to go eat. Please.

Cream cheese and peanut butter sandwiches with fiesta veggie soup is disgusting?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

Yikes. Do you warn your guests in advance? If you can only host if your guests stuff themselves beyond comfort (so they can last 20 hours) you should just stop hosting.

I just cleaned the kitchen and would like the morning off after having just treated everyone to a wonderful holiday meal. Lunch is not that far away. If you must eat before that - Burger King is open 24/7. Be there.

Honestly if hosting family is such a chore for you don’t do it.

Expecting others to eat Burger King (which is gross) because you want to close your kitchen for 20 hours is bizarre. Would it be so hard to have some clementines and bagels/ cream cheese for your guests? Taking a break from cooking is one thing, expecting your guests to starve or eat fast food on Christmas is another.

I made a lovely, abundant meal on Christmas Day. The morning after Christmas I brew coffee and take the the morning off. If someone did not eat enough at the big meal, that is hardly my doing.

Kitchen reopens at lunchtime.

So you're promoting everyone to engorge themselves at lunchtime to carry them until lunchtime the next day?

It just doesn't work like that!

Plus, I'm that person at a holiday meal who takes 1 spoonful of everything to try it and then goes back for seconds of the times I really like. I don't stuff myself and eat a holiday meal like any other meal, expecting to eat again in 5-6 hours.

You do not need to eat heavy holiday food every 5 hours. You are a grown adult, eat normal portions.

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Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

Yikes. Do you warn your guests in advance? If you can only host if your guests stuff themselves beyond comfort (so they can last 20 hours) you should just stop hosting.

I just cleaned the kitchen and would like the morning off after having just treated everyone to a wonderful holiday meal. Lunch is not that far away. If you must eat before that - Burger King is open 24/7. Be there.

Honestly if hosting family is such a chore for you don’t do it.

Expecting others to eat Burger King (which is gross) because you want to close your kitchen for 20 hours is bizarre. Would it be so hard to have some clementines and bagels/ cream cheese for your guests? Taking a break from cooking is one thing, expecting your guests to starve or eat fast food on Christmas is another.

I made a lovely, abundant meal on Christmas Day. The morning after Christmas I brew coffee and take the the morning off. If someone did not eat enough at the big meal, that is hardly my doing.

Kitchen reopens at lunchtime.

So you're promoting everyone to engorge themselves at lunchtime to carry them until lunchtime the next day?

It just doesn't work like that!

Plus, I'm that person at a holiday meal who takes 1 spoonful of everything to try it and then goes back for seconds of the times I really like. I don't stuff myself and eat a holiday meal like any other meal, expecting to eat again in 5-6 hours.

You do not need to eat heavy holiday food every 5 hours. You are a grown adult, eat normal portions.

You should learn to read.

[Anonymous]

"I'm convinced that once our parents reach a certain age, there really is no pleasing them."

+1

This, this, this. Difficult elders were difficult parents, just not to the same degree. Stubborn people are very hard to deal with in old age.

OP, you do you - this has nothing to do with you, this woman was likely very difficult, all along.

[Anonymous]

"You do not need to eat heavy holiday food every 5 hours. You are a grown adult, eat normal portions."

-1

Agree with the "learn to read" poster. No PP is mentioning this. At all.

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I woke early this morning and made waffles and the first thing my mom said was, "what? You're not even eating ham on the side? You should really eat some ham on the side!"

I ate leftovers for 3.5 days. That's my limit. I've already informed her that I'm going to the store soon to get stuff for lunch and to cook dinner. She's been very huffy ever since.

OK, this is a different situation than OP's where her hosts don't even seem to believe in meals.

Your mom just wants to be thrifty and use up all that ham. So take the initiative on day 2, and chop up ALL the ham that is left, and put it in freezer bags to save for "later". Or put it into a ham and lentil soup or something but again freeze it for later.

[Anonymous]

Or, get up before her and chop up and THROW OUT all the leftover ham, and TELL HER you ate it all for breakfast. Now you are all out of ham!

[Anonymous]

I had the opposite thing happening. Whenever I visit my family in Kansas, we eat a giant lunch and a giant dinner every day. Breakfast is up to us, but there's usually some really caloric option for that too.

I don't mind, except that green vegetables aren't really part of the plan. After a few days of eating like this, I start to feel kind of sluggish. Plus all the meals are very all-American, so I start to crave spicy ethnic food. Every time I come back from Kansas, I spend the next week bingeing on Indian and Thai food and kabobs.

I just spent 6 days sleeping 9 hours a night, eating heavy meals 2x/day and basically sitting on my ass all day, other than the morning run. Coming back to DC has been tough.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dinner time -- how's it going? Did everyone get a nice big Christmas dinner? Or were you fed a Christmas lunch that the hosts thought was so big at 2 pm that no one should need to eat again until Monday morning?

I served light appetizers for lunch and then a big dinner at 3 followed by dessert. After that, no more food - nada, zip. I'm still not that hungry this morning and my feet are sore from standing in the kitchen making that nice meal yesterday, so I'm not making breakfast this morning. Burger King is only a short 5 mile walk away.

Signed,

The Host

Wow. You do not have to eat. You do not have to cook. But let others in your kitchen. You may have stuffed yourself silly, but others may have not. And How hard is it to put out some bagels and cereal?

Yikes. Do you warn your guests in advance? If you can only host if your guests stuff themselves beyond comfort (so they can last 20 hours) you should just stop hosting.

I just cleaned the kitchen and would like the morning off after having just treated everyone to a wonderful holiday meal. Lunch is not that far away. If you must eat before that - Burger King is open 24/7. Be there.

Honestly if hosting family is such a chore for you don’t do it.

Expecting others to eat Burger King (which is gross) because you want to close your kitchen for 20 hours is bizarre. Would it be so hard to have some clementines and bagels/ cream cheese for your guests? Taking a break from cooking is one thing, expecting your guests to starve or eat fast food on Christmas is another.

I made a lovely, abundant meal on Christmas Day. The morning after Christmas I brew coffee and take the the morning off. If someone did not eat enough at the big meal, that is hardly my doing.

Kitchen reopens at lunchtime.

So you're promoting everyone to engorge themselves at lunchtime to carry them until lunchtime the next day?

It just doesn't work like that!

Plus, I'm that person at a holiday meal who takes 1 spoonful of everything to try it and then goes back for seconds of the times I really like. I don't stuff myself and eat a holiday meal like any other meal, expecting to eat again in 5-6 hours.

You do not need to eat heavy holiday food every 5 hours. You are a grown adult, eat normal portions.

You should learn to read.

A spoonful of ham, a spoonful of scalloped potatoes, a spoonful of peas, a spoonful of pie..that is little child portions. No wonder you are starving and needing even more food only 5 hours later.

The adults who took normal sized helpings during dinner are not going to be hungry. No one wants to eat that soon after a heavy holiday dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or, get up before her and chop up and THROW OUT all the leftover ham, and TELL HER you ate it all for breakfast. Now you are all out of ham!

Try making ham & swiss sliders on King's Hawaiian rolls - I did this yesterday and they were all gobbled up. I googled the recipe after someone mentioned it in the food forum here on DCUM.

Hoppin' John is another good use for the ham. Freeze whatever you don't use.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here


We tried the oh we're going to go eat,do you guys want anything blah blah blah plan. Mil looked like I had slapped her in the face. She started stomping around the kitchen and threw *literally threw a jar of pb, sandwich bread , cream cheese and two cans of progresso soup on the counter. Handed me a paper plate and said here.

We are here until after the new year.

Please tell me you left that disgusting crap on the counter and went on with your plan to go eat. Please.

Cream cheese and peanut butter sandwiches with fiesta veggie soup is disgusting?

It's not disgusting but it's not something I want to eat when I'm really hungry. I'd much rather eat a real fulfilling meat (meat, starch and veggies). No one is obligated to prepare it for me, I'm happy to do it myself or go out but clearly most of the control freak in-laws or parents won't even have that!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here


We tried the oh we're going to go eat,do you guys want anything blah blah blah plan. Mil looked like I had slapped her in the face. She started stomping around the kitchen and threw *literally threw a jar of pb, sandwich bread , cream cheese and two cans of progresso soup on the counter. Handed me a paper plate and said here.

We are here until after the new year.

Please tell me you left that disgusting crap on the counter and went on with your plan to go eat. Please.

Cream cheese and peanut butter sandwiches with fiesta veggie soup is disgusting?

It's not disgusting but it's not something I want to eat when I'm really hungry. I'd much rather eat a real fulfilling meat (meat, starch and veggies). No one is obligated to prepare it for me, I'm happy to do it myself or go out but clearly most of the control freak in-laws or parents won't even have that!

eh, I'm not going to cook a stick to your ribs meal for lunch. Eat a banana and some yogurt.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here


We tried the oh we're going to go eat,do you guys want anything blah blah blah plan. Mil looked like I had slapped her in the face. She started stomping around the kitchen and threw *literally threw a jar of pb, sandwich bread , cream cheese and two cans of progresso soup on the counter. Handed me a paper plate and said here.

We are here until after the new year.

Please tell me you left that disgusting crap on the counter and went on with your plan to go eat. Please.

Cream cheese and peanut butter sandwiches with fiesta veggie soup is disgusting?

It's not disgusting but it's not something I want to eat when I'm really hungry. I'd much rather eat a real fulfilling meat (meat, starch and veggies). No one is obligated to prepare it for me, I'm happy to do it myself or go out but clearly most of the control freak in-laws or parents won't even have that!

eh, I'm not going to cook a stick to your ribs meal for lunch. Eat a banana and some yogurt.

No need, I'm happy to cook and clean myself or go out. Why the urge to control what I'm eating? This is the big issue here!

[Anonymous]

I don't understand these posts- why don't you excuse yourself and go get some food? Why would you just sit there hungry in a house with no food? Pizza delivery, uber eats, door dash if you don't have a car? I don't understand..I agree your hosts should provide enough food but if not, go get some food. If there was no water, you would go go get some right?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand these posts- why don't you excuse yourself and go get some food? Why would you just sit there hungry in a house with no food? Pizza delivery, uber eats, door dash if you don't have a car? I don't understand..I agree your hosts should provide enough food but if not, go get some food. If there was no water, you would go go get some right?

A lot of us are in the middle of nowhere land, where food options are limited. The easiest thing to do would be to get groceries and prepare your own meals but that would leave crumbs!