New boyfriend, has a child he never sees.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, When I met my husband he had a daughter whose Mom gave him an awful time. She called the police on him every chance she got. Reported him for child abuse every time they fought. Slashed his tires each time she saw him with his then girlfriend. She refused to let him see his daughter unless he slept with her. She also went to every job he had and caused such a ruckus that he would end up getting fired. The stories were horrible. Anyway I didn't believe everything until one day when we were all talking and he called her out on everything she had done to him. She admitted it and said "I used to be crazy then." The day we got engaged she started "being Crazy" again and my husband stopped seeing his daughter and in turn stopped talking to the mother. We have 2 children and he is an amazing dad to them. I couldn't ask for more from him as a dad and our children prefer him over me any day. I am African American myself and I will tell you more men will be in their children's lives if the mothers didn't make it so difficult for them.

What did your DH do during all this? Did he have an attorney? Did he file a restraining order to keep her away from his workplace? Did he file for custody and visitation when he separated from the mom or at anytime later?

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Anonymous wrote:My child support is $3,500 per year. $3,500/month sounds like bs.

That seems pathetically low to me.

We don't earn $250K per year like so many on DCUMs. It's for one child too.

Even still contributing roughly $290 a month for your child is nothing.

$325/month is a lot when you only make around $25K per year. Child support is based on the NCP's income.

$25k a year? People making $12/hour should not be having kids they can't afford.

That is what my ex makes. Not me. I can afford our child on my own. I put the child support in savings.

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Anonymous wrote:It took till page 8 for someone to bring up the potential job this guy has, but the OP has yet to address anything past the first page or two.

I don't buy the $3,500 figure either.

I don't blame her. I think she posted this on the hope that someone would be like "oh yeah this happens all the time, he sounds fine" and basically got unanimous commentary about how bad he sounds and how he's probably lying about the CS. You just don't come back for that.

Good point.