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Anonymous
PP - I'm in a similar situation. We're not quite at 4 times a year, but my DH definitely has a lower sex drive than me. We've talked about it a lot. It's just his libido is not as strong as mine. No solutions - just offering empathy. I feel some comfort that I'm not the only one in this situation - with the VAST majority of women complaining about how much sex their husbands want, I felt very isolated. So, PP, thanks for putting it out there that it's not always the men wanting more. 
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Anonymous
| Wow, now I don't feel so bad. We had sex once last fall, about 3 months after I had a hysterectomy. Then we adopted a baby last fall, which totally consumed all our energy figuring out parenthood, and it got awkward to bring it up since more and more time was passing. Finally I initiated and we did it once in July and once in August. As far as I can tell, my husband's libido is also low, and I'm sure he's not gay. I think he's just shy about initiating. Hoping we can get back to once a month or once every 3 weeks. Sort of takes planning though, since our sleep schedules are not really in sync. |
Anonymous
I'm in the same boat. I don't believe that my husband is gay. He is a wonderful and loving husband and father but our sex life is in the dumps. I think he is just very stressed out from his job. I really miss the intimacy and it seems the longer we without sex, the more awkward it is when we hava it. I'd love to hear from others and how you dealt with this issue? Anyone? |
Anonymous
Probably not what you want to hear but my solution is I'm getting a divorce (there are some other issues that precipitated this, but lack of sex was one of them). Extreme solution, yes, but ultimately, I think a lack of sex and the feelings it engenders in both parties (though I really do think that the person who is feeling the lack of sex tends to feel more rejection - at least in my case) is indicative of a larger problem in the relationship. |
Anonymous
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No sex in one year. Not since getting pregnant and none since the birth of the baby. Too freaked out during pregnancy to have sex and now too f-ing tired to bother. Still, the snuggling and love is there.
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Anonymous
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We make out a lot.
Decided this past week to go past third base. Homerun. For both of us. We hope to keep it up. |
Anonymous
| I am in same boat as 21:29. I have no solution but just wanted to reiterate the "you are not alone." I vacillate between being angry about it and then feeling tired of being angry and deciding I just don't care anymore and trying instead to focus on the positive things (and really in every other way he is a wonderful husband and dad). |
Anonymous
this. without the snuggling, though. but it's coming from both of us. both freaked out during the pregnancy, then both freaked out by horrible tearing that just wouldn't heal, now both exhausted. |
Anonymous
| Once since the conception of my 18 mo old son |
Anonymous
| Probably 3 times a week. When I am on my period, I give my husband a blow job. |
Anonymous
Wow, I haven't given a blow job since college. |
Anonymous
| I'm the 15:33 PP. It really makes me feel a lot better to know others are in this situation - just that I don't feel so alone anymore (or like some kind of freak because DH isn't like other men who wants sex 24/7). For the PPs who asked about how to deal with it, our situation is like one of the PPs who said there is still a lot of snuggles, cuddling, and love......just not as much sex as I would want. We do talk about it, and he's asked that I initiate more often. We're trying that, and it helps. We also talked about going to sex counseling, and then decided that doing our own research (books, internet, etc.) was better for us (and cheaper!). That has also helped. |
Anonymous
Most likely written by a guy |
Anonymous
Agree. |
Anonymous
why do you think that? I am certainly not a guy (I could describe giving birth or what periods are like to proof that I am a woman  ) but we too have sex 3 times a week and I give him a blowjob when I am on my period. We've been married for 7 years. Two children 2 and 4.
Some just need more than others. We have a lot of late night sex though, quickies before we fall asleep. (or he wakes up when I come up and we have sex then) Being tired doesn't keep us from having sex. |