How often do Moms and Dads have sex?

[Anonymous]

I definitely think this post is on topic! it relates to kids -- and how exhausted they make us.

DH and I have sex once a week, and DH is always trying for more. I still have zero sex drive, so I have a hard time getting excited about it, though I do like the closeness. DS is seven months.

[Anonymous]

Mom with 2 babies here. I seriously do want it every day which is weird because in my pre-DH romantic relationships, I never wanted sex -- to the point that one of my exes thought I was frigid. DH and I just click on a sexual level. Plus, I think he's really hot.

[Anonymous]

I find it interesting that so many people say "x times, and DH wishes it were more." I think we're missing some key info here; ages of child(ren) aren't enough--what is the age range of you and DH? Do both of you work outside the home and commute? Do you share equally in household tasks? I think the OP must be wondering what's "normal," but the only normal that counts is if you and your spouse are happy with the status quo or at least understanding of it.

My stats--mom of 8-month-old, we both work and truly share equally everything but breastfeeding , we're early 40s and are fairly happy with once a week but often too tired for even that. These folks who do it 4 times a week--where do you find the energy?

[Anonymous]

I'm the PP--I didn't mean to imply that SAHMs aren't as exhausted as those who work outside; they're probably more tired!

[Anonymous]

i'm the same age as dh, mid-20's, with one 4 yo. we do it about once a week, but it used to be about once a month and caused a whole lot of heartache and grief, near affairs and divorce... for me it also comes down to him wanting it more than me. my libido has increased somewhat over the past year but before then i would have been content with pretty much none. he felt rejected and as if i was no longer attracted to him, and i felt pressured as though the physical was all he cared about. if any woman had flirted with him, i'm pretty sure he would have slept with her during this time. luckily he works with mostly men. things have gotten better now, but i've also adjusted my own way of thinking because i've realized that this is how he knows i love him and this is what keeps our relationship healthy... so i need to just do it. and usually, once i get over the initial "ugh, again?" feeling, it's enjoyable. that may be a controversial way of looking at it, but that's the god honest truth.

[Anonymous]

We're doing well if we do 2X a month - we both want more, but still too tired.

Working mom to 18 m.o.

[Anonymous]

For the PP that asked for more information: (I posted previously and said we did it 4-5 times a week.) Our daughter is 3 months old. As for enengy? Hmmmm. It's called sleepy, quickie, sex. I'd like to have something more romantic, but for now it's all we can muster, and at least we have that physical connection to keep us close.

[Anonymous]

Additional info: DH is 38, I am 41. We both work FT.

[Anonymous]

Once a week and I think that is enough! my kids are 11 & 10 yrs old.

[Anonymous]

Once a month if I'm lucky, and I have to initiate. I'm thinking about going out and buying that book, "A Sex-Starved Wife". Two children, 3yrs & 6m. DH is 11 yrs older.

[Anonymous]

Four times a year, on average. Yes, that's once every few months, when we go AWAY overnight. It's the only time we're both relaxed enough to really enjoy each other. We go to a different bed & breakfast within an hour's drive each time, have a fabulous dinner, great conversation, soak in the whirlpool tub, etc. It's a romantic renewal every time, and we're both reminded of how much we love and LIKE each other. We have two kids in elementary school, and the younger one has multiple disabilities (which is very demanding on both of us, what with the extra effort for him to learn -- IEPs and so on, lots of therapy sessions, frequent hospitalizations and the use of medical equipment like oxygen tanks at home occasionally). DH and I are on different clocks -- I'm an early riser with the little one, and he's a night owl, doing bills or reading into the night. We both work full-time. We've both adjusted to this, and appreciate the times we do get with each other. We are grateful for a good marriage and the other blessings in our lives. So, I guess you could say we mutually chose quality over quantity.

[Anonymous]

Okay, some of you are really scaring me. My due date is in 2 days and I am 38 years old and run my own business. Once baby comes I can't imagine wanting to have sex all that often. 1 to 2 times a week seems more than "sufficient" (I know it sounds like I'm talking about bathing baby or something) but for those of you that say 4x or more per week, holy crap. I've known my husband for 13 years and there is no way on earth we were even doing that before I got pregnant...except when we were in our 20's.

[Anonymous]

I offer and want to have sex but my husbands always not feeling good, tired, not now maybe later. Its been 4 months and counting...I doubt hes having an affair because he works from home and doesn't go out anywhere...kids are 2,4,6 I am a SAHM

[Anonymous]

I've refused since last August (when I was five months pregnant) 'til now (baby is 2 1/2 months)...but I'm going to have to give in in the next couple of weeks. I'm a horrible wife in this arena. Prior to that it was once a week or once every other week. We have two kids and are mid-30s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:4-5 x/week and I think it's not enough! I wish it were every day! Mom to 2 kids under 2.

bullshit