What is a fair contribution from Fiance living in my house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It really made me sad to hear about this guy's controlling what you and your kids buy to eat, and that the 3 of you are underweight. That's terrible.

This man is beyond repair.

The OP is vulnerable and probably easily manipulated, and now DCUM posters are trying to manipulate her into sharing the email out of some sort of morbid curiosity. We can support her without seeing the actual email. That is so uncool, regardless of what a jackass he is. Leave her be, people!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you want him to pay for your house, put him on the title. Otherwise, you're wanting him to pay for an asset that is yours. No reason your finances should be joint until you get married.

How about paying rent? Contributing to the household?

Read the thread first. It might stop you from sounding like an idiot.

Agree with immediate PP. The point is not "paying for an asset that is yours". The point is that if he is living there, using the space, using the water and the electricity and the internet and the TV, eating the food, etc., he should be contributing to those things in a more proportional way. It's a pretty lousy partner who is actually okay with the disparity in expense coverage described by the OP. Certainly an eye-opener about what kind of husband and stepfather he would be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It really made me sad to hear about this guy's controlling what you and your kids buy to eat, and that the 3 of you are underweight. That's terrible.

This man is beyond repair.

The OP is vulnerable and probably easily manipulated, and now DCUM posters are trying to manipulate her into sharing the email out of some sort of morbid curiosity. We can support her without seeing the actual email. That is so uncool, regardless of what a jackass he is. Leave her be, people!

I was one of the pps that said to post email and you are right. But, I do strongly encourage her to share his "arguments" if he is blaming her, calling her names that make her think he is right and she is wrong (or a user or some other term) so that we can give her support and help her gain some self esteem and courage to stick to her position (that if he wants to continue living together, then he has to pay his fair share, treat her kids like they are family (and part of her, quite frankly) and all the other things already talked about on this thread.

And you quoted someone who wasn't even talking about sharing an email. The other pp was right in pointing out how controlling the guy is - again - giving Sabrina support.

Sabrina - please come back on here any time you are doubting yourself or having second thoughts or anything. there are some of us who truly want to help you through this.

[Anonymous]

And you quoted someone who wasn't even talking about sharing an email. The other pp was right in pointing out how controlling the guy is - again - giving Sabrina support.

Yes, I did that on purpose. The quote mentioned how he was controlling her;, ergo she is easily manipulated by both him and the posters on here. Ta-da!

[Anonymous]

There is a very good reason WHY this guy has never been married or had kids! He's a selfish, cheap, greedy jerk. I'm glad he's out of your kids lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Read your own post three times. Then realize that you already know what you need to do.

Best advice.

[Anonymous]

Sabrina - are you okay? I just read this whole thread and am worried that you haven't come back.

[Anonymous]

You guys are way too focused on money. How about letting the love shine

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sabrina - are you okay? I just read this whole thread and am worried that you haven't come back.

I'm so stupid.

[Anonymous]

You're now posting on another topic. How did all of this turn out for you? I hope you and your kids are doing well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're now posting on another topic. How did all of this turn out for you? I hope you and your kids are doing well.

Which topic is now hers?

[Anonymous]

What would he have to pay if he were living on his own?

He is using you.

You should be splitting the mortgage 50/50 and some other formula for all other household costs, such as 66/33 or 75/25.

If he's a real man he'd be ashamed to take advantage of a single mom struggling to raise kids like this, Yuck.

Dump the chump, rent out the house, and get an affordable apartment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're now posting on another topic. How did all of this turn out for you? I hope you and your kids are doing well.

Which topic is now hers?

In special concerns, about kids post-divorce.

[Anonymous]

Dump the loser. He sounds awful!

[Anonymous]

I really hope this is a troll post. Who would put up with this shit???