Capital Cotillion for Beauvoir Son

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread makes me want to gag as badly as I did reading the thread regarding one poster wanting make sure they would have enough bucks to eventually marry their daughter off.

I know - sad how small one's world becomes when the emphasis is on money

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread makes me want to gag as badly as I did reading the thread regarding one poster wanting make sure they would have enough bucks to eventually marry their daughter off.

I know - sad how small one's world becomes when the emphasis is on money

Don't read into "Cotillion" any more than this is - a nice series of events for young adults to learn the social graces.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread makes me want to gag as badly as I did reading the thread regarding one poster wanting make sure they would have enough bucks to eventually marry their daughter off.

I know - sad how small one's world becomes when the emphasis is on money

Don't read into "Cotillion" any more than this is - a nice series of events for young adults to learn the social graces.

Social graces can not be taught at home? What are your customs of eating dinner at home-- strap on a feedbag?

[Anonymous]

It never hurts to have lessons taught at home reinforced in another setting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread makes me want to gag as badly as I did reading the thread regarding one poster wanting make sure they would have enough bucks to eventually marry their daughter off.

I know - sad how small one's world becomes when the emphasis is on money

Don't read into "Cotillion" any more than this is - a nice series of events for young adults to learn the social graces.

"Young adults," these are kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread makes me want to gag as badly as I did reading the thread regarding one poster wanting make sure they would have enough bucks to eventually marry their daughter off.

I know - sad how small one's world becomes when the emphasis is on money

Don't read into "Cotillion" any more than this is - a nice series of events for young adults to learn the social graces.

"Young adults," these are kids.

Alright already. Don't read into "Cotillion" any more than this is - a nice series of events for young adults and kids to learn the social graces.

[Anonymous]

I think it's just one more way to instill a sense of superiority in your child. NOT a good idea -- especially if your child attends a private school already. --private school grad, former debutante who had to unlearn lessons of "superiority" over the course of many years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's just one more way to instill a sense of superiority in your child. NOT a good idea -- especially if your child attends a private school already. --private school grad, former debutante who had to unlearn lessons of "superiority" over the course of many years.

I agree. Main reason why my children will not participate in these "lessons."

[Anonymous]

Whew - the judgmental and highly negative attitudes some of you are displaying will be far more detrimental to your child's well being then attending a few manners oriented events. Ya'll need to lighten up - seriously - there are health risks associated w/being so tightly wound.

[Anonymous]

A sense of superiority and elite snobbery is exactly what these programs promote. That's why they advertise with "invitations" to kids who attend certain schools. I gag every time we get one of those in the mail. The best way to teach your kids manners is by modeling them yourself; that plus a little role-playing ("So, let's practice what you'll do and say when we introduce you to a friend of ours for the first time.") and encouragement is all it takes. These programs aren't about manners; they're about some 1950s-relic of an idea that you only want your children to associate with other people just like them. Get over it and join the 21st Century.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whew - the judgmental and highly negative attitudes some of you are displaying will be far more detrimental to your child's well being then attending a few manners oriented events. Ya'll need to lighten up - seriously - there are health risks associated w/being so tightly wound.

Some would say that those who are advocating their children participate in these archaic and classist organizations belong in the "tightly wound" category.

[Anonymous]

I have spent much of my adult life wondering if I am doing the "correct" thing because I was NOT taught the finer points of etiquette growing up. Sure, I know the basics and we did not eat from feed bags growing up, but I could have used classes like that.

[Anonymous]

Just buy a manners book then. These classes don't teach anything. --- the former debutante, private school grad who also attended classes like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just buy a manners book then. These classes don't teach anything. --- the former debutante, private school grad who also attended classes like this.

Not everyone feels the same way. Capital Cotillion is a class for dancing and a 5 minute manners lesson (how to write a thank you note, etc). I cannot believe how much is read into this. Go to the website and then go to one class and see whether it's as evil as portrayed here.

Signed,

a frumpy mom whose normal son goes to Capital Cotillion without serious repercussions to date but who will be on the look out.

[Anonymous]

I do have etiquette books and have used them for reference. They don't help "on the spot", nor could they have taught me how to at least look like I know how to dance with a partner. When the ballroom-type dancing starts at an event, we leave since we don't know how.