No gaslighting and lashing out. You folks are the ones swearing at posters. |
DP - do you not see the irony of your post? This certainly adds credence to the comments above that point out your lack of self-awareness, and even the ones that invoke the likelihood of Dunning Kruger |
I know you get a jolt when you wish for people to fail, but I’m not the one calling people lazy for taking a step towards getting healthy. I’m not the one who desperate to tear people down when they have done absolutely nothing to me. You’re doing that. |
Loving the picture of you two standing around the party gossiping about people you don’t know, agreeing with each other’s mean-spirited observations, |
Sincere answer. Between 1000 and 1400 cal a day or so; the nutritionist my doctor had me see told me I have to track and make sure I don't dip below 900. When medication messes up your metabolism, your metabolic rate can go way down -- and you can eat what would be a weight-loss daily calorie budget for the average person and still gain weight. That's the thing -- how do you define "over eating"? I think people look at obese persons and picture them stuffing themselves with twinkies or something, and that simply isn't always the case. I can eat significantly less than other people who are literally on a diet, and still gain weight. The other wrinkle in this is that some medications will affect hormones in such a way that a 300lb person's brain is sending out hormone's that tell the body it is starving, which makes it virtually impossible to not overeat. People will just say "They have no discipline, they have no willpower, just don't eat the cake at the birthday party..." but current obesity science will tell you that that is almost like telling some people not to breathe. The people who don't have this problem can never understand it (or at least most never will, anyway -- some of the scientists studying obesity do). Obesity is a disease; things are happening in the body that are maladaptive. Like with an autoimmune disorder where the immune system is confused and attacking your body ... with obesity the body can get confused and think it is dangerously thin and try to handle that hormonally when it is in fact obese. It is a very hard thing, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. But people who don't understand really need to stop pushing their judgment. Well, people need to stop pushing judgment at other people in general, but that's a battle never to be won with education. Hopefully this one will be. Because stigma and judgment is awful. |
+100 |
All of this vitriol is fatphobia. Pure and simple. Some people feel irrational hatred towards people who suffer from obesity and direct bitter judgment their way. They can't help it. They are nasty, judgmental people, cloaking their rage in "fact" (which is pretty amusing, because it is anything but), and they don't know it.
Of course it's here on this thread -- the internet is the perfect place for this kind of hate. Nasty, judgmental people -- we see you. And so does everyone else, probably, so you might try to learn to myob ... for your own good. |
Let them. |
Calling us lazy and telling us we took the easy way out is lashing out in my book. It is totally unprovoked. I am still baffled as to why you need to say something like that. You aren't "discussing" anything as you claimed. |
Do you see the topic of this thread? This is not a general thread on the use of GLP1s and poster called someone lazy. It’s a thread about reasons for gossiping and shaming people. It’s not unprovoked, That’s the topic. I’m still baffled why you are here if don’t want to read these comments. |
Oh I've read all of the comments. Even the ones Jeff deleted. You clearly haven't though. The ones I'm referring to simply said, "Those who take the drugs are lazy." So are you saying that the gossiping in such a way are right? Are you saying you disagree with them? This is personal to me since I take the drugs. What bearing does this have on your life? |
DP. As has been stated several times in this thread, some of us have been there. We want you to succeed, but taking the easy way doesn't come without consequences (and we know, you're doing to deny that GLP1's are an easier way). Long term success necessitates dealing more than just the extra pounds. But we get it -- you think we're making it up, just haters, just horrible people, etc. There's a big mental journey that comes with losing and maintaining weight loss. And those of us who have done this successfully are trying to offer some suggestions. But sure, your mental health is fine, no one's overeating because they have deep stuff to untangle, etc. Nothing we say will suffice. You've made up your own narrative about those who are responding to OP's question sincerely. |
I am saying they responded to OP’s question. She asked a fairly inflammatory question and got inflammatory responses but frankly not nearly as much for the “anti” crowd as I expected. It seems to be that your issue is with the topic itself. |
My goodness. What a mixture of condescension, main character syndrome, and ignorance. |
Are you reporting comments here? Did you report even one with insults and swears at the “anti” people. I’m guessing no. |