It's official: Gen Z are not delaying marriage til 30s anymore, young weddings are cool again

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Both of my divorced college friends got married to college sweethearts.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

I don't know why people are so adamant about how great it is to be in your 40s with young kids. It's not! I'm speaking from experience! I applaud young women and men for not following this path.

+1. It's a cope. Nobody believes these people. Looking like a grandma with your young kids is sad, if we're being honest.

You think 38 is a grandma? Oh wait. That tracks.

No matter how stylish you think you are, you’ll still an old 45 year old mom at the primary school and the 60-ish looking grandma at their high school graduation. Remember the ‘hot moms’ growing up? They were hot because they had kids in their 20s and their bodies snapped back.

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waiting until you are 40 to have kids, college graduation picture!

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

I don't know why people are so adamant about how great it is to be in your 40s with young kids. It's not! I'm speaking from experience! I applaud young women and men for not following this path.

+1. It's a cope. Nobody believes these people. Looking like a grandma with your young kids is sad, if we're being honest.

You think 38 is a grandma? Oh wait. That tracks.

No matter how stylish you think you are, you’ll still an old 45 year old mom at the primary school and the 60-ish looking grandma at their high school graduation. Remember the ‘hot moms’ growing up? They were hot because they had kids in their 20s and their bodies snapped back.

DP. To think that anyone cares about being a “hot mom.” Seriously pathetic.

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Anonymous wrote:waiting until you are 40 to have kids, college graduation picture!

That’s the ideal! Everyone is just jealous of all the pointless “fun” she had in her 20s and 30s. The hookups, dating apps, the traveling, the brunches, and all the Netflix shows she consumed.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

No - this is all wrong. Science has shown the human brain does not mature until after age 26.

At a minimum, people should not be allowed to marry before age 26 because they are too immature for it and to raise kids.

"Brain Matures at 25" largely found to be a myth; executive functioning effectively mature on average before 18

You’re wrong and you literally copied what someone wrote on Reddit. The prefrontal region continues to grow well into young adulthood. This is the area that helps with long-term decisions and its consequences along with impulses.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

Yes, instead they should marry that schmuck when they're 22.

Newsflash but if more people are getting married earlier (which, for the record, the only evidence of on this thread is MBB marrying a Bon Jovi) then that means that some of those 30-something schmucks are joining the early 20s marriage pool. Because it's not like more better guys are appearing out of thin air at age 22. So people are just marrying the same dud men, at earlier ages when they are even more immature and useless than their 30 year old self (who at least knows how to use the dishwasher and w/d).

And for the record! I met DH when i was in college, him in grad school and I married at 26. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with it, but i do think having some kind of agenda at age 22 to find marriage material is bizarre.

Of course people would be far better off marrying the same person they settled for in their 30s five or ten years sooner. You’d have ten years of equity in your house, your kids would be in elementary school, you’d be closer to retirement, you’d be healthier. You wouldn’t have all that trauma and baggage from failed relationships in your 20s.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

No - this is all wrong. Science has shown the human brain does not mature until after age 26.

At a minimum, people should not be allowed to marry before age 26 because they are too immature for it and to raise kids.

"Brain Matures at 25" largely found to be a myth; executive functioning effectively mature on average before 18

You’re wrong and you literally copied what someone wrote on Reddit. The prefrontal region continues to grow well into young adulthood. This is the area that helps with long-term decisions and its consequences along with impulses.

If what you say is true, why would it be a bad thing to continue to grow your prefrontal cortex together at a younger age, similar to how one learns language and other skills easier young while the brain is still plastic?

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

At 20/22? Um, no. Not every parent.

I went to Duke and a lot of people I know married their college or grad school sweetheart. These were mostly very well to do UMC kids from stable backgrounds and I don’t know how “happy” they are but they have stayed together. I wouldn’t mind that for my kids, honestly.

MBB probably does not fit that paradigm but I wish her well.

I went to a very similar school and this was the case for a lot of my classmates. They are still married with children. I don't have any reason to believe they are not as happy as people settling in their mid 30s.

We all know couples like this. They are happier. They married their true love, grew together through their 20s. You can't get that time back. While people who wait until their 30s have to settle and have tons of dating trauma baggage. It's just not the same.

I mean, as long as we’re talking anecdotes here, each of my three close friends from college married their college boyfriends in their early 20s and every single one of them is divorced as of mid-40s. Lots of kids among them. Some really bitter, acrimonious split ups.

Yes, some of these marriages are solid and last forever. And some people suddenly realize that what they wanted when they were 18-22 isn’t what they want when they’re 40+, particularly if their own kids are grown and flown by then. There are simply no guarantees. Life takes unexpected turns.

are you genx or boomer age? there is a shift in commitments to being together with the younger folks these days

I’m 47. And that’s great, but seeing as how the younger folks are still young, it’s hard to say how that will play out long term.

Yeah, your generation has a different attitude about divorce, self-centeredness, prioritizing "my career," separate finances, etc. It's not surprising that the outcome is divorce and people waiting to ensure they are self-sufficient, ending up older in case of being divorced.

Oh right, of course. You all have got this life thing all figured out.

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My grandparents were 48 when they became grandparents. My parents were 55 when they became grandparents. I'll by 57 when my oldest graduates from college. I was lucky to have very active and involved grandparents. But I was unlucky to have very emotionally immature parents. I think there are pros and cons to both. But probably the ideal is to have kids between 25 and 35. Going through young adulthood together can help solidify the relationship.

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^also, multigenerational families makes a big difference. I had both parents and grandparents around all the time, so I got both levels of maturity and different sets of experiences.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

Yes, instead they should marry that schmuck when they're 22.

Newsflash but if more people are getting married earlier (which, for the record, the only evidence of on this thread is MBB marrying a Bon Jovi) then that means that some of those 30-something schmucks are joining the early 20s marriage pool. Because it's not like more better guys are appearing out of thin air at age 22. So people are just marrying the same dud men, at earlier ages when they are even more immature and useless than their 30 year old self (who at least knows how to use the dishwasher and w/d).

And for the record! I met DH when i was in college, him in grad school and I married at 26. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with it, but i do think having some kind of agenda at age 22 to find marriage material is bizarre.

Of course people would be far better off marrying the same person they settled for in their 30s five or ten years sooner. You’d have ten years of equity in your house, your kids would be in elementary school, you’d be closer to retirement, you’d be healthier. You wouldn’t have all that trauma and baggage from failed relationships in your 20s.

The last wedding I went to was literally this: the bride and groom had met 10 years ago on the apps and while they got along well enough, felt no “spark” (bride’s own words at her own engagement party). Ten years and many dating disasters later, spark didn’t matter so much.

Now instead of starting their lives together at 29 they are starting at 39. I don’t know what to make of it. Did they both need to mature and grow? Did the bride pass up on a great guy or did she just settle 10 years later. We are friends with the groom and we do think he’s a great guy.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

Yes, instead they should marry that schmuck when they're 22.

Newsflash but if more people are getting married earlier (which, for the record, the only evidence of on this thread is MBB marrying a Bon Jovi) then that means that some of those 30-something schmucks are joining the early 20s marriage pool. Because it's not like more better guys are appearing out of thin air at age 22. So people are just marrying the same dud men, at earlier ages when they are even more immature and useless than their 30 year old self (who at least knows how to use the dishwasher and w/d).

And for the record! I met DH when i was in college, him in grad school and I married at 26. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with it, but i do think having some kind of agenda at age 22 to find marriage material is bizarre.

Of course people would be far better off marrying the same person they settled for in their 30s five or ten years sooner. You’d have ten years of equity in your house, your kids would be in elementary school, you’d be closer to retirement, you’d be healthier. You wouldn’t have all that trauma and baggage from failed relationships in your 20s.

The last wedding I went to was literally this: the bride and groom had met 10 years ago on the apps and while they got along well enough, felt no “spark” (bride’s own words at her own engagement party). Ten years and many dating disasters later, spark didn’t matter so much.

Now instead of starting their lives together at 29 they are starting at 39. I don’t know what to make of it. Did they both need to mature and grow? Did the bride pass up on a great guy or did she just settle 10 years later. We are friends with the groom and we do think he’s a great guy.

Yes, she/they settled after wasting over 10 years of life (and fertility). Now they get to begin marriage at a fertility clinic and all the trauma and heartbreak that comes from that. How romantic.

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Anonymous wrote:20-yo Millie Bobby Brown and 22-yo husband (Bon Jovi's model son) just revealed their gorgeous wedding photos on social media to her 65 million followers. MBB is a trend setter. This follows influencer Sofia Richie getting married and quickly pregnant last year when she was just 24-yo. Pendulum has swung, gen Z'ers consider it is un-cool and weird to wait until late 20s or 30s to settle down.

If your impulse is to be disgusted by this and predict the demise of these marriages you just reveal yourself to be a terminally miserable person. Every parent wishes their child finds love at this age. Buy a house. Have kids. Make a life together.

The “Sex and the City” whoring around until your 30s, blowing money renting apartments and dining out, and binge drinking your prime away was always a scam. Good to see young people wising up.

Bad idea to use Hollywood and celebrity to prove your point. They will let you down.
I wish MBB the best, like her as an actress, but hope this rush to marriage was not caused by some trauma in her short life due to her being involved in acting and Hollywood from a very young age.

Marrying at a young adult age humans have done for thousands of years…teases out issues and trauma. 90s and 00s era delay marriage until your 30s, settling with a schmuck because the dating pool is empty, needing IVF to get pregnant, being a tired feeling and old looking mom at your kid’s school, and likely dying before you see your kids marry let alone have grandkids are…sharp life choices. Sure, sure.

Yes, instead they should marry that schmuck when they're 22.

Newsflash but if more people are getting married earlier (which, for the record, the only evidence of on this thread is MBB marrying a Bon Jovi) then that means that some of those 30-something schmucks are joining the early 20s marriage pool. Because it's not like more better guys are appearing out of thin air at age 22. So people are just marrying the same dud men, at earlier ages when they are even more immature and useless than their 30 year old self (who at least knows how to use the dishwasher and w/d).

And for the record! I met DH when i was in college, him in grad school and I married at 26. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with it, but i do think having some kind of agenda at age 22 to find marriage material is bizarre.

Of course people would be far better off marrying the same person they settled for in their 30s five or ten years sooner. You’d have ten years of equity in your house, your kids would be in elementary school, you’d be closer to retirement, you’d be healthier. You wouldn’t have all that trauma and baggage from failed relationships in your 20s.

The last wedding I went to was literally this: the bride and groom had met 10 years ago on the apps and while they got along well enough, felt no “spark” (bride’s own words at her own engagement party). Ten years and many dating disasters later, spark didn’t matter so much.

Now instead of starting their lives together at 29 they are starting at 39. I don’t know what to make of it. Did they both need to mature and grow? Did the bride pass up on a great guy or did she just settle 10 years later. We are friends with the groom and we do think he’s a great guy.

The myth of the spark has been very destructive. If anything, the spark is a contraindicator for a healthy relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:waiting until you are 40 to have kids, college graduation picture!

Mommy was a girl boss who waited 15 years to have kids because she was too busy with zoom meetings, emails, PowerPoints, spreadsheets, drunken happy hours and earning airline status.