Mom Cliques. I had no idea.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you made unnecessarily awkward. People are allowed to meet up without you. If you had just been friendly and not made an issue of it, you might have been invited to the next one.

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It isn't a "clique" OP. These woman are obviously friends. They are allowed to be friends. They do not need to include every single mom from the bus stop or school or neighborhood.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree OP's text was bad form (why reveal that it bothered you?! Just act like you don't care and move on!) BUT I do think it was a bit clique-y because of the number of moms. A group of 15 is huge. If OP knew all or most of the mons, and they were all mons from the same school, it is a bit clique-y to do something that big and not invite OP.

Sure, maybe the organizer doesn't know OP, but if other people there do, it's a little surprising that none of them said anything to her. Indicating that the group or outing are at least somewhat exclusive, which is what a clique is.

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Anonymous wrote:The mean girl pta vibe is heavy handed here. The defensive posture in favor of this group and antagonistic approach to op is wild.

+1, we actually don't get much info from OP here, certainly not enough to draw conclusions. The people who are assuming good intent by this group and hurling insults at OP are simply showing themselves up.

Seems the opposite to me. All we know is 15 women got together for lunch. Nothing nefarious about that. Why are they suddenly a “mean girl” mom clique? Literally nothing sail alludes to this- OP is just peeved she wasn’t invited. Which in itself isn’t mean spirited

It's typical DCUM. People loooove to dog-pile on the OP and project their own issues. The first couple pages are all mean moms telling OP it's her fault and she made it awkward based on very little info. Says tons about them.

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It’s because Op came out swinging against a group of women who dared to go anywhere without her. She’s not going to get the sisterhood rallying around her when she comes out like that.

Swinging seems intense. She wrote a potentially snarky text to a friend. It may have been reactive but not completely deranged like so many are implying. Honestly does no one have compassion or genuine friendships around here?

OP knew at best 5/15 women there, 2 sort of well and 3 were mere acquaintances. These wasn't even her neighbors. It's a bit presumptuous to get indignant that you weren't invited to a get together of women you barely know or don't know at all.

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Anonymous wrote: Ran into about 15 or so moms from our elementary school having wine and apps at a local winery on Friday around noon. I was like WHAT???? I didn’t realize mom cliques are still a thing. They felt uber uncomfortable seeing me there. I texted one of the mom’s later and said I didn’t realize there was an invite only Friday gatherings. Bus stop interactions will be interesting on Monday! LMAO! Share your favorite mom clique story DCUM.

OML OP - it is not all about you!!

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Mom cliques are just groups of friends who seem exclusionary to outsiders, usually because the outsiders feel insecure. I was once that outsider, and after being on the PTA with some of the mothers of the "clique", realized they'd known each other for a very long time, and were actually nice. I understood they weren't trying to exclude people. It's just that they didn't need more close friends than they already had. We worked well together.

I've met mean people. But never mean groups.

And OP, your jealousy and immaturity is coming across loud and clear. I hope time will correct that.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing it was the first time.

OP's first post alluded to it be a regular gathering.

Sorry. Typo. I meant I’m sure it was not the first time. I also think the folks that are saying OP is off base are #momtribe

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Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing it was the first time.

OP's first post alluded to it be a regular gathering.

Sorry. Typo. I meant I’m sure it was not the first time. I also think the folks that are saying OP is off base are #momtribe

Nah, they’re just normal people who understand how society and relationships work

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Mom cliques are real and they drive mean girl behavior in their daughters. Little girls don’t become exclusionary by themselves. They copy.

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The 15 moms are definitely commenting on this thread defending their choices

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Y'all need to recognize the gift OP has given us, even if her way of handling things and showing that something bothers her isn't your style. It's not my style either, but I have to admire the ballz to send that text. Whew! OP, please come back with updates!!!

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Anonymous wrote:The 15 moms are definitely commenting on this thread defending their choices

Keep repeating this to yourself like a mantra and maybe it will become real

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Anonymous wrote: Ran into about 15 or so moms from our elementary school having wine and apps at a local winery on Friday around noon. I was like WHAT???? I didn’t realize mom cliques are still a thing. They felt uber uncomfortable seeing me there. I texted one of the mom’s later and said I didn’t realize there was an invite only Friday gatherings. Bus stop interactions will be interesting on Monday! LMAO! Share your favorite mom clique story DCUM.

OP, your reaction is so weird. What if 15 ES moms are hanging out together without you? Why do you think you should be included?

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Anonymous wrote:Y'all need to recognize the gift OP has given us, even if her way of handling things and showing that something bothers her isn't your style. It's not my style either, but I have to admire the ballz to send that text. Whew! OP, please come back with updates!!!

I don’t. It makes her look Boderline. Being confrontational about why you weren’t invited to something is always inappropriate

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Anonymous wrote: Ran into about 15 or so moms from our elementary school having wine and apps at a local winery on Friday around noon. I was like WHAT???? I didn’t realize mom cliques are still a thing. They felt uber uncomfortable seeing me there. I texted one of the mom’s later and said I didn’t realize there was an invite only Friday gatherings. Bus stop interactions will be interesting on Monday! LMAO! Share your favorite mom clique story DCUM.

Oh wow are they not allowed to hang out without you? Grow up!

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Anonymous wrote:OP Here—I didn’t ask for your kind opinions on my mom clique story. Believe the post asks to share your favorite mom clique story.

My favorite mom clique story is when one weird mom pretended we all had a mom clique because we hung out without her.