People who lie about where they're from

[Anonymous]

I'm a Navy brat. I graduated from high school in DC, so I say I'm from DC. Sick of explaining that I'm from nowhere.

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Anonymous wrote:OP will hate me.

I was a military brat and we moved to a new base every three years. The bases were mostly in Central Europe, so that was fun, but the actual housing was nothing fancy *at all* as any military family can attest. My family was, and still is, solidly upper lower middle class.

When people ask me where I'm from, I just say "I grew up in Europe," which is 100% true, and seem much more glamorous than I actually am.

I hate to break it to you but everyone will be able to tell you're a military brat and that's why you "grew up in Europe". The vibe between a military brat type person vs someone who grew up at a German boarding school because theyre parents are wealthy is extremely different. No one is going to buy you went to Institute le Rosey, my friend. Everyone knows that military brats exist and they give off the same blue collar vibes as if theyd grown up in Alabama. That's like saying "I'm from Maryland" and just assuming people will think you're from Chevy Chase when you grew up in Hagerstown. People aren't fools and they can tell the vibe

Jesus.

And this is why nobody wants to talk to you at parties.

Plus military / state dept “Brats” often attend international schools and are quite sophisticated with parents who are committed to larger public goods.

I would not care about the opinion of anyone who look down on others because their families made sacrifices to serve their countries.

Why do military people have to sound so hilariously dramatic? Everyone has jobs, no one cares that your father's career involved shooting guns and destabilizing 3rd world countries.

Stereotype much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh I thought this was going to be about people who claim to be from "LA" or "NY" when they are actually from a town and hour outside those cities, in an effort to seem more cosmopolitan. I do think that's weird, and sort of embarrassing when people find out "oh, you're actually from Jersey." I am not from a major city and I have zero shame about that fact. I think it's weird when people try to hide it -- being from somewhere smaller and more remote is often more interesting, in my experience.

I don't think I've ever really encountered what you are talking about. I've encountered miscommunication before where I ask where someone is from and they say "DC," but only because they didn't understand I was asking where they grew up. Not because they are lying about it. "Where are you from?" can mean different things in different contexts, and even I will say "DC" if I'm traveling outside DC and get asked that question. I've never met anyone who claimed to grow up in DC when they didn't. I would find that very weird.

Umm hmm to those people that say they grew up in NY - they did! For most New Yorkers, they grew up outside the city and it is not meant to say they grew up in the city. I have many relatives from New York and they all say proudly they grew up in New York (meaning the state). For those that grew up in the city they say NYC or mostly say Manhattan.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh I thought this was going to be about people who claim to be from "LA" or "NY" when they are actually from a town and hour outside those cities, in an effort to seem more cosmopolitan. I do think that's weird, and sort of embarrassing when people find out "oh, you're actually from Jersey." I am not from a major city and I have zero shame about that fact. I think it's weird when people try to hide it -- being from somewhere smaller and more remote is often more interesting, in my experience.

I don't think I've ever really encountered what you are talking about. I've encountered miscommunication before where I ask where someone is from and they say "DC," but only because they didn't understand I was asking where they grew up. Not because they are lying about it. "Where are you from?" can mean different things in different contexts, and even I will say "DC" if I'm traveling outside DC and get asked that question. I've never met anyone who claimed to grow up in DC when they didn't. I would find that very weird.

Umm hmm to those people that say they grew up in NY - they did! For most New Yorkers, they grew up outside the city and it is not meant to say they grew up in the city. I have many relatives from New York and they all say proudly they grew up in New York (meaning the state). For those that grew up in the city they say NYC or mostly say Manhattan.

Wow! I can't believe the state of New York is full of so many liars. Why are they so ashamed?

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Anonymous wrote:Oh I thought this was going to be about people who claim to be from "LA" or "NY" when they are actually from a town and hour outside those cities, in an effort to seem more cosmopolitan. I do think that's weird, and sort of embarrassing when people find out "oh, you're actually from Jersey." I am not from a major city and I have zero shame about that fact. I think it's weird when people try to hide it -- being from somewhere smaller and more remote is often more interesting, in my experience.

I don't think I've ever really encountered what you are talking about. I've encountered miscommunication before where I ask where someone is from and they say "DC," but only because they didn't understand I was asking where they grew up. Not because they are lying about it. "Where are you from?" can mean different things in different contexts, and even I will say "DC" if I'm traveling outside DC and get asked that question. I've never met anyone who claimed to grow up in DC when they didn't. I would find that very weird.

Umm hmm to those people that say they grew up in NY - they did! For most New Yorkers, they grew up outside the city and it is not meant to say they grew up in the city. I have many relatives from New York and they all say proudly they grew up in New York (meaning the state). For those that grew up in the city they say NYC or mostly say Manhattan.

Yeah. It's very much not the same as the type of person who claims to be from Los Angeles when really theyre from Indiana... that's the cringe behavior everyone has contempt for

[Anonymous]

Why does anyone lie about anything fundamental to their identity, be it their career, salary, religion, educational background? Shame, insecurity, feelings of not being good enough, and usually a good dose of striving- trying to rise up in the ranks and fudge the details so they can fit in with the elites they wish they were apart of.

[Anonymous]

Fairfax County native married to a native Fairfax Countier. No one ever seems to care or be much interested. Our parents coincidentally grew up four blocks from each other in SE.

Sometimes I’ll say, “DC” or “here” and possibly give my neighborhood name but again, really doesn’t come up often. Most people express their disbelief that there are “locals” then yammer on about their own hometowns.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP will hate me.

I was a military brat and we moved to a new base every three years. The bases were mostly in Central Europe, so that was fun, but the actual housing was nothing fancy *at all* as any military family can attest. My family was, and still is, solidly upper lower middle class.

When people ask me where I'm from, I just say "I grew up in Europe," which is 100% true, and seem much more glamorous than I actually am.

I hate to break it to you but everyone will be able to tell you're a military brat and that's why you "grew up in Europe". The vibe between a military brat type person vs someone who grew up at a German boarding school because theyre parents are wealthy is extremely different. No one is going to buy you went to Institute le Rosey, my friend. Everyone knows that military brats exist and they give off the same blue collar vibes as if theyd grown up in Alabama. That's like saying "I'm from Maryland" and just assuming people will think you're from Chevy Chase when you grew up in Hagerstown. People aren't fools and they can tell the vibe

Jesus.

And this is why nobody wants to talk to you at parties.

Plus military / state dept “Brats” often attend international schools and are quite sophisticated with parents who are committed to larger public goods.

I would not care about the opinion of anyone who look down on others because their families made sacrifices to serve their countries.

Why do military people have to sound so hilariously dramatic? Everyone has jobs, no one cares that your father's career involved shooting guns and destabilizing 3rd world countries.

NP Dramatic is the pp who went on a long insulting rant about blue collar military stereotypes. It’s the kind of post that would get deleted if it were about any other group of people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does anyone lie about anything fundamental to their identity, be it their career, salary, religion, educational background? Shame, insecurity, feelings of not being good enough, and usually a good dose of striving- trying to rise up in the ranks and fudge the details so they can fit in with the elites they wish they were apart of.

Where I went to high school is fundamental to my identity? Unlike mot of the posters on DCUM I don't my time worrying what happened to the mean girls from years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fairfax County native married to a native Fairfax Countier. No one ever seems to care or be much interested. Our parents coincidentally grew up four blocks from each other in SE.

Sometimes I’ll say, “DC” or “here” and possibly give my neighborhood name but again, really doesn’t come up often. Most people express their disbelief that there are “locals” then yammer on about their own hometowns.

Why would they be in disbelief that there are still locals here? I mean so many transplants come here and stay here.

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Anonymous wrote:Why does anyone lie about anything fundamental to their identity, be it their career, salary, religion, educational background? Shame, insecurity, feelings of not being good enough, and usually a good dose of striving- trying to rise up in the ranks and fudge the details so they can fit in with the elites they wish they were apart of.

Where I went to high school is fundamental to my identity? Unlike mot of the posters on DCUM I don't my time worrying what happened to the mean girls from years ago.

I thought high school and college people was the point of Facebook.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why does anyone lie about anything fundamental to their identity, be it their career, salary, religion, educational background? Shame, insecurity, feelings of not being good enough, and usually a good dose of striving- trying to rise up in the ranks and fudge the details so they can fit in with the elites they wish they were apart of.

Where I went to high school is fundamental to my identity? Unlike mot of the posters on DCUM I don't my time worrying what happened to the mean girls from years ago.

I thought high school and college people was the point of Facebook.

Some people keep in touch with friends from ALL stages of their lives. Apparently, this pi&&e& off the antisocial PPs.

[Anonymous]

I would not know if anyone was lying to me about where they are from but am pretty sure I would NOT care either way. People are free to identify with whatever city they most identify with and for whatever reason.

Who the heck cares? I care if people are kind, intelligent and have a sense of fun - not where they are from …

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I say I'm from Kansas City because most people don't know where Overland Park, KS is. (It's a suburb of KC.) if they are familiar with the area, I clarify, because it turns out many people are familiar with it. Similarly, if I'm traveling I might say I live in DC until I know the person knows what arlington is.

And this is the normal thing to do. But insecure and immature people who live within the city limits think you’re trying to be as cool as them. I met someone in Utah who teased me for saying I’m from DC when, after telling me she used to live in DC said “THATS not DC”. ( I’m one red light outside the city) Weird but common flex.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why does anyone lie about anything fundamental to their identity, be it their career, salary, religion, educational background? Shame, insecurity, feelings of not being good enough, and usually a good dose of striving- trying to rise up in the ranks and fudge the details so they can fit in with the elites they wish they were apart of.

Where I went to high school is fundamental to my identity? Unlike mot of the posters on DCUM I don't my time worrying what happened to the mean girls from years ago.

I thought high school and college people was the point of Facebook.

We use email, not the performance art that is Facebook.