I was so close and now I’m shut out

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why does 1 person need a 1.7M property? I mean, I sympathize, OP. We were in the same exact position, but as a family of 4, so buying a modest 3br in our hood was our aim. Now we’ll be renting forever. If I were you, I’d buy a close in 2br condo in a great neighborhood and build equity.

She has kids.

I have a husband and two kids and we live in a 3BR 3.5BA townhouse we're about to sell for $700K. We're in a good neighborhood in close-in NOVA with good schools. In fact, our neighbor across the street is a single mom with two kids -- the house is perfect for that. Not sure why OP is feeling entitled to a $1.3 Million dollar McMansion.

The quoted PP said a single person doesn’t need that. Your comment is all about you. She’s not entitled, she’s frustrated and disappointed that housing here increased drastically and rapidly. Why throw in McMansion? You’re trying to insult her multiple times but you just sound bitter, angry and jealous. The crappy housing situation here does that to people but no need to take it out on another person who’s unhappy about it.

Nope, quite the opposite, actually. We're making enough money to afford a really nice house a little further out than where we live. I get OP's frustration - houses that we could have easily afforded 3 years ago are now out of our budget, but unlike OP, we've compromised and we're moving a little further out where can get a newer, nicer, larger home for what we are willing to pay.

p.s. I don't get why OP being a single mom even matters. She clearly makes more money than me and my husband combined if she can afford a $1.3 million dollar home. $1.3 million where I'm moving can, in fact, get you a nice house. Not everyone needs to live in North Arlington or Bethesda. OP needs to compromise and being all "woe is me I'm a single mom" when she clearly has a lot of money does actually make her sound entitled and super annoying. You sound like the bitter one, PP.

p.s. I'm not moving really far away, we'll be just a mile outside the beltway in a great school pyramid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The level of toxicity and shaming on here for struggling buyers is obscene. Prices and rates are up. It's objectively a bad time to be a buyer. Regardless of what you'd buy or would have done differently, have some decency people.

Struggling buyers? You mean the person who can only afford a $1.2M house? The privilege around here is toxic, not these comments. I’ll save my empathy for people in places like North Philly, Flint, and East Palestine. This is ridiculous smh.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The level of toxicity and shaming on here for struggling buyers is obscene. Prices and rates are up. It's objectively a bad time to be a buyer. Regardless of what you'd buy or would have done differently, have some decency people.

Struggling buyers? You mean the person who can only afford a $1.2M house? The privilege around here is toxic, not these comments. I’ll save my empathy for people in places like North Philly, Flint, and East Palestine. This is ridiculous smh.

This is about local real estate. Take your completely unrelated, irrelevant virtue signaling to politics.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The level of toxicity and shaming on here for struggling buyers is obscene. Prices and rates are up. It's objectively a bad time to be a buyer. Regardless of what you'd buy or would have done differently, have some decency people.

Struggling buyers? You mean the person who can only afford a $1.2M house? The privilege around here is toxic, not these comments. I’ll save my empathy for people in places like North Philly, Flint, and East Palestine. This is ridiculous smh.

This is about local real estate. Take your completely unrelated, irrelevant virtue signaling to politics.

This is also about someone who is complaining about the fact that they can afford an expensive home in a nice area (just not a more expensive home in perhaps a nicer area). I feel bad for OP because they clearly aren’t in good place personally, but that doesn’t take away from the fact that OP’s financial plight is obviously going to strike a lot of nerves.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is correct. Houses in my neighborhood that would have been $1.2 a few years ago are now going for $1.6 or more. It is depressing for those of us who were looking and could have bought but didn't do it quickly enough and now find that we missed the boat. But it really doesn't help to dwell on it! You can only move forward from where you are and who knows what the future will bring.

Same. We’re now priced out of a neighborhood we love and hoped to buy in.

It’s pathetic that so many of the people on this forum can’t have compassion for people priced out by a ridiculous and unimaginable sharp increase in such a short time. Just confirms my suspicions that half of you are corporate slumlords, brokers, and builders greedy for cash.

Same here. We were looking and could have bought but thought we would be patient for the right fit. Now we are having to look at much lower quality houses at a higher price. I don't really understand why people on this forum can't understand how that would be disappointing. Imagine you wanted to book an airline ticket, you wait a day to confirm your travel dates and all the sudden the ticket price jumped by 40 percent. Wouldn't you be regretful and disappointed? Now instead of your holiday to Rome, you are looking at spending even more money to go to Atlantic City. And no, I am not trying to start a debate on the merits of Atlantic City vis a vis Rome - it is just an example!

Great example, it's like people wanting their first vacation to be - Rome, Italy and then being sad because it costs too much. Maybe start smaller, a starter vacation, like to Venice California or Rome Georgia and continue to save up your pennies.

No, it actually not like that. It is like you already saved up for your ticket to
Rome, you were in the middle of searching for flights and then the prices skyrocketed. Sure it happens but why not just acknowledge that it is disappointing

[Anonymous]

I don’t think any comparisons between a home and vacation are going to work here.

I understand that OP is disappointed. What I don’t understand is why she doesn’t acknowledge how fortunate she is, despite that feeling of disappointment. I’d wager most of the negative reactions are rooted in the same confusion.

I agree this thread has gotten out of hand. And that hopefully OP was just having a bad night when she posted. It happens.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP is correct. Houses in my neighborhood that would have been $1.2 a few years ago are now going for $1.6 or more. It is depressing for those of us who were looking and could have bought but didn't do it quickly enough and now find that we missed the boat. But it really doesn't help to dwell on it! You can only move forward from where you are and who knows what the future will bring.

Same. We’re now priced out of a neighborhood we love and hoped to buy in.

It’s pathetic that so many of the people on this forum can’t have compassion for people priced out by a ridiculous and unimaginable sharp increase in such a short time. Just confirms my suspicions that half of you are corporate slumlords, brokers, and builders greedy for cash.

Same here. We were looking and could have bought but thought we would be patient for the right fit. Now we are having to look at much lower quality houses at a higher price. I don't really understand why people on this forum can't understand how that would be disappointing. Imagine you wanted to book an airline ticket, you wait a day to confirm your travel dates and all the sudden the ticket price jumped by 40 percent. Wouldn't you be regretful and disappointed? Now instead of your holiday to Rome, you are looking at spending even more money to go to Atlantic City. And no, I am not trying to start a debate on the merits of Atlantic City vis a vis Rome - it is just an example!

Great example, it's like people wanting their first vacation to be - Rome, Italy and then being sad because it costs too much. Maybe start smaller, a starter vacation, like to Venice California or Rome Georgia and continue to save up your pennies.

No, it actually not like that. It is like you already saved up for your ticket to
Rome, you were in the middle of searching for flights and then the prices skyrocketed. Sure it happens but why not just acknowledge that it is disappointing

Okay but she could still get a ticket to somewhere closer but nice, like maybe Cancun or Turks and Caicos or something. She's acting like she'll be renting now forever, so the equivalent of swearing off vacations forever just because she can't go to Rome.

[Anonymous]

OP, why didn't you buy a place then? there are still places you can buy, they just won't be quite as nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think any comparisons between a home and vacation are going to work here.

I understand that OP is disappointed. What I don’t understand is why she doesn’t acknowledge how fortunate she is, despite that feeling of disappointment. I’d wager most of the negative reactions are rooted in the same confusion.

I agree this thread has gotten out of hand. And that hopefully OP was just having a bad night when she posted. It happens.

Yes, it's exactly that. Also the fact that complaining about $1.2 million homes is insulting to everyone that has one, AND to everyone who could never afford to have one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The level of toxicity and shaming on here for struggling buyers is obscene. Prices and rates are up. It's objectively a bad time to be a buyer. Regardless of what you'd buy or would have done differently, have some decency people.

Struggling buyers? You mean the person who can only afford a $1.2M house? The privilege around here is toxic, not these comments. I’ll save my empathy for people in places like North Philly, Flint, and East Palestine. This is ridiculous smh.

It is a bad time to buy, yes. It is not "shaming" to point out that there are still affordable options, buyers just don't want them.

[Anonymous]

Here are some just fine for three people in North Arlington.

https://redf.in/FOJtHr

https://redf.in/H43vLu

https://redf.in/wT8HvH

I’m a single mom with no child support and I have something like these and I’m just fine, thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here are some just fine for three people in North Arlington.

https://redf.in/FOJtHr

https://redf.in/H43vLu

https://redf.in/wT8HvH

I’m a single mom with no child support and I have something like these and I’m just fine, thanks.

They are still at 6.8%

[Anonymous]

Wow, they’re all nice but I bet the trees in the first one are lovely in the spring and warm months.

[Anonymous]

They’re all nice. The only thing wrong with them is the price tag. There is no way any of these places should be more than $750-800K, it’s the disconnect between how long and how much it takes to bay & finance a place like this now, vs the value for that cost. These are clear started homes that now cost as much as a move up home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re all nice. The only thing wrong with them is the price tag. There is no way any of these places should be more than $750-800K, it’s the disconnect between how long and how much it takes to bay & finance a place like this now, vs the value for that cost. These are clear started homes that now cost as much as a move up home.

They are not starter homes.