Do parents drink at your tween’s sporting events?

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Anonymous wrote:No. But I've wanted to given how some of the games go.

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Thought literally never occurred to me to drink at baseball until this thread. Nah, I can hang for two hours and watch my kid play ball without drinking. I've never seen any one else openly drinking at a game ever. I'm sure some hide it… I guess? Again, never really thought about it.

Now at a real ballgame, I want a beer in my hand before we hit the seat.

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the hell do people spend so much time at things that bore them this much? Tell the kid to find another hobby. Jesus.

"I know you love baseball, Billy, but mommy gets really bored at your games. I've enrolled you in dance instead; I'll enjoy that much more"

"That doesn't work for our family so we'll have to pick something else. Here are three options. Which would you like, or would you like to come up with another idea?"

This whole thread has basically been about baseball and swimming. It's not like we're talking about heli skiing or something completely off the wall that would disrupt a family.

If enrolling your kid in baseball or swim "doesn't work" for your family, you need to re-evaluate yourself as a parent

Not PP, but I would not consider someone a failure as a parent for declining to plan their weekends around rec sports.

It is odd how much time and money people are willing to spend on what is essentially a hobby for their kids. I'm glad my kids don't have that much interest in sports. I've never heard a story about things like travel sports that make them appear appealing in any way.

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the hell do people spend so much time at things that bore them this much? Tell the kid to find another hobby. Jesus.

"I know you love baseball, Billy, but mommy gets really bored at your games. I've enrolled you in dance instead; I'll enjoy that much more"

"That doesn't work for our family so we'll have to pick something else. Here are three options. Which would you like, or would you like to come up with another idea?"

This whole thread has basically been about baseball and swimming. It's not like we're talking about heli skiing or something completely off the wall that would disrupt a family.

If enrolling your kid in baseball or swim "doesn't work" for your family, you need to re-evaluate yourself as a parent

Not PP, but I would not consider someone a failure as a parent for declining to plan their weekends around rec sports.

It is odd how much time and money people are willing to spend on what is essentially a hobby for their kids. I'm glad my kids don't have that much interest in sports. I've never heard a story about things like travel sports that make them appear appealing in any way.

Some people enjoy watching games on tv, I’d rather watch my own kids and get some fresh air.

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the hell do people spend so much time at things that bore them this much? Tell the kid to find another hobby. Jesus.

"I know you love baseball, Billy, but mommy gets really bored at your games. I've enrolled you in dance instead; I'll enjoy that much more"

"That doesn't work for our family so we'll have to pick something else. Here are three options. Which would you like, or would you like to come up with another idea?"

That doesn't work for me because I'm selfish and only want you to engage in activities that I like to watch. That's what you're saying. What a great mom you are.

This is a bizarre read. My parents didn’t do any of this travel/watch practices or games stuff with me. They had work, they worked on and around our home, and I had a sibling whose needs/wants were also in the mix. Also we had one car.

They’re great parents; I don’t see a reason to do differently from them on this piece. You do you, I guess.

I think this is a symptom of many parents today being way too involved in their kids' lives. I'm Gen X, and though my dad would often drop me off at my baseball games growing up, my parents almost never went to the games, and neither did any of the the other parents of the kids on my teams. And, I had no interest in them being there. Who wants to spend a weekend afternoon with their parents?

I think sports can be good for kids, but I think a lot of parents today are really overdoing their involvement.

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Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of secret drinkers in the suburbs. "Wine mom" is real, that's how it became a meme. These moms just put the wine in a coffee mug or thermos to hide it. Or they drink with their mom friends, so they're not doing it alone. I can spot these moms a mile away as the child of an alcoholic. I know how to spot the signs. I just feel sorry for them because they are in denial that they have a problem.

I didn’t realize “wine mom”’ was a real thing until a few years ago and I have a 14yo. I was completely floored.

What is the difference between a "wine mom" and a woman who had children and enjoys wine? Is wine mom just code for alcoholic woman with kids?

Yes wine mom is an alcoholic who drinks at inappropriate times. If you have to hide the fact that you're drinking by camouflaging your drink- you're a wino

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the hell do people spend so much time at things that bore them this much? Tell the kid to find another hobby. Jesus.

"I know you love baseball, Billy, but mommy gets really bored at your games. I've enrolled you in dance instead; I'll enjoy that much more"

"That doesn't work for our family so we'll have to pick something else. Here are three options. Which would you like, or would you like to come up with another idea?"

This whole thread has basically been about baseball and swimming. It's not like we're talking about heli skiing or something completely off the wall that would disrupt a family.

If enrolling your kid in baseball or swim "doesn't work" for your family, you need to re-evaluate yourself as a parent

Not PP, but I would not consider someone a failure as a parent for declining to plan their weekends around rec sports.

It is odd how much time and money people are willing to spend on what is essentially a hobby for their kids. I'm glad my kids don't have that much interest in sports. I've never heard a story about things like travel sports that make them appear appealing in any way.

My child with ADHD would be a mess without that "hobby"

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the hell do people spend so much time at things that bore them this much? Tell the kid to find another hobby. Jesus.

"I know you love baseball, Billy, but mommy gets really bored at your games. I've enrolled you in dance instead; I'll enjoy that much more"

"That doesn't work for our family so we'll have to pick something else. Here are three options. Which would you like, or would you like to come up with another idea?"

This whole thread has basically been about baseball and swimming. It's not like we're talking about heli skiing or something completely off the wall that would disrupt a family.

If enrolling your kid in baseball or swim "doesn't work" for your family, you need to re-evaluate yourself as a parent

Not PP, but I would not consider someone a failure as a parent for declining to plan their weekends around rec sports.

It is odd how much time and money people are willing to spend on what is essentially a hobby for their kids. I'm glad my kids don't have that much interest in sports. I've never heard a story about things like travel sports that make them appear appealing in any way.

My child with ADHD would be a mess without that "hobby"

I mean most people spend time and money on their kids hobbies. I don't see the difference between this any all the other over involved sh1t we do for them

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Anonymous wrote:What if one of their kids got hurt during the game and had to the ER? You can't just sit there and get buzzed when anything could happen and you need to be clear-headed to react.

It's comments like these that confuse me.

People can have one drink. Or two drinks, over the course of a 2 hours game and be completely clear headed.

I don't drink at my kid's games, but I also think our attitude towards alcohol in this county is nuts. A cold beer on a hot Saturday afternoon is not a problem.

Your kid might have to go to the ER when you're drinking that chardonnay on your back porch as well

Exactly this. I don’t understand why so many people associate having one drink with being an alcoholic or as a coping mechanism for getting through a boring game. I stated previously that I once had a beer at a soccer game, I am neither am alcoholic (I actually drink very rarely) or bored at games. I’ve never seen anyone drunk at a game, obviously this would be a huge problem.

I get that some people disagree with it because it’s against rules and I think that is fair. But to pretend a person having a casual beer is the same as someone who drinks to excess all the time is silly.

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Where I live, attitudes about light drinking seem to be more lax. I don’t drink and I rarely see others drink at games. Once, a few moms showed up with hot toddies and I was not at all bothered. None of them were acting obnoxious or tipsy.

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the hell do people spend so much time at things that bore them this much? Tell the kid to find another hobby. Jesus.

"I know you love baseball, Billy, but mommy gets really bored at your games. I've enrolled you in dance instead; I'll enjoy that much more"

"That doesn't work for our family so we'll have to pick something else. Here are three options. Which would you like, or would you like to come up with another idea?"

That doesn't work for me because I'm selfish and only want you to engage in activities that I like to watch. That's what you're saying. What a great mom you are.

This is a bizarre read. My parents didn’t do any of this travel/watch practices or games stuff with me. They had work, they worked on and around our home, and I had a sibling whose needs/wants were also in the mix. Also we had one car.

They’re great parents; I don’t see a reason to do differently from them on this piece. You do you, I guess.

I think this is a symptom of many parents today being way too involved in their kids' lives. I'm Gen X, and though my dad would often drop me off at my baseball games growing up, my parents almost never went to the games, and neither did any of the the other parents of the kids on my teams. And, I had no interest in them being there. Who wants to spend a weekend afternoon with their parents?

I think sports can be good for kids, but I think a lot of parents today are really overdoing their involvement.

Imiagine the mental gymnastics one has to go to to equate attending your son's baseball game with "overdoing your invovement"

My 14 year old son plays travel baseball and has a game in Olney today. That's 45 minute from my home in Alexandria. Do you propose I drive 45 minutes there, then 45 minutes home, wait 40 minutes and then drive 45 minutes back to Olney to retrieve him?

Because my current plan is to throw the folding chair in the trunk, pack a small lunch cooler with a tuna salad sandwich and 2 IPAs and spend a gorgeous afternon camped out on first baseline enjoyng the outdoors and watching my son play short stop. But I'm really worried others will think I'm an over involved alcoholic.

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YES..Youth Baseball could not be MORE BORING! Good grief..3.5 hours average per game !

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the hell do people spend so much time at things that bore them this much? Tell the kid to find another hobby. Jesus.

"I know you love baseball, Billy, but mommy gets really bored at your games. I've enrolled you in dance instead; I'll enjoy that much more"

"That doesn't work for our family so we'll have to pick something else. Here are three options. Which would you like, or would you like to come up with another idea?"

That doesn't work for me because I'm selfish and only want you to engage in activities that I like to watch. That's what you're saying. What a great mom you are.

This is a bizarre read. My parents didn’t do any of this travel/watch practices or games stuff with me. They had work, they worked on and around our home, and I had a sibling whose needs/wants were also in the mix. Also we had one car.

They’re great parents; I don’t see a reason to do differently from them on this piece. You do you, I guess.

I think this is a symptom of many parents today being way too involved in their kids' lives. I'm Gen X, and though my dad would often drop me off at my baseball games growing up, my parents almost never went to the games, and neither did any of the the other parents of the kids on my teams. And, I had no interest in them being there. Who wants to spend a weekend afternoon with their parents?

I think sports can be good for kids, but I think a lot of parents today are really overdoing their involvement.

Imiagine the mental gymnastics one has to go to to equate attending your son's baseball game with "overdoing your invovement"

My 14 year old son plays travel baseball and has a game in Olney today. That's 45 minute from my home in Alexandria. Do you propose I drive 45 minutes there, then 45 minutes home, wait 40 minutes and then drive 45 minutes back to Olney to retrieve him?

Because my current plan is to throw the folding chair in the trunk, pack a small lunch cooler with a tuna salad sandwich and 2 IPAs and spend a gorgeous afternon camped out on first baseline enjoyng the outdoors and watching my son play short stop. But I'm really worried others will think I'm an over involved alcoholic.

This is perfect and exactly what we do...except with soccer.

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Anonymous wrote:Why in the hell do people spend so much time at things that bore them this much? Tell the kid to find another hobby. Jesus.

"I know you love baseball, Billy, but mommy gets really bored at your games. I've enrolled you in dance instead; I'll enjoy that much more"

"That doesn't work for our family so we'll have to pick something else. Here are three options. Which would you like, or would you like to come up with another idea?"

That doesn't work for me because I'm selfish and only want you to engage in activities that I like to watch. That's what you're saying. What a great mom you are.

This is a bizarre read. My parents didn’t do any of this travel/watch practices or games stuff with me. They had work, they worked on and around our home, and I had a sibling whose needs/wants were also in the mix. Also we had one car.

They’re great parents; I don’t see a reason to do differently from them on this piece. You do you, I guess.

I think this is a symptom of many parents today being way too involved in their kids' lives. I'm Gen X, and though my dad would often drop me off at my baseball games growing up, my parents almost never went to the games, and neither did any of the the other parents of the kids on my teams. And, I had no interest in them being there. Who wants to spend a weekend afternoon with their parents?

I think sports can be good for kids, but I think a lot of parents today are really overdoing their involvement.

Imiagine the mental gymnastics one has to go to to equate attending your son's baseball game with "overdoing your invovement"

My 14 year old son plays travel baseball and has a game in Olney today. That's 45 minute from my home in Alexandria. Do you propose I drive 45 minutes there, then 45 minutes home, wait 40 minutes and then drive 45 minutes back to Olney to retrieve him?

Because my current plan is to throw the folding chair in the trunk, pack a small lunch cooler with a tuna salad sandwich and 2 IPAs and spend a gorgeous afternon camped out on first baseline enjoyng the outdoors and watching my son play short stop. But I'm really worried others will think I'm an over involved alcoholic.

You sped right past the key words—“travel baseball.” We’re not doing that.

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Anonymous wrote:YES..Youth Baseball could not be MORE BORING! Good grief..3.5 hours average per game !

Most baseball games last about 1.5 hours. All baseball games have an official drop dead time limit of 2 hours. No idea where you came up with 3.5, but you are very wrong.