Please stop asking for “experiences” over gifts for your kids!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m happy to not receive any gifts or for you to give my kids money for their savings account if you simply HAVE to give something. Truly I prefer nothing at all, they don’t need it, but that crappy $5 1000 piece puzzle is going straight in the trash if you buy it.

+1. I won't throw it in the trash, but I'll likely keep it for a little while and then donate it unopened in a couple of months.

It's not about you. It's about your kid, who I'm sure enjoys opening up a gift on Christmas.

No, again, my kids have plenty and they know a “this is thoughtless junk but I wanted you to open something so I could feel giving” gift when they see it. Absolutely nothing at all is necessary. Really.

I’m sure your kids would disagree. You don’t get to make every decision. You are raising a person with their own preferences and feelings.

My house, my rules. I’m not keeping some toy I hate (whether junk or a video game) just because my kids might like it. There’s lots of stuff they want that they don’t get because it isn’t good for them or for me.

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Anonymous wrote:My children would love a $5 or even a $10 GC to 7-11. They could buy so many slushees. That would be an awesome present. But no, more junk from Amazon is coming that they will never look at. It doesn’t have to be an expensive experience. We never go to 7-11 and they think it’s the best place ever with that slushee machine.

So why don’t you get that for them instead of whatever you were going to get. Problem solved.

Can’t believe all the entitled asses on this thread. Wonder how they’ll feel if their well-meaning gifts to their grandkids are trashed by the parents in a few years.

Lol yep to the bolded. Let the relatives get whatever gifts you would have given, then you as the parents can try explaining that the family's next trip out for ice cream or to some bounce house is now their "Christmas gift".

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Anonymous wrote:I’m happy to not receive any gifts or for you to give my kids money for their savings account if you simply HAVE to give something. Truly I prefer nothing at all, they don’t need it, but that crappy $5 1000 piece puzzle is going straight in the trash if you buy it.

+1. I won't throw it in the trash, but I'll likely keep it for a little while and then donate it unopened in a couple of months.

It's not about you. It's about your kid, who I'm sure enjoys opening up a gift on Christmas.

No, again, my kids have plenty and they know a “this is thoughtless junk but I wanted you to open something so I could feel giving” gift when they see it. Absolutely nothing at all is necessary. Really.

I’m sure your kids would disagree. You don’t get to make every decision. You are raising a person with their own preferences and feelings.

My house, my rules. I’m not keeping some toy I hate (whether junk or a video game) just because my kids might like it. There’s lots of stuff they want that they don’t get because it isn’t good for them or for me.

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Who asks for gifts???? If I suggest an experience instead of a toy, it’s because you asked me. Don’t ask the question if you don’t really want an answer.

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Anonymous wrote:Who asks for gifts???? If I suggest an experience instead of a toy, it’s because you asked me. Don’t ask the question if you don’t really want an answer.

+1. Christmas has gotten over the top. When relatives ask for ideas, I try to think of 1-2 toys/books/clothes my kids would like. They’re young and IMO that is plenty. When that isn’t enough and they keep demanding for more ideas (hello MIL) then sure I’ll include more experience type ideas like the zoo, aquarium, etc. Don’t like it, then don’t ask in the first place.

Now that our niece and nephew are teenagers, they’re usually trying to save up for something bigger and would prefer gift cards or cash. That doesnt bother be at all. They also really like experience gifts from their parents/grandparents (e.g., a major league sports game).

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It’s a amazing to me none of these PPs appear to have a trash service. Open lid pop broken/ unwanted toy in. Take to curb. Problem solved.
Someone who bought you a gift from $5 below is not going to give $$ to your 539. Lol.

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Anonymous wrote:Here is toy= experiences in one OP..:

This is exactly where grandparents shop. Not realizing you don’t have room for these.

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OMG that sand pit thing. Noooooooo

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Man I loved the hell out of that doctor kit

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SIL used to buy my DDs clothes from Kohl’s dollar days. Not
Wearing that. The postage cost more.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a amazing to me none of these PPs appear to have a trash service. Open lid pop broken/ unwanted toy in. Take to curb. Problem solved.
Someone who bought you a gift from $5 below is not going to give $$ to your 539. Lol.

Our planet is a cesspool of trash already.

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If you don’t want to be told what to give, don’t ask! Just give the gift you want to give.

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Anonymous wrote:If you don’t want to be told what to give, don’t ask! Just give the gift you want to give.

+1. So simple. If you are given lists without asking for them, that’s rude regardless. So just ignore and get what you want.

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Anonymous wrote:My children would love a $5 or even a $10 GC to 7-11. They could buy so many slushees. That would be an awesome present. But no, more junk from Amazon is coming that they will never look at. It doesn’t have to be an expensive experience. We never go to 7-11 and they think it’s the best place ever with that slushee machine.

So why don’t you get that for them instead of whatever you were going to get. Problem solved.

Can’t believe all the entitled asses on this thread. Wonder how they’ll feel if their well-meaning gifts to their grandkids are trashed by the parents in a few years.

Hi Mom and MIL! You have found DCUM! I’ve delicately explained this to you many times. The kids are older and go out with their friends. The 7-11 GC or even a VISA GC would be perfect and easy for you to get. They would appreciate and use it. They are too old for the craft kits, legos, STEM kits etc. We donate them. They still appreciate the gifts you give but they are older now. Please try to get to know them. DS even has a girl friend. Stay away from buying them clothes. I can’t even keep up with the latest styles and they pick out their own. We are far away from superheroes and princesses.

Tacky to demand cash. My son likes getting clothing.

I know it’s hard to accept that they aren’t little anymore, MIL. You don’t have to give them cash but you asked for gifts they actually want. We understand you think boys look adorable in button downed plaid shirts, a sweater and khakis but DS isn’t wearing them. He says thanks and they stay in the closet. You tell him the girls would be impressed if he wears this to school but it’s not really in style. Again, it’s a nice thought and we appreciate your effort but you asked for what they want and it really is gift cards to go out with their friends. You can continue to pick out presents but don’t be offended when they are not used or worn.

I would love that or any clothing as a gift. My child gets gifted nice clothing. I appreciate it. Every so often he needs it. And, mine are not wearing athletic clothing every day. How can your son not need khakis a few times a year?

It is appreciated and we thank them. And it goes straight to the donation pile. They wear these clothes when they have to and we would rather donate them to children who may use them more than once. They already own their khakis and dress clothes. They don’t need relatives picking out more.

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Anonymous wrote:My children would love a $5 or even a $10 GC to 7-11. They could buy so many slushees. That would be an awesome present. But no, more junk from Amazon is coming that they will never look at. It doesn’t have to be an expensive experience. We never go to 7-11 and they think it’s the best place ever with that slushee machine.

So why don’t you get that for them instead of whatever you were going to get. Problem solved.

Can’t believe all the entitled asses on this thread. Wonder how they’ll feel if their well-meaning gifts to their grandkids are trashed by the parents in a few years.

Hi Mom and MIL! You have found DCUM! I’ve delicately explained this to you many times. The kids are older and go out with their friends. The 7-11 GC or even a VISA GC would be perfect and easy for you to get. They would appreciate and use it. They are too old for the craft kits, legos, STEM kits etc. We donate them. They still appreciate the gifts you give but they are older now. Please try to get to know them. DS even has a girl friend. Stay away from buying them clothes. I can’t even keep up with the latest styles and they pick out their own. We are far away from superheroes and princesses.

Tacky to demand cash. My son likes getting clothing.

I know it’s hard to accept that they aren’t little anymore, MIL. You don’t have to give them cash but you asked for gifts they actually want. We understand you think boys look adorable in button downed plaid shirts, a sweater and khakis but DS isn’t wearing them. He says thanks and they stay in the closet. You tell him the girls would be impressed if he wears this to school but it’s not really in style. Again, it’s a nice thought and we appreciate your effort but you asked for what they want and it really is gift cards to go out with their friends. You can continue to pick out presents but don’t be offended when they are not used or worn.

I would love that or any clothing as a gift. My child gets gifted nice clothing. I appreciate it. Every so often he needs it. And, mine are not wearing athletic clothing every day. How can your son not need khakis a few times a year?

It is appreciated and we thank them. And it goes straight to the donation pile. They wear these clothes when they have to and we would rather donate them to children who may use them more than once. They already own their khakis and dress clothes. They don’t need relatives picking out more.

If they get them as gifts, you don't need to buy them. Sounds like you are looking for an excuse. Let them wear them, even once then donate them. You sound really crappy.