Will you and DH get an inheritance?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Both of DH's parents have passed, He inherited about $30K. More than he ever thought he would get. This was a welcome and greatly appreciated surprise - it helped us fund our DS special ed private school education.

I stand to inherit about $1.5M, combination of investments and real estate. My two siblings I am assuming will get equal to what I am standing to inherit. And if for some reason my parents changed their will to reflect one of us getting less than the others, we have all agreed to make it even for all 3 of us in the end.

I plan to pass a lot (not all) of this inheritance on to our children.

We inherited different amounts from my parents. Guess which kids were the ones who kept in contact with my parents over the years? Those that didn’t inherit, hasn’t had contact with them for a very long time.

Sounds like you come from a very dysfunctional family. I bet the ones that cut off contact could care less if they received an inheritance...and those who got an inheritance sold themselves out to get it.

These are often the greediest and grabbiest folks.

Data to support please?

[Anonymous]

My SOs family were wealthy in their country but due to circumstance they lived basic (in an apartment) in a neighboring country. They never really had liquid assets. And I always assumed they were poor (or very middle class).

Upon passing, some of the real estate in home country was sold. I think SO was given just under 300k. There’s additional property to be sold. So more $ to come.

[Anonymous]

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Both of DH's parents have passed, He inherited about $30K. More than he ever thought he would get. This was a welcome and greatly appreciated surprise - it helped us fund our DS special ed private school education.

I stand to inherit about $1.5M, combination of investments and real estate. My two siblings I am assuming will get equal to what I am standing to inherit. And if for some reason my parents changed their will to reflect one of us getting less than the others, we have all agreed to make it even for all 3 of us in the end.

I plan to pass a lot (not all) of this inheritance on to our children.


We inherited different amounts from my parents. Guess which kids were the ones who kept in contact with my parents over the years? Those that didn’t inherit, hasn’t had contact with them for a very long time.


Sounds like you come from a very dysfunctional family. I bet the ones that cut off contact could care less if they received an inheritance...and those who got an inheritance sold themselves out to get it.


These are often the greediest and grabbiest folks.

I wonder what selling yourself out means? Does it mean that you made less money in hopes of getting an inheritance (and hung around to be a good child) while the others made enough money to not care about an inheritance? I'm not sure I understand.

[Anonymous]

No. Actually cost us a bit after mom passed recently. She did leave money to her grandkids. I was honored just to care for her and execute her will as she wished. My dad died years ago.

We’ve already helped our grown kids with some financial things and they will get around 500,000 when we die.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both of DH's parents have passed, He inherited about $30K. More than he ever thought he would get. This was a welcome and greatly appreciated surprise - it helped us fund our DS special ed private school education.

I stand to inherit about $1.5M, combination of investments and real estate. My two siblings I am assuming will get equal to what I am standing to inherit. And if for some reason my parents changed their will to reflect one of us getting less than the others, we have all agreed to make it even for all 3 of us in the end.

I plan to pass a lot (not all) of this inheritance on to our children.

We inherited different amounts from my parents. Guess which kids were the ones who kept in contact with my parents over the years? Those that didn’t inherit, hasn’t had contact with them for a very long time.

Sounds like you come from a very dysfunctional family. I bet the ones that cut off contact could care less if they received an inheritance...and those who got an inheritance sold themselves out to get it.

These are often the greediest and grabbiest folks.

Data to support please?

This.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I've spent about $300k over the last decade supporting my parents. no inheritance for me!

Consider it pay back for the money they spent on you.

kind of a hilarious response in a thread about inheriting!

Anyway, I already paid all of that back. I was a foster, so they were paid for several years to raise me. Public school, no paid activities like piano lessons or league sports. I've been working since I was 16, and they gave me $1000 for college. I paid off their debts when I was 25, and gave them another $150,000 on top of that but they blew through that and are deeply in debt again. I pay the mortgage and the grocery bills. Most of y'all should be so lucky.

Spend some of that $$ on therapy for you and learn to stop enabling them.

[Anonymous]

Whew. I am glad to know there are some posters here who also won't inherit anything from parents (and are probably praying they don't end up with a bill upon parents' passing). I felt seemingly alone in this regard but it's comforting that there are still some DCUM posters who come from humble beginnings.

My father passed away earlier this year and it was a distant relationship, to say the least. I didn't get a dime from him and I am okay with that. It was the cards dealt to me in life and even without the inheritance, I am humbled by the semi-charmed life I live. As for my mother, I am anticipating that me and my siblings will have to shoulder the costs of her last days/funeral expenses. Morbid to think about but my mother is anything but a saver.

Rather than spite the posters who will be getting an inheritance, I hope you do some good in the world with what your parents will give you. Nothing wrong with inheriting wealth but what a wonderful thing it would be if you can make the world a little better a place for someone or some people. Happy new year!

[Anonymous]

I got an inheritance *from* DH, does that count?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Both of DH's parents have passed, He inherited about $30K. More than he ever thought he would get. This was a welcome and greatly appreciated surprise - it helped us fund our DS special ed private school education.

I stand to inherit about $1.5M, combination of investments and real estate. My two siblings I am assuming will get equal to what I am standing to inherit. And if for some reason my parents changed their will to reflect one of us getting less than the others, we have all agreed to make it even for all 3 of us in the end.

I plan to pass a lot (not all) of this inheritance on to our children.


We inherited different amounts from my parents. Guess which kids were the ones who kept in contact with my parents over the years? Those that didn’t inherit, hasn’t had contact with them for a very long time.


Sounds like you come from a very dysfunctional family. I bet the ones that cut off contact could care less if they received an inheritance...and those who got an inheritance sold themselves out to get it.


These are often the greediest and grabbiest folks.

I wonder what selling yourself out means? Does it mean that you made less money in hopes of getting an inheritance (and hung around to be a good child) while the others made enough money to not care about an inheritance? I'm not sure I understand.

That statement means that those individuals endured/enabled dysfunctional and abusive behavior because they wanted the inheritance money. Only a dysfunctional person thinks this would mean being a”good kid.” Typically the functional ones cut their loses and live a clean life away from the dysfunction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got an inheritance *from* DH, does that count?

Oh my goodness OP - I am assuming here that he passed?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I got an inheritance *from* DH, does that count?

Oh my goodness OP - I am assuming here that he passed?

I meant PP not OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Both of DH's parents have passed, He inherited about $30K. More than he ever thought he would get. This was a welcome and greatly appreciated surprise - it helped us fund our DS special ed private school education.

I stand to inherit about $1.5M, combination of investments and real estate. My two siblings I am assuming will get equal to what I am standing to inherit. And if for some reason my parents changed their will to reflect one of us getting less than the others, we have all agreed to make it even for all 3 of us in the end.

I plan to pass a lot (not all) of this inheritance on to our children.


We inherited different amounts from my parents. Guess which kids were the ones who kept in contact with my parents over the years? Those that didn’t inherit, hasn’t had contact with them for a very long time.


Sounds like you come from a very dysfunctional family. I bet the ones that cut off contact could care less if they received an inheritance...and those who got an inheritance sold themselves out to get it.


These are often the greediest and grabbiest folks.

I wonder what selling yourself out means? Does it mean that you made less money in hopes of getting an inheritance (and hung around to be a good child) while the others made enough money to not care about an inheritance? I'm not sure I understand.

That statement means that those individuals endured/enabled dysfunctional and abusive behavior because they wanted the inheritance money. Only a dysfunctional person thinks this would mean being a”good kid.” Typically the functional ones cut their loses and live a clean life away from the dysfunction.

Boy you see the world one sided. We’ve seen kids estranged from parents bc they are addicts, married someone who isolated them, they are mentally ill, etc. i have a sibling who was estranged from my wonderful parents. Her loss...

[Anonymous]

Yes and yes. Probably somewhere around 10-20M in total. Though we are lobbying for them to donate most of that according to their wishes so we won't have to deal with it.

[Anonymous]

My siblings and I will inherit a large amount of money but hopefully not for a long time! My father has been pretty good about giving us information on their estate planning and that they have set up irrevocable trusts for us and our children. All of us have good careers and we are doing very well on our own but it is comforting to know that there will be a safety net for us if something negative was to happen financially.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Both of DH's parents have passed, He inherited about $30K. More than he ever thought he would get. This was a welcome and greatly appreciated surprise - it helped us fund our DS special ed private school education.

I stand to inherit about $1.5M, combination of investments and real estate. My two siblings I am assuming will get equal to what I am standing to inherit. And if for some reason my parents changed their will to reflect one of us getting less than the others, we have all agreed to make it even for all 3 of us in the end.

I plan to pass a lot (not all) of this inheritance on to our children.


We inherited different amounts from my parents. Guess which kids were the ones who kept in contact with my parents over the years? Those that didn’t inherit, hasn’t had contact with them for a very long time.


Sounds like you come from a very dysfunctional family. I bet the ones that cut off contact could care less if they received an inheritance...and those who got an inheritance sold themselves out to get it.


These are often the greediest and grabbiest folks.

I wonder what selling yourself out means? Does it mean that you made less money in hopes of getting an inheritance (and hung around to be a good child) while the others made enough money to not care about an inheritance? I'm not sure I understand.

That statement means that those individuals endured/enabled dysfunctional and abusive behavior because they wanted the inheritance money. Only a dysfunctional person thinks this would mean being a”good kid.” Typically the functional ones cut their loses and live a clean life away from the dysfunction.

Boy you see the world one sided. We’ve seen kids estranged from parents bc they are addicts, married someone who isolated them, they are mentally ill, etc. i have a sibling who was estranged from my wonderful parents. Her loss...

You have no idea how I see the world. This is one perspective that I explained. Sorry about the baggage from your sister.