35yo guy husband works with brought 24yo woman to a wedding. Everyone gave him a hard time, why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Of course marrying a skinny plain Jane you met at Trinity, Yale, law school or back in boarding school is common. But we're talking about a 30-something bachelor, every gal of note from prep school and undergrad is long married. Single women his age are divorced, spinsters, single moms and/or nuts with diminished fertility. If the chap is high status and wants a few kids, it's illogical for him to court women in their 30s.

Riiight, boarding school, spinsters, fertility. Gal of note.

Weird.

Don’t forget “chap.”

And how old is this poster? For a 34 year old guy, every woman 30 to his age is definitely not LONG married, spinsters (what does this mean for a single professional 30 year old woman in NYC? Is this a will never married spinster?!), single mom, or nuts. People are getting married later and later, this poster sounds like they're posting from 1950.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Of course marrying a skinny plain Jane you met at Trinity, Yale, law school or back in boarding school is common. But we're talking about a 30-something bachelor, every gal of note from prep school and undergrad is long married. Single women his age are divorced, spinsters, single moms and/or nuts with diminished fertility. If the chap is high status and wants a few kids, it's illogical for him to court women in their 30s.

Riiight, boarding school, spinsters, fertility. Gal of note.

Weird.

Don’t forget “chap.”

And how old is this poster? For a 34 year old guy, every woman 30 to his age is definitely not LONG married, spinsters (what does this mean for a single professional 30 year old woman in NYC? Is this a will never married spinster?!), single mom, or nuts. People are getting married later and later, this poster sounds like they're posting from 1950.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Of course marrying a skinny plain Jane you met at Trinity, Yale, law school or back in boarding school is common. But we're talking about a 30-something bachelor, every gal of note from prep school and undergrad is long married. Single women his age are divorced, spinsters, single moms and/or nuts with diminished fertility. If the chap is high status and wants a few kids, it's illogical for him to court women in their 30s.

Riiight, boarding school, spinsters, fertility. Gal of note.

Weird.

Don’t forget “chap.”

And how old is this poster? For a 34 year old guy, every woman 30 to his age is definitely not LONG married, spinsters (what does this mean for a single professional 30 year old woman in NYC? Is this a will never married spinster?!), single mom, or nuts. People are getting married later and later, this poster sounds like they're posting from 1950.

Everyone's marrying super late. Biology and peak fertility are myths. Sweetie, bless your heart, but this is called denial.

Men don't care how professional a woman in her 30s is; by the time they're married, they're going to run into fertility issues -- especially if the husband wants more than one child. A much safer bet is pursuing women in their mid and late 20s.

[Anonymous]

Everyone's marrying super late. Biology and peak fertility are myths. Sweetie, bless your heart, but this is called denial.

Men don't care how professional a woman in her 30s is; by the time they're married, they're going to run into fertility issues -- especially if the husband wants more than one child. A much safer bet is pursuing women in their mid and late 20s

Jeez, stop with the fertility bs. No guy cares about it until they’ve started actually trying. We’re not trying to produce an heir to the British throne.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine did this. We have him sh*t because that’s what we do, and it’s a bit of fun. We weren’t outright rude to the woman, but we did rib him about getting her home early on school night.

He married her and she’s great.

Good for the guy. The people who give him crap are either doing some light teasing of a buddy or have their own personal issues.

Sounds like bullying

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Everyone's marrying super late. Biology and peak fertility are myths. Sweetie, bless your heart, but this is called denial.

Men don't care how professional a woman in her 30s is; by the time they're married, they're going to run into fertility issues -- especially if the husband wants more than one child. A much safer bet is pursuing women in their mid and late 20s

Jeez, stop with the fertility bs. No guy cares about it until they’ve started actually trying. We’re not trying to produce an heir to the British throne.

Do you know what biology and evolution are? Men can (subconsciously) tell if a woman is fertile. Does a 25 yo gal’s face look any diff from a 35 yo gal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Everyone's marrying super late. Biology and peak fertility are myths. Sweetie, bless your heart, but this is called denial.

Men don't care how professional a woman in her 30s is; by the time they're married, they're going to run into fertility issues -- especially if the husband wants more than one child. A much safer bet is pursuing women in their mid and late 20s

Jeez, stop with the fertility bs. No guy cares about it until they’ve started actually trying. We’re not trying to produce an heir to the British throne.

Do you know what biology and evolution are? Men can (subconsciously) tell if a woman is fertile. Does a 25 yo gal’s face look any diff from a 35 yo gal?

I think this is Mike Pence, lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Everyone's marrying super late. Biology and peak fertility are myths. Sweetie, bless your heart, but this is called denial.

Men don't care how professional a woman in her 30s is; by the time they're married, they're going to run into fertility issues -- especially if the husband wants more than one child. A much safer bet is pursuing women in their mid and late 20s

Jeez, stop with the fertility bs. No guy cares about it until they’ve started actually trying. We’re not trying to produce an heir to the British throne.

Do you know what biology and evolution are? Men can (subconsciously) tell if a woman is fertile. Does a 25 yo gal’s face look any diff from a 35 yo gal?

I think this is Mike Pence, lol.

Ah, it’s the good old fashioned “gal,” “chap,” and “courting” poster visiting us again from 1950.

[Anonymous]

Men generally age at the same rate as women, but they are not enculturated to believe that about themselves.

Anyway, who cares. It was their date, unless they were rude to the couple marrying, no biggie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine did this. We have him sh*t because that’s what we do, and it’s a bit of fun. We weren’t outright rude to the woman, but we did rib him about getting her home early on school night.

He married her and she’s great.

Good for the guy. The people who give him crap are either doing some light teasing of a buddy or have their own personal issues.

Sounds like bullying

Sometimes it is bullying, I have seen that happen - it happens when the guy (or girl) doing the "ribbing" is insecure about (the guy with the hot young woman) having a better life than they are. Guess what? They are usually right about that part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men generally age at the same rate as women, but they are not enculturated to believe that about themselves.

Anyway, who cares. It was their date, unless they were rude to the couple marrying, no biggie.

+1

This is when the "friends" who are jealous of the couple start gossiping about what the woman supposedly did or did not do that night. So catty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men generally age at the same rate as women, but they are not enculturated to believe that about themselves.

Anyway, who cares. It was their date, unless they were rude to the couple marrying, no biggie.

+1

This is when the "friends" who are jealous of the couple start gossiping about what the woman supposedly did or did not do that night. So catty.

You know, it is possible she was a complete dolt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men generally age at the same rate as women, but they are not enculturated to believe that about themselves.

Anyway, who cares. It was their date, unless they were rude to the couple marrying, no biggie.

+1

This is when the "friends" who are jealous of the couple start gossiping about what the woman supposedly did or did not do that night. So catty.

You know, it is possible she was a complete dolt.

It doesn’t have to be jealousy at all. I find it bizarre that everyone is assuming that she’s awesome because she’s young. She could have been a complete dick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men generally age at the same rate as women, but they are not enculturated to believe that about themselves.

Anyway, who cares. It was their date, unless they were rude to the couple marrying, no biggie.

+1

This is when the "friends" who are jealous of the couple start gossiping about what the woman supposedly did or did not do that night. So catty.

You know, it is possible she was a complete dolt.

It doesn’t have to be jealousy at all. I find it bizarre that everyone is assuming that she’s awesome because she’s young. She could have been a complete dick.

And why assume she was hot? Not every young woman is hot. In fact, most are not. Further, not every med student is a genius savior. Has anyone actually been to a doctor lately? Typical Americans glorifying youth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men generally age at the same rate as women, but they are not enculturated to believe that about themselves.

Anyway, who cares. It was their date, unless they were rude to the couple marrying, no biggie.

+1

This is when the "friends" who are jealous of the couple start gossiping about what the woman supposedly did or did not do that night. So catty.

You know, it is possible she was a complete dolt.

It doesn’t have to be jealousy at all. I find it bizarre that everyone is assuming that she’s awesome because she’s young. She could have been a complete dick.

PP here. I have seen how grown adults can be really nasty when they feel "more deserving" than the next guy, and it is not pretty. In my 20's, I saw the older employees, who were supposed to be long time friends - and close, treat another employee, usually male, like rubbish if that guy had some hot young girlfriend. God forbid they get engaged. Not all hot young things are dolts - in the situations I have seen, the hot young things were more educated than the older (very bright, very accomplished) boyfriend. I think there is a stereotype that comes to mind seeing an older guy with a pretty younger woman - whether or not you admit it, people assume that the pretty young woman is a dolt or something less flattering. Not always true, believe it or not.

Some people hate on young women, that's all. Maybe they did not have such a great life during that period in their life - we will never know what triggers some people, but we can have a good idea based on their actions. Usually, catty people are not that way for no reason, an it is not because they are happy people, in general. The pretty young woman would be smart to stay away from people who don't support her and her fiancé - if I was pretty and young, I would.