Adopting newborn at 52 years old?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All the righteous people here judging this woman and her partner for giving two children a loving and stable home can DIAF.

+1 - how dare you people judge this woman. she is giving children happy homes - which is more than i can say for many younger, healthy parents

Look into the history of why there are age restrictions on adoption.

Also, the "how dare you" is over the top. There were plenty of happy homes that desperately wanted these children and the parents were much younger and healthier.

How do you know the specifics of Kotb's adoptions? There could be undisclosed facts that would have made the girls less "adoptable" but Kotb's resources make those issues easier to mitigate.

Those kids were easily adoptable. It would take severe health or other issues to make a child who is a newborn or toddler less adoptable. She bought those kids like many do but the sad part is the birthparents probably got very little and it all went to the attorneys/agencies or both.

That is a GOOD thing. Children are not chattel nor are they objects to be sold.

It should never be the case that the 'birth' parents should profit from giving up their children. They should do it for the child's well-being not to line their pockets.

I'm sure their medical expenses were paid for and they know they children went to good homes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the righteous people here judging this woman and her partner for giving two children a loving and stable home can DIAF.

+1 - how dare you people judge this woman. she is giving children happy homes - which is more than i can say for many younger, healthy parents

Look into the history of why there are age restrictions on adoption.

Also, the "how dare you" is over the top. There were plenty of happy homes that desperately wanted these children and the parents were much younger and healthier.

How do you know the specifics of Kotb's adoptions? There could be undisclosed facts that would have made the girls less "adoptable" but Kotb's resources make those issues easier to mitigate.

Those kids were easily adoptable. It would take severe health or other issues to make a child who is a newborn or toddler less adoptable. She bought those kids like many do but the sad part is the birthparents probably got very little and it all went to the attorneys/agencies or both.

That is not sad at all. Do you realize what could happen if birth parents got money from adoptions? It protects EVERYONE. No one wants to be able to buy babies. Crazy talk.

[Anonymous]

LOL jinx PP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the righteous people here judging this woman and her partner for giving two children a loving and stable home can DIAF.

+1 - how dare you people judge this woman. she is giving children happy homes - which is more than i can say for many younger, healthy parents

Look into the history of why there are age restrictions on adoption.

Also, the "how dare you" is over the top. There were plenty of happy homes that desperately wanted these children and the parents were much younger and healthier.

How do you know the specifics of Kotb's adoptions? There could be undisclosed facts that would have made the girls less "adoptable" but Kotb's resources make those issues easier to mitigate.

Those kids were easily adoptable. It would take severe health or other issues to make a child who is a newborn or toddler less adoptable. She bought those kids like many do but the sad part is the birthparents probably got very little and it all went to the attorneys/agencies or both.

Again, how do you know this?

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I think many are coming from. The "what's always been done" perspective, but the truth is, children with non traditional lives and families can be just as happy.

These kids get a loving g 20-30 years out of their parents and a lifetime of experiences, it might be a trade-off for longevity.

I lost my mother younger than most, and she was also young, so I'm not blind to the devastating loss of a parent.

But man, I wouldn't trade my mom for one who didn't get a rare disease and die early.

These.kids will be fine if there is love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the righteous people here judging this woman and her partner for giving two children a loving and stable home can DIAF.

+1 - how dare you people judge this woman. she is giving children happy homes - which is more than i can say for many younger, healthy parents

Look into the history of why there are age restrictions on adoption.

Also, the "how dare you" is over the top. There were plenty of happy homes that desperately wanted these children and the parents were much younger and healthier.

How do you know the specifics of Kotb's adoptions? There could be undisclosed facts that would have made the girls less "adoptable" but Kotb's resources make those issues easier to mitigate.

Those kids were easily adoptable. It would take severe health or other issues to make a child who is a newborn or toddler less adoptable. She bought those kids like many do but the sad part is the birthparents probably got very little and it all went to the attorneys/agencies or both.

Spoken like the true ignorant boob you are. You know absolutely nothing about the specific circumstances of this particular adoption.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Of course every story is different, but when I hear of an older mom having a baby on her own, I recall the sad story of playwright Wendy Wasserstein and her daughter (born when Wasserstein was 48,
left an orphan seven years later).

https://www.haaretz.com/jewish/.premium-2006-wendy-wasserstein-who-never-had-it-all-dies-1.5491957

Yes, of course this is sad, but what does it have to do with Hoda? Parents die all the time, but people keep harping on about age as if there’s a direct correlation between the mother’s age (of course it’s always the mother) and her age of death. Women live into their 80s and 90s and beyond, so someone in their 50s isn’t ancient despite the handwringing of so many. All this drama Is tiresome. Instead of feeling happy for her and her children, people like you and other PPs seem to be waiting for her to die so your little theory can be proven and you can shout ‘I told you so.’

I don't think it's fair to the child to take this on, especially if there is not a strong support network/family nearby. It's a fact that you're more likely to die before your child reaches adulthood if you become a parent at 50 than one at 30.

Show me your facts.

How is this even a question? The older you are, (past infancy), the more likely you are to die!

United States (CDC): Rates per 100,000 population in specified group.

All ages 1/: 803.6
Under 1 - year 2/ :684.5
1-4 years: 28.6
5-14 years: 15.3
15-24 years: 79.9
25-34 years: 104.9
35-44 years: 184.4
45-54 years:420.9
55-64 years: 877.7
65-74 years: 2,011.3
75-84 years: 5,011.6
85 years and over: 12,946.5

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the righteous people here judging this woman and her partner for giving two children a loving and stable home can DIAF.

+1 - how dare you people judge this woman. she is giving children happy homes - which is more than i can say for many younger, healthy parents

Look into the history of why there are age restrictions on adoption.

Also, the "how dare you" is over the top. There were plenty of happy homes that desperately wanted these children and the parents were much younger and healthier.

How do you know the specifics of Kotb's adoptions? There could be undisclosed facts that would have made the girls less "adoptable" but Kotb's resources make those issues easier to mitigate.

Those kids were easily adoptable. It would take severe health or other issues to make a child who is a newborn or toddler less adoptable. She bought those kids like many do but the sad part is the birthparents probably got very little and it all went to the attorneys/agencies or both.

Spoken like the true ignorant boob you are. You know absolutely nothing about the specific circumstances of this particular adoption.

Its pretty obvious. We adopted, did you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the righteous people here judging this woman and her partner for giving two children a loving and stable home can DIAF.

+1 - how dare you people judge this woman. she is giving children happy homes - which is more than i can say for many younger, healthy parents

Look into the history of why there are age restrictions on adoption.

Also, the "how dare you" is over the top. There were plenty of happy homes that desperately wanted these children and the parents were much younger and healthier.

How do you know the specifics of Kotb's adoptions? There could be undisclosed facts that would have made the girls less "adoptable" but Kotb's resources make those issues easier to mitigate.

Those kids were easily adoptable. It would take severe health or other issues to make a child who is a newborn or toddler less adoptable. She bought those kids like many do but the sad part is the birthparents probably got very little and it all went to the attorneys/agencies or both.

That is not sad at all. Do you realize what could happen if birth parents got money from adoptions? It protects EVERYONE. No one wants to be able to buy babies. Crazy talk.

Do you not understand that the adoption agencies, facilitators and attorneys are making huge amounts of money off the adoptions. In some states, they do get birthparent expenses which can be a lot of money for living expenses. Kids get bought all the time. Its been since the start of time and is still going strong. Don't kid yourself to think otherwise. Clearly you haven't adopted or been offered a child for a huge sum of money. We were offered one if we could wire $60K and fly out the next day/no questions asked. What we were told was very very sketchy so we said no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course every story is different, but when I hear of an older mom having a baby on her own, I recall the sad story of playwright Wendy Wasserstein and her daughter (born when Wasserstein was 48,
left an orphan seven years later).

https://www.haaretz.com/jewish/.premium-2006-wendy-wasserstein-who-never-had-it-all-dies-1.5491957

Yes, of course this is sad, but what does it have to do with Hoda? Parents die all the time, but people keep harping on about age as if there’s a direct correlation between the mother’s age (of course it’s always the mother) and her age of death. Women live into their 80s and 90s and beyond, so someone in their 50s isn’t ancient despite the handwringing of so many. All this drama Is tiresome. Instead of feeling happy for her and her children, people like you and other PPs seem to be waiting for her to die so your little theory can be proven and you can shout ‘I told you so.’

I don't think it's fair to the child to take this on, especially if there is not a strong support network/family nearby. It's a fact that you're more likely to die before your child reaches adulthood if you become a parent at 50 than one at 30.

Show me your facts.

How is this even a question? The older you are, (past infancy), the more likely you are to die!

United States (CDC): Rates per 100,000 population in specified group.

All ages 1/: 803.6
Under 1 - year 2/ :684.5
1-4 years: 28.6
5-14 years: 15.3
15-24 years: 79.9
25-34 years: 104.9
35-44 years: 184.4
45-54 years:420.9
55-64 years: 877.7
65-74 years: 2,011.3
75-84 years: 5,011.6
85 years and over: 12,946.5

So dramatic. Yes, we know you're more likely to die the older you are, but that doesn't mean you WILL die if you're older. Age isn't the only factor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the righteous people here judging this woman and her partner for giving two children a loving and stable home can DIAF.

+1 - how dare you people judge this woman. she is giving children happy homes - which is more than i can say for many younger, healthy parents

Look into the history of why there are age restrictions on adoption.

Also, the "how dare you" is over the top. There were plenty of happy homes that desperately wanted these children and the parents were much younger and healthier.

How do you know the specifics of Kotb's adoptions? There could be undisclosed facts that would have made the girls less "adoptable" but Kotb's resources make those issues easier to mitigate.

Those kids were easily adoptable. It would take severe health or other issues to make a child who is a newborn or toddler less adoptable. She bought those kids like many do but the sad part is the birthparents probably got very little and it all went to the attorneys/agencies or both.

Spoken like the true ignorant boob you are. You know absolutely nothing about the specific circumstances of this particular adoption.

Its pretty obvious. We adopted, did you?

But you still don't know the circumstances of this adoption regardless of what happened with your adoption.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the righteous people here judging this woman and her partner for giving two children a loving and stable home can DIAF.

+1 - how dare you people judge this woman. she is giving children happy homes - which is more than i can say for many younger, healthy parents

Look into the history of why there are age restrictions on adoption.

Also, the "how dare you" is over the top. There were plenty of happy homes that desperately wanted these children and the parents were much younger and healthier.

How do you know the specifics of Kotb's adoptions? There could be undisclosed facts that would have made the girls less "adoptable" but Kotb's resources make those issues easier to mitigate.

Those kids were easily adoptable. It would take severe health or other issues to make a child who is a newborn or toddler less adoptable. She bought those kids like many do but the sad part is the birthparents probably got very little and it all went to the attorneys/agencies or both.

Spoken like the true ignorant boob you are. You know absolutely nothing about the specific circumstances of this particular adoption.

Its pretty obvious. We adopted, did you?

Yes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow... we are 56 and 59 with adopted 5 and 6 year olds..and we are looking into adopting a 2 year old and her infant sibling.. These are all from the foster system. The way we look at it is that we will give them an incredible loving home. The 2 year old has Cystic fibrosis and will probably not live a long life. Our two older are drug exposed babies.. there are issues.. We love helping them and we feel our love is better than some group home or foster care after foster care.. We have my older daughter 27 in line for our 5 and 6 year old if we pass and our best friend for our new ones.. We are proud to give these children a home. There are issues and believe me.. most people would not take them. And shame on society for that! Most of those on this site that think people are too old or cut it down.. would not take these children into their homes.. because if you are a foster parent or an adoptive parent already.. you would support this.. Prayers to those with huge hearts that are unselfish and will give up their lives for these darlings.. They could be adopted by younger.. but whats to say if it would be better.. the younger generation is questionable these days.. phones in their faces.. etc.. We home school our kids.. the best education out there.. God Bless those over 50 that adopt! You go for it!

This is the only thing that gives me pause. You shouldn't force your daughter to take responsibility for your choice. While I think it is great that you are adopting these children it is your choice and you should fine other arrangements rather than make it your daughter's job. That's not fair.

You post this being totally ignorant of how the daughter feels about this. Perhaps she volunteered because she loves her siblings?

Plus parents have to get someone to agree to serve as guardians, just in case. Most people choose family members. We asked our parents, so they would have had to step in, raising their grandchildren. Luckily, it didn't happen--kids are grown.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow... we are 56 and 59 with adopted 5 and 6 year olds..and we are looking into adopting a 2 year old and her infant sibling.. These are all from the foster system. The way we look at it is that we will give them an incredible loving home. The 2 year old has Cystic fibrosis and will probably not live a long life. Our two older are drug exposed babies.. there are issues.. We love helping them and we feel our love is better than some group home or foster care after foster care.. We have my older daughter 27 in line for our 5 and 6 year old if we pass and our best friend for our new ones.. We are proud to give these children a home. There are issues and believe me.. most people would not take them. And shame on society for that! Most of those on this site that think people are too old or cut it down.. would not take these children into their homes.. because if you are a foster parent or an adoptive parent already.. you would support this.. Prayers to those with huge hearts that are unselfish and will give up their lives for these darlings.. They could be adopted by younger.. but whats to say if it would be better.. the younger generation is questionable these days.. phones in their faces.. etc.. We home school our kids.. the best education out there.. God Bless those over 50 that adopt! You go for it!

Love this! What a selfless thing to do especially adopting a baby with health issues that may not live long. God bless you and your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the righteous people here judging this woman and her partner for giving two children a loving and stable home can DIAF.

+1 - how dare you people judge this woman. she is giving children happy homes - which is more than i can say for many younger, healthy parents

Look into the history of why there are age restrictions on adoption.

Also, the "how dare you" is over the top. There were plenty of happy homes that desperately wanted these children and the parents were much younger and healthier.

How do you know the specifics of Kotb's adoptions? There could be undisclosed facts that would have made the girls less "adoptable" but Kotb's resources make those issues easier to mitigate.

Those kids were easily adoptable. It would take severe health or other issues to make a child who is a newborn or toddler less adoptable. She bought those kids like many do but the sad part is the birthparents probably got very little and it all went to the attorneys/agencies or both.

Spoken like the true ignorant boob you are. You know absolutely nothing about the specific circumstances of this particular adoption.

Its pretty obvious. We adopted, did you?

So what if you adopted? Does that make you an authority for every adoption on the planet?