Adopting newborn at 52 years old?

[Anonymous]

Where's the scorn for Andy Cohen who's 50 and just became a father? He didn't even adopt, but used a surrogate and isn't in a relationship. At least Kotb's taken children who need a home. It isn't that I care either way, but if we're going to beat up Kotb about adopting, then Cohen seems like fair game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where's the scorn for Andy Cohen who's 50 and just became a father? He didn't even adopt, but used a surrogate and isn't in a relationship. At least Kotb's taken children who need a home. It isn't that I care either way, but if we're going to beat up Kotb about adopting, then Cohen seems like fair game.

Boom!

[Anonymous]

I have 2 bio children and 2 adopted. Both domestically. Both different states and agencies and almost all agencies Ive looked into ( probably at least a dozen) have an age limit. Usually its a combined age of 90 or 95. So I am curious how they got past that. In all my interviews it was a hard "no" if you were over. And there are a lot of adoption criterias that are soft nos but work-able if you are the right client but this seemed not that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She looks like she is in great health, probably has financial stability/to great wealth. George Clooney is 55. Are you questioning his ability to parent twins??

Different poster. She is a breast cancer survivor-that is the only part of her health she has shared as far as I know. She and her partner are both over 50. People like to say things anyone can get cancer, dementia, die, etc, but her chances are much higher than a person in her 30s. Everyone thinks it's fabulous until the odds catch up with them and then you have a child who could have gone to younger parents who is rich but having to go to guardian while dealing with very ill or dying parents if luck isn't on their side. This is not all or nothing. It's about odds. The odds of her staying healthy until they are full fledged adults are lower and money is the only reason she got to adopted a healthy baby at an advanced age.

So what? Everyone's life chances are different. People these days can live up to a 100. 52 isn't old IMO.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She looks like she is in great health, probably has financial stability/to great wealth. George Clooney is 55. Are you questioning his ability to parent twins??

Different poster. She is a breast cancer survivor-that is the only part of her health she has shared as far as I know. She and her partner are both over 50. People like to say things anyone can get cancer, dementia, die, etc, but her chances are much higher than a person in her 30s. Everyone thinks it's fabulous until the odds catch up with them and then you have a child who could have gone to younger parents who is rich but having to go to guardian while dealing with very ill or dying parents if luck isn't on their side. This is not all or nothing. It's about odds. The odds of her staying healthy until they are full fledged adults are lower and money is the only reason she got to adopted a healthy baby at an advanced age.

I know average people that have adopted past 50. One couple I know their daughter is now 8. They are late 50s and late 60s. Stop complaining and be thankful these children have a home. Yes we know she could die but there’s a possibility she won’t. It’s better than being in the foster care system bouncing from home to home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where's the scorn for Andy Cohen who's 50 and just became a father? He didn't even adopt, but used a surrogate and isn't in a relationship. At least Kotb's taken children who need a home. It isn't that I care either way, but if we're going to beat up Kotb about adopting, then Cohen seems like fair game.

Boom!

That is SUCH a good question.

He's also single and men live much shorter lives than women on average so his child will be left parent-less at a earlier age with no siblings to whether the storm with and grandparents who are dead.

[Anonymous]

All the righteous people here judging this woman and her partner for giving two children a loving and stable home can DIAF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She looks like she is in great health, probably has financial stability/to great wealth. George Clooney is 55. Are you questioning his ability to parent twins??

Different poster. She is a breast cancer survivor-that is the only part of her health she has shared as far as I know. She and her partner are both over 50. People like to say things anyone can get cancer, dementia, die, etc, but her chances are much higher than a person in her 30s. Everyone thinks it's fabulous until the odds catch up with them and then you have a child who could have gone to younger parents who is rich but having to go to guardian while dealing with very ill or dying parents if luck isn't on their side. This is not all or nothing. It's about odds. The odds of her staying healthy until they are full fledged adults are lower and money is the only reason she got to adopted a healthy baby at an advanced age.

So what? Everyone's life chances are different. People these days can live up to a 100. 52 isn't old IMO.

Look at FUNCTIONAL adulthood. Once you get past 70 or 75 chances of dementia are something like 1 in 3, worse after 80. Those things are a living hell for the caregiver.

A healthy child is a hot commodity in adoption and there are countless couples under 40 who want one and could give the child a loving home. Being rich should not be an excuse tyo bend the rules.

I am not a fan of Andy Cohen doing this at 50 either because of the reality of it all.

These are not poor little orphans who would have a life of misery without the savior rich older parent. They had a chance at good homes with much younger parents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I actually had to turn it off when she announced this. I don’t have a problem with the age, but I do think she was able to get a newborn so quickly due to money. Also, she’s must work 60-70 hrs a week and when could she see the baby other than sleeping.

We do not know the circumstances of the adoption. However, she’s using her wealth to HELP children who could possibly be lost in the foster system and giving them a life that many children in the US could never hope to have. Most parents these days work long hours and hardly see their children, but somehow those children manage to survive. I’m sure Hoda can afford a nanny or two, or she may reduce her workload. Why would you have a problem with this?

Those are very young kids. There are plenty of families available to adopt them. She will no the parenting them and she will work long hours. The issue is her age and she may not make it till their 18th birthday.

And if she doesn’t that won’t make them love her any less. She’s providing an amazing life to two little ones. Young parents die every day. Stop taking away from her special moment. I hope she inspires more people to adopt especially those with so much wealth.

It's about statistics. The chance of the young parent dying is so much lower. Believe me plenty of rich people over 40 are adopting and paying huge amounts of money under the table and over the table to get a healthy baby both here and internationally. I know quite a few well-off people who magically adopted healthy kids from China despite being over the required age for a child without issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All the righteous people here judging this woman and her partner for giving two children a loving and stable home can DIAF.

+1 - how dare you people judge this woman. she is giving children happy homes - which is more than i can say for many younger, healthy parents

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All the righteous people here judging this woman and her partner for giving two children a loving and stable home can DIAF.

+1 - how dare you people judge this woman. she is giving children happy homes - which is more than i can say for many younger, healthy parents

Look into the history of why there are age restrictions on adoption.

Also, the "how dare you" is over the top. There were plenty of happy homes that desperately wanted these children and the parents were much younger and healthier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the righteous people here judging this woman and her partner for giving two children a loving and stable home can DIAF.

+1 - how dare you people judge this woman. she is giving children happy homes - which is more than i can say for many younger, healthy parents

Look into the history of why there are age restrictions on adoption.

Also, the "how dare you" is over the top. There were plenty of happy homes that desperately wanted these children and the parents were much younger and healthier.

How do you know the specifics of Kotb's adoptions? There could be undisclosed facts that would have made the girls less "adoptable" but Kotb's resources make those issues easier to mitigate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where's the scorn for Andy Cohen who's 50 and just became a father? He didn't even adopt, but used a surrogate and isn't in a relationship. At least Kotb's taken children who need a home. It isn't that I care either way, but if we're going to beat up Kotb about adopting, then Cohen seems like fair game.

I was wondering why this wasn't brought up either, but I was too lazy to type it out. Ha.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the righteous people here judging this woman and her partner for giving two children a loving and stable home can DIAF.

+1 - how dare you people judge this woman. she is giving children happy homes - which is more than i can say for many younger, healthy parents

Look into the history of why there are age restrictions on adoption.

Also, the "how dare you" is over the top. There were plenty of happy homes that desperately wanted these children and the parents were much younger and healthier.

Oh my god give it a rest. No one is owed a baby - especially a newborn. It's a preference. If you can't have your own, find some other way to get one or wait on the adoption lists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the righteous people here judging this woman and her partner for giving two children a loving and stable home can DIAF.

+1 - how dare you people judge this woman. she is giving children happy homes - which is more than i can say for many younger, healthy parents

Look into the history of why there are age restrictions on adoption.

Also, the "how dare you" is over the top. There were plenty of happy homes that desperately wanted these children and the parents were much younger and healthier.

How do you know the specifics of Kotb's adoptions? There could be undisclosed facts that would have made the girls less "adoptable" but Kotb's resources make those issues easier to mitigate.

Those kids were easily adoptable. It would take severe health or other issues to make a child who is a newborn or toddler less adoptable. She bought those kids like many do but the sad part is the birthparents probably got very little and it all went to the attorneys/agencies or both.