Uncomfortable religious situations you were forced into

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Just checking in to clear up a couple things.
1. My mom had an idea the family was religious, but definitely did not know the extent. But to be quite honest I don't think she would have cared. She often put me in uncomfortable situations so yeah I don't think this would have been an issue for her anyway. It was an issue for me and I was upset that I was given any other choice (like to sit out the service or bible study since I was uncomfortable). I think its a little weird not to even ask if a 14-15 year old is ok attending service with you.
2. I was respectful the whole time to this family.
And I am certainly not bashing Christians. My point was for people to share the own experiences with whatever religion that happened to be.

OP it's weird that you think a family who had been left responsible
For your care would just leave you alone at their home while they went about their routine , which happened to involve church. You really want to make the host family wrong here, but they weren't.

Not OP, but I think it's weird that you think there's no alternative between "abandoning kid at home" and "forcing kid to sit through a religious service." Churches presumably have lobbies and waiting rooms, where a non-Christian kid being hosted by a Christian family can quietly sit with a book.

The defensiveness of Christians in this thread is really interesting.

I'm not a Christian, I just think the OP is being extremely unreasonable.

Did you read the original post? I don't think it's unreasonable to bring OP to church but I do think it is extremely unreasonable for op to then have to go to bible study and then be asked questions about it. Then have to do it again after saying they were uncomfortable.

You are a seriously fragile snowflake and so is OP. Oh my god, discomfort?! How WILL you survive?!!

It really has nothing to do with being fragile. You are the one being dramatic. Its about the lack of respect or consideration for another person's beliefs and forcing them into situations that they are uncomfortable with and directly conflict with their beliefs. Religion is a very personal thing to most people.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Just checking in to clear up a couple things.
1. My mom had an idea the family was religious, but definitely did not know the extent. But to be quite honest I don't think she would have cared. She often put me in uncomfortable situations so yeah I don't think this would have been an issue for her anyway. It was an issue for me and I was upset that I was given any other choice (like to sit out the service or bible study since I was uncomfortable). I think its a little weird not to even ask if a 14-15 year old is ok attending service with you.
2. I was respectful the whole time to this family.
And I am certainly not bashing Christians. My point was for people to share the own experiences with whatever religion that happened to be.

OP it's weird that you think a family who had been left responsible
For your care would just leave you alone at their home while they went about their routine , which happened to involve church. You really want to make the host family wrong here, but they weren't.

Not OP, but I think it's weird that you think there's no alternative between "abandoning kid at home" and "forcing kid to sit through a religious service." Churches presumably have lobbies and waiting rooms, where a non-Christian kid being hosted by a Christian family can quietly sit with a book.

The defensiveness of Christians in this thread is really interesting.

I'm not a Christian, I just think the OP is being extremely unreasonable.

Did you read the original post? I don't think it's unreasonable to bring OP to church but I do think it is extremely unreasonable for op to then have to go to bible study and then be asked questions about it. Then have to do it again after saying they were uncomfortable.

You are a seriously fragile snowflake and so is OP. Oh my god, discomfort?! How WILL you survive?!!

It really has nothing to do with being fragile. You are the one being dramatic. Its about the lack of respect or consideration for another person's beliefs and forcing them into situations that they are uncomfortable with and directly conflict with their beliefs. Religion is a very personal thing to most people.

Yes, I was being melodramatic. It was a joke. I continue to think OP and you are misusing the word "force" and making a really big deal out of something that a bigger person could have just rolled with.

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I haven't read the whole thread, but I remember in summer 1985 (in between 10th and 11th grade) I went to a "yearbook camp" for yearbook editors (yes, really). It was held at Gettysburg College in PA. My roommate was a Mormon and she would not go to the opening night dance with me. I didn't know anyone else there. When I was drinking a coke she chastised me. I went out every night with my new friends (very innocent, very boring stuff). She stayed in our stifling hot, no AC dorm room and prayed. When I got back one night, I found a Book of Mormon on my pillow and a note that said, "I think this will help you." OMG she was a nut. Now that I look back on it, it's hilarious. But at the time I was confused and thought she thought I was a "sinner" or something.

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I went to a school that was supposedly not religious but they forced us to go to some sort of mass. Everyone had to say the Lord's prayer which I don't know, and it was embarrassing. I wanted to leave but felt like I had to stay there.

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Anonymous wrote:I went to a school that was supposedly not religious but they forced us to go to some sort of mass. Everyone had to say the Lord's prayer which I don't know, and it was embarrassing. I wanted to leave but felt like I had to stay there.

Sounds like your atheist parents weren't smart enough to do their research.

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Yes, I was being melodramatic. It was a joke. I continue to think OP and you are misusing the word "force" and making a really big deal out of something that a bigger person could have just rolled with.

Not the PP you're replying to, but calling something an "uncomfortable situation" and talking about it is not the same as "making a really big deal" out of it, and the only people who are making a big deal out of it are the ones who are super-offended-to-the-point-of-melodrama by this thread. See a therapist, maybe?

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Yes, I was being melodramatic. It was a joke. I continue to think OP and you are misusing the word "force" and making a really big deal out of something that a bigger person could have just rolled with.

Not the PP you're replying to, but calling something an "uncomfortable situation" and talking about it is not the same as "making a really big deal" out of it, and the only people who are making a big deal out of it are the ones who are super-offended-to-the-point-of-melodrama by this thread. See a therapist, maybe?

Not the PP you're talking to, but anybody who goes on about something over 14 pages, with multiple posts a page, qualifies as "making a really big deal" out of whatever it is.

Weirdly, it seems like one poster has made herself OP's self-anointed "champion" for the last 14 pages. That's the person who's most invested in this and is making the biggest deal.

Opposing pp above has said repeatedly she's not Christian, so it's off-base to charge her with being "offended." So we have to assume her involvement here has something to do with amusement at the self-annointed "champion" pp being a "seriously fragile snowflake." (I tend to agree, the self-annointed "champion" of OP is a bit bizarre, and her charges that the non-Christian pp is "super-offended to the point of melodrama" seem like Trump World rhetoric to me.)

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Not the PP you're talking to, but anybody who goes on about something over 14 pages, with multiple posts a page, qualifies as "making a really big deal" out of whatever it is.

Dozens of people shared their story. The OP didn't "go on", except to respond to people attacking him/her. Dear god.

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Not the PP you're talking to, but anybody who goes on about something over 14 pages, with multiple posts a page, qualifies as "making a really big deal" out of whatever it is.

Dozens of people shared their story. The OP didn't "go on", except to respond to people attacking him/her. Dear god.

The partial quote you snipped goes on to complain, not about OP, but about a "self-anointed champion" for OP who has indeed been haranguing everybody here for 14 pages.

12:36/20:10, who is not me, also recognizes OP's knight in shining armor, or whatever, and calls her a "seriously fragile snowflake."

So, tell us why you snipped the quote to make it about OP and not about the fragile snowflake/self-appointed champion. That's you?

Dear God.

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I was just a baby. They made me go up in front of everybody and then they put cold water ON MY HEAD!!!

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Catholic and went with a friend to her baptist church. They pretty much forced me to take communion.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm the (former) Baha'i from upthread. The community in my Bible Belt hometown was small, and we didn't have a place to worship; we just took turns hosting services in our houses.

As a service to other Baha'is who might be new to town or traveling, there was a listing in the phone book (pre-internet) with my parents' names and phone number. Periodically, people would call or come to our house to try to convert us and save us from damnation. Fun times.

A few people even asked me - completely serious as far as I could tell - if the Baha'i faith was some kind of devil worship.

Shocking that I don't live there anymore.

I'm ignorant. What is it? I've never heard of this religion.

See the official websites - bahai.org is the international page, bahai.us is the US one. The dcbahai.org website is horribly outdated but has some basic info for the DC Baha'i Community.

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I was raised Catholic. When I came out as a lesbian my parents were shocked and told me I was going to hell. In order to fully instill in me what this meant for my soul, they forced me to have a perfectly horrible private meeting with a deacon. I was 15 years old and grappling with my sexual identity. Talking with a deacon who told me the only way I could avoid this sin was by living chastely was really confusing and upsetting to my teenage self.

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Anonymous wrote:I was raised Catholic. When I came out as a lesbian my parents were shocked and told me I was going to hell. In order to fully instill in me what this meant for my soul, they forced me to have a perfectly horrible private meeting with a deacon. I was 15 years old and grappling with my sexual identity. Talking with a deacon who told me the only way I could avoid this sin was by living chastely was really confusing and upsetting to my teenage self.

I am so, so sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm Jewish and have spent time with Catholics and people of lots of other religions. It's mostly gone swimmingly. We used to host a Passover seder and we fell into an unintentional habit of always inviting someone who wasn't Jewish. Once it was my Italian friend in high school, once it was my brother's Indian friend in college, etc.

When I went to college, I didn't drink (not for religious reasons) and all the other girls on my floor were big partiers. The RA hated me - I think they all thought I looked down on them? But she scheduled a mandatory floor meeting at a dining hall during Yom Kippur, when I was fasting. I went to her and said due to religious reasons I wouldn't be able to attend, and she made a big deal about "You may only be a freshman but you should learn in your English 101 class what mandatory means, you're going to get in huge trouble and possibly kicked out of school if you don't show, etc."

I got so worried I went to the RA in another building - he was really cool and we'd become friendly - to talk with him about it. He laughed and was like "Come hang out with me that day. So we sat on his bed all day on Yom Kippur talking and listening to Janet Jackson. I did NOT get kicked out of school for missing the meeting and my RA never said a word about it to me.

Later, before winter break, she had a floor meeting. She called each girl's name one by one and handed each girl a Christmas card. Towards the end, she called my name. I went up, and she said, in front of everyone, "You know, I had a Jewish kid last year who I gave a Christmas card to, and she got all bent out of shape about it, so I didn't get you one so you wouldn't be offended." Everyone laughed as I sat back down.

I haven't thought of that in DECADES! Damn, she was ignorant!

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What an awful person. Hope the next person she did something like that to put her in her place. behaving like that she probably didnt get far in life.