what looks like a condom appeared in my toliet just now

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Anonymous wrote:Your husband works and wants to live in student housing????

it's more like family housing. everyone is a grad or phd student here. we like it because it's mostly international students . my husband finished his program last year and we just decided to stay here since they're so flexible with our move out date. anyway i don't have time to explain my life to strangers on the internet anymore. thanks for your help . i didn't know men masturbate into condoms . i'm just going to hope it was that.

They don't now that all the info is (finally) out, DCUM says, your husband is screwing around (and not with himself). So DCUM asks-- with a man or a woman?

And you were the one who came to the Internet and asked strangers for an opinion, so....

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Anonymous wrote:If he'd really found it in the closet, he wouldn't have spent any time trying to figure it out initially, OP. He's lying.

Is he lying because he masturbated in to it and is embarrassed to admit it? Or is he lying because he cheated? I'm hoping for the former, but be vigilant and keep your eyes open.

op here: he's never admitted to masturbating so maybe it's that. dh waited for marriage until we were intimate . i don't really think he's promiscuous but who knows?!

You don't know if he's promiscuous, but you had sex in a movie theater? Doesn't that kind of answer that question?

Also, which one of you is a student/TA if you are living in student housing? It's mid semester, so it's got to be one of you. So, is it you, the new mom breastfeeding every 2 hours, or him? Because if it's him, that answers the who's he hooking up with question. (Undergrads). And if it's you, that answers the when question, and explains how it is happening in your house.

i am the TA and the baby is bottlefed. i only teach twice a week for 2 hours in the evenings. why is everyone so quick to call troll.

I don't think you know what promiscuous means.

Well, I do. And I know promiscuity has a high correlation with other forms of sexually risky ("adventuresome") behavior. (That is, we have broken the once a week, in the dark, missionary position taboo, we like the thrill, and we keep on going.

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Someone posted just the other day about completing a phd with a 5 month old...

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Anonymous wrote:Someone posted just the other day about completing a phd with a 5 month old...

Did they ask whether Chinese condoms would provide adequate birth control?

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What I'm hung up on is how OP found this amazing DH who is shy, a virgin before marriage, and also cleans the closet. How many guys clean closets? But when I clean my closet, I don't unwrap things, and then flush the contents down the toilet. I would just toss the whole thing in the trash. After all, who wants to use a condom from China with a strange red ring around it? And why, if they are PhD students, do they shop at Walmart?

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Anonymous wrote:If he'd really found it in the closet, he wouldn't have spent any time trying to figure it out initially, OP. He's lying.

Is he lying because he masturbated in to it and is embarrassed to admit it? Or is he lying because he cheated? I'm hoping for the former, but be vigilant and keep your eyes open.

op here: he's never admitted to masturbating so maybe it's that. dh waited for marriage until we were intimate . i don't really think he's promiscuous but who knows?!

You don't know if he's promiscuous, but you had sex in a movie theater? Doesn't that kind of answer that question?

Also, which one of you is a student/TA if you are living in student housing? It's mid semester, so it's got to be one of you. So, is it you, the new mom breastfeeding every 2 hours, or him? Because if it's him, that answers the who's he hooking up with question. (Undergrads). And if it's you, that answers the when question, and explains how it is happening in your house.

i am the TA and the baby is bottlefed. i only teach twice a week for 2 hours in the evenings. why is everyone so quick to call troll.

I don't think you know what promiscuous means.

Well, I do. And I know promiscuity has a high correlation with other forms of sexually risky ("adventuresome") behavior. (That is, we have broken the once a week, in the dark, missionary position taboo, we like the thrill, and we keep on going.

I know of no research, no studies, no Masters & Johnson work that correlate promiscuous behavior with trying multiple sexual positions in a marriage. Are you insane?

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The fact that your DH changed his story is a very bad sign. I'm really sorry, OP.

If you want to catch him, put a camera somewhere (maybe front door, so you can see the coming and going of any "guests" while you're out teaching).

PPs, be kind. OP has a new baby, is finishing grad school, and just caught her husband cheating on her IN HER OWN HOUSE. any one of those things is horribly stressful, but all three at once???

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OP, if you knew that the condom had a red ring because it was one of the ones you bought in China, why was the first sentence in your initial post "It has a red ring around it"? You mentioned the red ring as if it was somehow confusing to you, but the whole time, you knew that you had purchased condoms with red rings around them in China.

The next thing we know, you'll be telling us he hunts bobcats with his uncle, out of season.

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Anonymous wrote:Man here. First, let's assume that the OP isn't just yanking us around and there really was a condom in the toilet...

1. It's freakishly unlikely that (with a newborn at home) he's bringing other women INTO THE HOUSE to bang.
2. If he's banging a woman somewhere else it's freakishly unlikely that he's bringing the used condom INTO THE HOUSE to flush.
3. If he hasn't had sex in 3 months it's FREAKISHLY LIKELY that he's jerking off.
4. It's definitely possible he'd do #3 with a condom. I have done just that.

My take: He used a condom to jerk of in some way, flushed it, then was embarrassed to admit it when the thing reappeared.

I think you're probably right.

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I think, not hearing back from OP, we can assume that her husband is a cheater and they are dealing with the fallout instead of posting condom in the toilet updates.

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OP is a trollolololol, and has thrown out too many conflicting stories.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why did you peek in the toilet in the first place? And wouldn't the offending condom have been hidden by TP?
Something just doesn't add up.

my toilet doesn't have a top.

You toilet doesn't have a lid and random condoms float up from your pipes or fall down from your ceiling?

What kind of hellhole are you living in OP?

you're mean! i'm a international student and we live in university housing. the toilets are commercial here. this living situation makes sense for us now since i will finish in may and we will most likely move from the dc area. the university is flexible with our lease move out date.



Yet another whammy!

You two are international students living in university housing. Once again we are rocked to our very foundations.

Okay. Let's see now. First we were forced to reckon with and reconcile the notion of quiet, shy, introverted churchgoing DH with wild and crazy, sex at the movies DH. Somehow we persevered.

Then we had to overcome The Red Ring.

Then there was the Toilet Lid.

Now...University Housing?

i am a phd student and my husband works.

And you both just had an anchor baby. Congrats.

Pls no more ghetto-fabulous preggo sex in the Rockville movie theater.

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I missed the toilet lid thing can somebody please recap that for me

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe he hides his condoms in his pocket and flushes them when he gets home.

I had a crazy coworker once whose plan to entrap her boyfriend (to get child support ) was to pull his used condoms out of the trash can and push them inside out and stick them up herself. She really wanted his baby. It was one of the craziest stories someone has ever told me.

I also know someone who did this. She was dating a pro ballplayer, and desperately wanted his baby. Gold Digger.

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Yes. Months later I returned for an update. Anything Op?