DH is taking unpaid vacation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me say this with 100% complete honesty. I am not being snarky right now, I promise. The reason people are mocking you has absolutely nothing to do with your being overwhelmed by caring for your kids. There are posts on here every day from people saying similar things and getting lots of support. It's also not your English proficiency, or your medical condition.

The reason why you are mocked is this: your very strange, entitled, defensive attitude, exemplified by the bizarre inconsistencies in your posts; the way you lash out at anyone who criticizes you; the way you seem to be in constant conflict with various people (your neighbors, friends, strangers in public, and most of DCUM) and yet never acknowledge being part of the cause; your insistence that you have made all of the right decisions despite being apparently miserable most of the time; and most of all, your constant excuses for why you can't change anything you feel is bad in your life. I guarantee that nobody would make cracks about your writing or your psoriasis or your skills as a mom if you came across as a sincere and reasonable person. A little humility goes a long way. Write me off as another typical DCUM bitch if you want, but I am telling you the truth in as non-insulting a way as I possibly can.

Actually you're in the non bitch category and I thank you very much for putting it in a nice way. It's much easier to see it and absorb the information when it's not written to hurt or attack me.

[Anonymous]

Also, OP, if you are real, there is no way a mother's helper is the same cost as preschool. Hire a neighborhood girl a few times a week to take your daughter to the park or to story time at the library. Or, maybe you or your husband can go, since it seems neither of you work.

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Is chipotle mom the same person ready to divorce her husband because he allowed the new tenants to paint the room?

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Maybe you ought to consider that in the future OP. You're not just on the receiving end of attacks. You fling them pretty good yourself as evidenced in your noble people thread. Really look at that and think how that poster you were referring to felt after reading your words.

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Anonymous wrote:Now I'm totally confused!!! If OP can't work at all because of a disability, how is she going to be able to go out and volunteer all the time? Surely if you have the energy and capability to do that, you could work part time. Now I'm convinced OP is definitely just making stuff up to get people all riled up. Good on you OP. You may be the most successful troll ever.

I have been wondering this myself. OP, care to chime in? Or do you only answer questions that allow you to be nasty and defensive?

I never said I can't work because of a disability.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, OP, if you are real, there is no way a mother's helper is the same cost as preschool. Hire a neighborhood girl a few times a week to take your daughter to the park or to story time at the library. Or, maybe you or your husband can go, since it seems neither of you work.

The last MH I had cost me $9/hour and this is exactly what we're paying if we enroll DC in school 5 mornings a week for 3 hours.

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Anonymous wrote:Is chipotle mom the same person ready to divorce her husband because he allowed the new tenants to paint the room?

Keep up, lady... they're tenants not home owners.

[Anonymous]

Ok, op, i think you have a visa issue, as does your husband, which is why he's tied to some job (IT?). so, start taking in some kids - babysit! ask around your nbeighborhood for working moms who need some help.

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Anonymous wrote:Let me say this with 100% complete honesty. I am not being snarky right now, I promise. The reason people are mocking you has absolutely nothing to do with your being overwhelmed by caring for your kids. There are posts on here every day from people saying similar things and getting lots of support. It's also not your English proficiency, or your medical condition.

The reason why you are mocked is this: your very strange, entitled, defensive attitude, exemplified by the bizarre inconsistencies in your posts; the way you lash out at anyone who criticizes you; the way you seem to be in constant conflict with various people (your neighbors, friends, strangers in public, and most of DCUM) and yet never acknowledge being part of the cause; your insistence that you have made all of the right decisions despite being apparently miserable most of the time; and most of all, your constant excuses for why you can't change anything you feel is bad in your life. I guarantee that nobody would make cracks about your writing or your psoriasis or your skills as a mom if you came across as a sincere and reasonable person. A little humility goes a long way. Write me off as another typical DCUM bitch if you want, but I am telling you the truth in as non-insulting a way as I possibly can.

Actually you're in the non bitch category and I thank you very much for putting it in a nice way. It's much easier to see it and absorb the information when it's not written to hurt or attack me.

But did you see and absorb any of what she said? Because that would be awesome.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Also, OP, if you are real, there is no way a mother's helper is the same cost as preschool. Hire a neighborhood girl a few times a week to take your daughter to the park or to story time at the library. Or, maybe you or your husband can go, since it seems neither of you work.

The last MH I had cost me $9/hour and this is exactly what we're paying if we enroll DC in school 5 mornings a week for 3 hours.

Are you in a public assistance program? i ask b/c I have never heard of any kind of school that is so cheap in any part of the country.

[Anonymous]

Just drop your $9/hr preschool and keep the kid at home - do more outings with her - set a schedule up for yourself - or get some other kids to babysit to stimulate her. That way, you will save money and make money.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, OP, if you are real, there is no way a mother's helper is the same cost as preschool. Hire a neighborhood girl a few times a week to take your daughter to the park or to story time at the library. Or, maybe you or your husband can go, since it seems neither of you work.

The last MH I had cost me $9/hour and this is exactly what we're paying if we enroll DC in school 5 mornings a week for 3 hours.

Are you in a public assistance program? i ask b/c I have never heard of any kind of school that is so cheap in any part of the country.

Yes. OP, instead of putting your DD into preschool or hiring a mother's helper, you hourself should become a mother's helper and take in kids to babysit in order to save $$. This will kill two birds with one stone: won't have to pay $$ to send your DD to preschool or hire a mother's helper to help you with her; will actually make $$ taking care of the other kids.

When you are as strapped for $$ as it sounds like you are, no hiring a mother's helper. No paying for preschool. You are in survival mode and you have to make $$.

[Anonymous]

i also suggest doing the transcription work - medical or legal - it can easily be done at your computer at night while kids sleep. and it makes up to $45/hr

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Anonymous wrote:i also suggest doing the transcription work - medical or legal - it can easily be done at your computer at night while kids sleep. and it makes up to $45/hr

I am not sure she will be eligible for this, b/c it seems there is some immigration issue. But if fI am wrong, then, yes, OP, you should do this.

But you should definitely do the babysitting thing, which can be done under the table and therefore won't be a problem with you and your visa issue.

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Anonymous wrote:i also suggest doing the transcription work - medical or legal - it can easily be done at your computer at night while kids sleep. and it makes up to $45/hr

suggested about 3 pages ago. she said no. and she said no to eating in the car, no to her husband getting a new job, no to entertaining her kids rather than posting on DCUM, no to this, no to that..