Why do White People seem so happy most of the time?

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I would never say I would kick ANYTHING, a bike, a person, an ant on the ground. Nothing in this world would make me say, "I am going to kick some of your personal property." Outlandish!

I find it outlandish to dismiss someone's feelings by saying "calm down" instead of a simple, polite sorry. The bicycle owner sounds like the one carrying around hostility to me.

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Anonymous wrote:Metro - rush hour --the guy was probably repositioning his bike each time b/c each time the doors open, people get in and out, and everybody has to readjust. He probably was trying to keep the bike in the least amount of space possible and it woudl be hard to make sure the bike didn't touch at least one person on all sides at any given point in time. It sounds like he honestly was trying his best, to this person who has been in this position only about a thousand times on crowded rush hours. And in this type of situation, if everyone is doign their best to occupy the least amount of space possible and it's hot and crowded and we all just have to be patient, if then a SEATED passenger got persnickety about someting -- whoa, I'd be like, "That chick is waaaaay over-reacting. Does she think everyone on here is having a picnic? No, we're all just doing our best and keeping quiet until we can mercifully get to our own stop and get off." Lordy lordy!!

So, if you're on the Metro with a bike and despite your best efforts, you continue to hit someone with your bike, you don't say "Excuse me"? Since when does rush hour overrule common decency? And if the person asked you to move your bike, would you still not apologize, but rather say "Calm down"?

Yep, I'd be sort of embarrassed and be like, "Whoa whoa howa, ok, calm down there, lady! Here, I am repositioning the bike! See: nice and slowly so no one gets hurt and no one flies off the handle again. Bike is moved. Ok? Ok? Everybody good now?" and then in my head, "I'd be thinking, 'This is why you really have to be careful on the Metro! You just never know what nutcase is going to fly off the handle for some perceived slight!'")

WTF, you don't apologize for hitting someone??!! Whether accidental or not, most rational and courteous people would apologize. Wow...I can't believe people are so clueless and rude!

I think you have outsized expectations for what happens to one on Metro. Metro is not sitting in first class on an airplane being served peanuts and sipping champagne. On Metro, it's close quarters, things are tight, you get bumped and you accidentally bump people, it's hot and unpleasant, people are tired, hot, and sometimes smelly. Everybody just stays quiet and keeps their head down and tries to get through it together until you get to your stop and get off. Making a big to-do b/c you got bumped? This is prima donna behavior, and the OPPOSITE ofrational, or courteous. It is in fact clueless and rude, to put it in your own words!

Wow...I can't imagine grown people not understanding the concept of apologizing when they bump/hit someone. I've been on the Metro many times where I've carried a heavy bag/purse and I've bumped someone with it. My automatic response is "Excuse me" or "Sorry about that". I couldn't fathom not saying anything. Wow...just wow. Expecting common courtesy is now considered prima donna behavior? Were you raised by boors?

If you knew me IRL, this would be laughable. I am just about the most old-school, etiquette-maven, thank-you-note-writing, correct grammar-insisting person in any given crowd.

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Wow...I can't imagine grown people not understanding the concept of apologizing when they bump/hit someone. I've been on the Metro many times where I've carried a heavy bag/purse and I've bumped someone with it. My automatic response is "Excuse me" or "Sorry about that". I couldn't fathom not saying anything. Wow...just wow. Expecting common courtesy is now considered prima donna behavior? Were you raised by boors?

This is my line of thinking. It seems that people are going out of their way to excuse the bicycle dude's rudeness. If I bump into someone, step on their shoe, or anything like it, I apologize profusely. I certainly wouldn't say calm down- that's rude and it's like you're trying to get a negative reaction.

You're ignoring how OP actually described the "incident." But go on, keep talking without reading, that will no doubt enlighten OP!

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I would never say I would kick ANYTHING, a bike, a person, an ant on the ground. Nothing in this world would make me say, "I am going to kick some of your personal property." Outlandish!

I find it outlandish to dismiss someone's feelings by saying "calm down" instead of a simple, polite sorry. The bicycle owner sounds like the one carrying around hostility to me.

So it would be fine then to kick his bike?

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Wow...I can't imagine grown people not understanding the concept of apologizing when they bump/hit someone. I've been on the Metro many times where I've carried a heavy bag/purse and I've bumped someone with it. My automatic response is "Excuse me" or "Sorry about that". I couldn't fathom not saying anything. Wow...just wow. Expecting common courtesy is now considered prima donna behavior? Were you raised by boors?

This is my line of thinking. It seems that people are going out of their way to excuse the bicycle dude's rudeness. If I bump into someone, step on their shoe, or anything like it, I apologize profusely. I certainly wouldn't say calm down- that's rude and it's like you're trying to get a negative reaction.

You're ignoring how OP actually described the "incident." But go on, keep talking without reading, that will no doubt enlighten OP!

The OP seems to need more than DCUM to be enlightened.

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I would never say I would kick ANYTHING, a bike, a person, an ant on the ground. Nothing in this world would make me say, "I am going to kick some of your personal property." Outlandish!

I find it outlandish to dismiss someone's feelings by saying "calm down" instead of a simple, polite sorry. The bicycle owner sounds like the one carrying around hostility to me.

So it would be fine then to kick his bike?

My 3yo says he gets to act out because his brother did first. That's not the way adults handle things. The biker was rude, and then ruder. She still missed the boat.

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Anonymous wrote:The Texas A&M shooter is also a white male.

Perhaps he would have nicely asked the man on the Metro to move his bicycle.

This is actually an interesting point. Many white people bottle their emotions until they erupt...usually with dire consequences. So while they may not spank their kids, they might one day get fed up and kill them. And while they might not have a good old-fashioned fist fight in school, they may plot to blow the bldg up.

Are you advocating for spanking kids and for more fist fights to reduce shootings?

If you are, you know who the most common perpetrators of violent crime are, correct?

Did you really think what you wrote?

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I would never say I would kick ANYTHING, a bike, a person, an ant on the ground. Nothing in this world would make me say, "I am going to kick some of your personal property." Outlandish!

I find it outlandish to dismiss someone's feelings by saying "calm down" instead of a simple, polite sorry. The bicycle owner sounds like the one carrying around hostility to me.

So it would be fine then to kick his bike?

No. But I also don't think it's fine to tell someone to calm down when I've (inadvertently) done something wrong to them. A rude response like "calm down" is one that I would expect to elicit a rude response in reply.

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There seems to be a group on here who thinks that certain perceptions of rude behavior just may make it ok to kick that person's belongings. Thsi is news to me. I don't generally have a "Person just did x, therefore I get to kick his stuff," line in my head. I pretty much go by the rule of, "I never kick anyone's stuff, or threaten to kick anyone's stuff." Call me crazy! That's just how I roll, I guess! Shrug!! I thought that was generally accepted civil behavior. Who knew?!?

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Anonymous wrote:Do you know why Native males have the highest suicide rates? There's a cultural reason.

Do you know why black women have the lowest suicide rates? There's a cultural reason.

There's also a cultural reason white men and women have the highest suicide rates after Native men and women (who have high suicide rates for socioeconomic and culture stress reasons).

And homicide rates? There's a cultural reason as well I suppose? Listen -every race has its issues, clearly. None are exempt.

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I would never say I would kick ANYTHING, a bike, a person, an ant on the ground. Nothing in this world would make me say, "I am going to kick some of your personal property." Outlandish!

I find it outlandish to dismiss someone's feelings by saying "calm down" instead of a simple, polite sorry. The bicycle owner sounds like the one carrying around hostility to me.

So it would be fine then to kick his bike?

No. But I also don't think it's fine to tell someone to calm down when I've (inadvertently) done something wrong to them. A rude response like "calm down" is one that I would expect to elicit a rude response in reply.

I don't think someone who has threatened to kick someone's belongings has any manners-based ground to stand upon. She lost her battle at this point. You cannot insist on manners and point to the other person like a crazy maniac if you have just lowered yourself to say, "I will kick your belongings." Your credibility is gone and you are now the crazy one. He may have been in the wrong and you may have had a very strong case, that is for sure. WE may now never know! But she lost it the second the words, "I will kick your belongings," came out of your mouth.

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I would never say I would kick ANYTHING, a bike, a person, an ant on the ground. Nothing in this world would make me say, "I am going to kick some of your personal property." Outlandish!

I find it outlandish to dismiss someone's feelings by saying "calm down" instead of a simple, polite sorry. The bicycle owner sounds like the one carrying around hostility to me.

So it would be fine then to kick his bike?

My 3yo says he gets to act out because his brother did first. That's not the way adults handle things. The biker was rude, and then ruder. She still missed the boat.

YES. THANK YOU.

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White people, please address-

1. low self-esteem
2. high rates of eating disorders
3. high rates of depression
4. high rates of antidepressant use
5. high suicide rates (one of the leading causes of death for whites)
6. weaker interpersonal bonds
7. tendency for white American males to commit mass murders

And then tell me that as a race, you're happier.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you know why Native males have the highest suicide rates? There's a cultural reason.

Do you know why black women have the lowest suicide rates? There's a cultural reason.

There's also a cultural reason white men and women have the highest suicide rates after Native men and women (who have high suicide rates for socioeconomic and culture stress reasons).

And homicide rates? There's a cultural reason as well I suppose? Listen -every race has its issues, clearly. None are exempt.

And the issues of the white race in the US seemingly point to an unhappy race. Of course every culture has its issues. But the OP asked about white people and happiness so I addressed that point. If she had erroneously asked why Native Americans are so happy, I would have addressed that. If she had erroneously asked why African Americans commit so little violent crime, I would have addressed that.

Instead, she erroneously believed white people are a happy race as a whole. So I addressed that.

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Anonymous wrote:White people, please address-

1. low self-esteem
2. high rates of eating disorders
3. high rates of depression
4. high rates of antidepressant use
5. high suicide rates (one of the leading causes of death for whites)
6. weaker interpersonal bonds
7. tendency for white American males to commit mass murders

And then tell me that as a race, you're happier.

First of all, are there white people on here claiming they are happier, or better, or anything else??? Second, to start thowing blanket negative statements about a race around is just wrong. I'm sure there are MANY people could come up with about the AA race, and every other race for that matter. Please, I won't even go there. YOU sound like you have a chip on your shoulder.