Gender Disparity at College

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Anonymous wrote:This scientific data-point is also worth considering:

https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2024/11/18/us-women-are-outpacing-men-in-college-completion-including-in-every-major-racial-and-ethnic-group/

so, women have up'd their game but men are still lagging. Maybe these men should also up their game, no?

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Anonymous wrote:Has any of your daughters complained about the high girl to boy ratio at their colleges?

Many of the colleges my daughter is looking at have way more girls than boys and this concerns her.

There is definitely no dating going on. My daughter has packs of girlfriends and is always meeting more but it's rare that she even has an opportunity to talk to a guy. The average-to-good looking guys have their pick of any girl they want.

It's kind of an issue but there's not anything to do and culturally they're all in it together. The girls just keep investing in female friendship.

I guess you have to make the best of the situation but ... are there really no straight guys in college to date??

are the straight guys who are there dating anyone?

I think the situation is that because there are so many girls, only the top of the pecking order get male attention. At most schools these are Instgram-model glam for lack of a better descriptive. I know this sounds nuts but my daughter and friends who are "regular girl pretty" are fairly invisible despite being open to dating very average guys. t'a a hard dynamic and isn't helped by how busy kids are these days.

The girls are not interested in daring average guys.

They only want the ones who look good on Instagram.

College women are no different than the rest of American women seeking love, through OLD (and they certainly use social media in college!) :

- 90% of the women will only accept a date with the top 5% of guys. That is already an extremely small pool of guys.

Divide that 5% again by the number of college guys who are gay, and it easily explains why thread after thread here in the DCUM college forum say the same thing: our daughters are not dating in college.

Hooking up? Sure. Dating? Nope.

It all works out because 90% of men are pursuing 5% of a woman.

i disagree. most guys will take whatever they can get

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Anonymous wrote:Has any of your daughters complained about the high girl to boy ratio at their colleges?

Many of the colleges my daughter is looking at have way more girls than boys and this concerns her.

There is definitely no dating going on. My daughter has packs of girlfriends and is always meeting more but it's rare that she even has an opportunity to talk to a guy. The average-to-good looking guys have their pick of any girl they want.

It's kind of an issue but there's not anything to do and culturally they're all in it together. The girls just keep investing in female friendship.

I guess you have to make the best of the situation but ... are there really no straight guys in college to date??

are the straight guys who are there dating anyone?

I think the situation is that because there are so many girls, only the top of the pecking order get male attention. At most schools these are Instgram-model glam for lack of a better descriptive. I know this sounds nuts but my daughter and friends who are "regular girl pretty" are fairly invisible despite being open to dating very average guys. t'a a hard dynamic and isn't helped by how busy kids are these days.

The girls are not interested in daring average guys.

They only want the ones who look good on Instagram.

College women are no different than the rest of American women seeking love, through OLD (and they certainly use social media in college!) :

- 90% of the women will only accept a date with the top 5% of guys. That is already an extremely small pool of guys.

Divide that 5% again by the number of college guys who are gay, and it easily explains why thread after thread here in the DCUM college forum say the same thing: our daughters are not dating in college.

Hooking up? Sure. Dating? Nope.

It all works out because 90% of men are pursuing 5% of a woman.

i disagree. most guys will take whatever they can get

I met DH in a SLAC which skewed female and where at least third of the men were gay. Luck of the draw.

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Anonymous wrote:This scientific data-point is also worth considering:

https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2024/11/18/us-women-are-outpacing-men-in-college-completion-including-in-every-major-racial-and-ethnic-group/

so, women have up'd their game but men are still lagging. Maybe these men should also up their game, no?

+1

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Males do not want education. They do not want jobs.

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Anonymous wrote:Has any of your daughters complained about the high girl to boy ratio at their colleges?

Many of the colleges my daughter is looking at have way more girls than boys and this concerns her.

There is definitely no dating going on. My daughter has packs of girlfriends and is always meeting more but it's rare that she even has an opportunity to talk to a guy. The average-to-good looking guys have their pick of any girl they want.

It's kind of an issue but there's not anything to do and culturally they're all in it together. The girls just keep investing in female friendship.

I guess you have to make the best of the situation but ... are there really no straight guys in college to date??

are the straight guys who are there dating anyone?

I think the situation is that because there are so many girls, only the top of the pecking order get male attention. At most schools these are Instgram-model glam for lack of a better descriptive. I know this sounds nuts but my daughter and friends who are "regular girl pretty" are fairly invisible despite being open to dating very average guys. t'a a hard dynamic and isn't helped by how busy kids are these days.

The girls are not interested in daring average guys.

They only want the ones who look good on Instagram.

College women are no different than the rest of American women seeking love, through OLD (and they certainly use social media in college!) :

- 90% of the women will only accept a date with the top 5% of guys. That is already an extremely small pool of guys.

Divide that 5% again by the number of college guys who are gay, and it easily explains why thread after thread here in the DCUM college forum say the same thing: our daughters are not dating in college.

Hooking up? Sure. Dating? Nope.

It all works out because 90% of men are pursuing 5% of a woman.

Which is why nobody dates in college anymore. Both sides are pursing (or holding out for) the top 5%. I absolutely see this happening with my college kids and their friends.

In what era did college kids date? I graduated in the early 1990s and few college kids dated...tons of hookups. Out of a friend group of say 20, only one was in a real relationship in college.

DP. I graduated college in 1990. While there were (of course) tons of hookups, there were also lots of dating couples. Probably all depends on the school.

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Anonymous wrote:Males do not want education. They do not want jobs.

Please go away. You probably don't even have any sons. The young men I know, to include my own kids, are very serious about their educations and future jobs.

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Anonymous wrote:So are there any colleges that are more even?

Virginia Tech is 57m / 43f.