DH choked me

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Anonymous wrote:I couldn’t be married to someone who gets off on choking women.

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This is sexual violence. He could be a predator to other people and you would not even know (or maybe this shows that you know). This is deeply disturbing behavior and it is not normal. This is akin to rape. You are being raped in your marriage. I am so sorry for you and your children.

If your DH is role-playing and misguided - he needs to go for intense therapy. Man, this is so messed up!!

Obviously non consensual choking is wrong and any choking shouldn’t be happening because of the chances of brain injury and death, even if consensual.

That said, biting, scratching, spanking are all “sexual violence” too. And then there’s the whole bdsm segment. If there’s consent (and safe), it’s fine.

If someone said “stop spanking me” and you continue to hit them, that’s NOT fine. If someone said “stop biting me” and you continue chomping down, that’s NOT fine. You are so f***ed if you think this is nbd.

"Stop" should be avoided as a safeword. The "Yellow/"Red" system is generally best. But do what works for you.

DP, sorry, but your way of thinking is very warped. OP flat out told her husband NO. He didn’t misunderstand her, he says he didn’t hear her. He was too focused on his own pleasure and kink to think about his partner and put her in a seemingly dangerous situation.

I’m a bit wrapped up in how does someone say “no” when being choked. Makes me think this whole post is a tall tale.

Probably is. Still fun.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh hell no. I’m so sorry OP, I can only imagine how terrifying that must have been, and still is. It would be a long while before we had sex again. And choking would be off the table forever. I don’t know how you put up with that in the first place, the thought of someone’s hands around my neck gives me chills. That would be a total turn off if a man asked to do that to me.

Agree. I didn't know that it was even a thing.

It's always been a thing. It's even mentioned in tons of movies or tv programs.

Yeah, but typically the person with this link wants to be choked, not choke someone else.

Subs and bottoms like being choked.
Doms and tops often like the power play of choking someone.