I didn't come to an art museum to watch you nurse a toddler

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Vent.

Went to the East Wing of the National Gallery yesterday. There was a noisy toddler with their parents in the same room who was begging for "boob" and then started noisily nursing. It was bone quiet and the kid was slurping and grunting.

Why does this annoy me so much? I nursed multiple kids, heck, I've nursed a kid in the National gallery! But I chose to do so outside the exhibit and privately as I could. (this was way before lactation rooms were a thing).

I want to be sympathetic and supportive of nursing mothers, but personally, I'm just really grossed out by older children loudly nursing. And feel like my experience was diminished and they were disrespectful
Of the patrons who WERE NOT interested in their kid's snack. [/quote]

To answer your question, I think it annoys you so much because it goes against your internal rules. When my kids were small the school counselor explained this. Let’s say Child A is taught it’s wrong to say the word “penis” and you never ever say it. It will annoy Child A every single time Child B says it. No matter how many times the teacher says different households have different rules, every time Child B says it, it will sound like chalk scraping on the chalkboard to Child A.

Adults are really no different.[/quote]

Adults who have been around for a while can tell that a parent that allows their child to demand “boob” and breastfeed on demand in a highly public place is engaged in a really permissive parenting style that will be bad for the kid and likely generate a lot more future annoyance.

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NP but it's like you read the PP and understood if the words without comprehending the comment. Please read it again.

There's no "parenting police" who goes around correcting everyone's parenting and trying to make sure we all do it exactly the same. Thankfully! There is variation. I personally did not breastfeed my kids as toddlers and didn't want to, but it's legal and some people do. You have to learn to let it go.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A speaking toddler can wait for his boobies. We’re not talking about an infant who is ebf.

Can? Maybe. But doesn’t have to just because op is big mad.

Doesn’t have to - but if mom makes this choice she is going to be judged as gross, rude and as having poor parenting skills.

Just by people like “museum leader who sees breastmilk as a threat” and honestly there’s some people in life whose judgement no one should worry about— op is one of them. The rest of us learned early to mind our own business and that good manners means leaving a room if we’re that uncomfortable.

You can go ahead and believe this. One thing I have learned about parenting is that if there is a widely held practice that I am departing from, it’s worth considering if I am doing the right thing or not, and why. So if people are telling you “breastfeeding a walking talking toddler on demand in a setting where that is not done is weird” the it is time to reflect on your parenting.

[Anonymous]

This appears to be a loophole in the “no eating or drinking” rule. Undoubtedly if milk was in a cup, it would be forbidden. But, for example, if someone were milking a cow in the middle of the museum, this would be agricultural production and not explicitly forbidden by the signs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A speaking toddler can wait for his boobies. We’re not talking about an infant who is ebf.

Can? Maybe. But doesn’t have to just because op is big mad.

Doesn’t have to - but if mom makes this choice she is going to be judged as gross, rude and as having poor parenting skills.

Only by judgmental twats. So not worth worrying about.

Seeing entitled children inspires revulsion. This kind of behavior is really on the same spectrum as a child screaming and tantruming in a store to get candy and being given it. Or seeing a child that hits their mother and swears. It is extremely permissive and inept parenting and it makes people mad to see. because more broadly we are a society, and poorly raised children impact all of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A speaking toddler can wait for his boobies. We’re not talking about an infant who is ebf.

Can? Maybe. But doesn’t have to just because op is big mad.

Doesn’t have to - but if mom makes this choice she is going to be judged as gross, rude and as having poor parenting skills.

Just by people like “museum leader who sees breastmilk as a threat” and honestly there’s some people in life whose judgement no one should worry about— op is one of them. The rest of us learned early to mind our own business and that good manners means leaving a room if we’re that uncomfortable.

You can go ahead and believe this. One thing I have learned about parenting is that if there is a widely held practice that I am departing from, it’s worth considering if I am doing the right thing or not, and why. So if people are telling you “breastfeeding a walking talking toddler on demand in a setting where that is not done is weird” the it is time to reflect on your parenting.

And others in this thread are saying it’s done, not weird, and that the person being weird is OP for being so triggered she had to write an internet post about it.

I have to offend one group or the other, I’ll offend the ones who pretend that as “museum leaders” they should tell me what to do and side with the group that lives and lets live. In general I think that leads to better outcomes. But your reflections have led you somewhere else and that’s ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A speaking toddler can wait for his boobies. We’re not talking about an infant who is ebf.

Can? Maybe. But doesn’t have to just because op is big mad.

Doesn’t have to - but if mom makes this choice she is going to be judged as gross, rude and as having poor parenting skills.

Only by judgmental twats. So not worth worrying about.

Seeing entitled children inspires revulsion. This kind of behavior is really on the same spectrum as a child screaming and tantruming in a store to get candy and being given it. Or seeing a child that hits their mother and swears. It is extremely permissive and inept parenting and it makes people mad to see. because more broadly we are a society, and poorly raised children impact all of us.

Except none of this happened. If breasts weren’t involved this would be the equivalent of a child asking for a water bottle and being handed it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A speaking toddler can wait for his boobies. We’re not talking about an infant who is ebf.

Can? Maybe. But doesn’t have to just because op is big mad.

Doesn’t have to - but if mom makes this choice she is going to be judged as gross, rude and as having poor parenting skills.

Just by people like “museum leader who sees breastmilk as a threat” and honestly there’s some people in life whose judgement no one should worry about— op is one of them. The rest of us learned early to mind our own business and that good manners means leaving a room if we’re that uncomfortable.

You can go ahead and believe this. One thing I have learned about parenting is that if there is a widely held practice that I am departing from, it’s worth considering if I am doing the right thing or not, and why. So if people are telling you “breastfeeding a walking talking toddler on demand in a setting where that is not done is weird” the it is time to reflect on your parenting.

And others in this thread are saying it’s done, not weird, and that the person being weird is OP for being so triggered she had to write an internet post about it.

I have to offend one group or the other, I’ll offend the ones who pretend that as “museum leaders” they should tell me what to do and side with the group that lives and lets live. In general I think that leads to better outcomes. But your reflections have led you somewhere else and that’s ok.

It’s not done though. As much as you want to believe it - toddlers being breastfed on demand in public especially in a setting of some formality, is very unusual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A speaking toddler can wait for his boobies. We’re not talking about an infant who is ebf.

Can? Maybe. But doesn’t have to just because op is big mad.

Doesn’t have to - but if mom makes this choice she is going to be judged as gross, rude and as having poor parenting skills.

Only by judgmental twats. So not worth worrying about.

Seeing entitled children inspires revulsion. This kind of behavior is really on the same spectrum as a child screaming and tantruming in a store to get candy and being given it. Or seeing a child that hits their mother and swears. It is extremely permissive and inept parenting and it makes people mad to see. because more broadly we are a society, and poorly raised children impact all of us.

Except none of this happened. If breasts weren’t involved this would be the equivalent of a child asking for a water bottle and being handed it.

But breasts were involved, that is the point. A walking, talking child was allowed to demand that a grown woman expose her breasts in public all because the grown woman cannot stand up to her toddler and have it wait 5 minutes. It’s honestly kind of disturbing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A speaking toddler can wait for his boobies. We’re not talking about an infant who is ebf.

Can? Maybe. But doesn’t have to just because op is big mad.

So when a little toddler demands food in the middle of an art gallery, they should get it? Maybe a PB&J? Why not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A speaking toddler can wait for his boobies. We’re not talking about an infant who is ebf.

Can? Maybe. But doesn’t have to just because op is big mad.

Doesn’t have to - but if mom makes this choice she is going to be judged as gross, rude and as having poor parenting skills.

Only by judgmental twats. So not worth worrying about.

Seeing entitled children inspires revulsion. This kind of behavior is really on the same spectrum as a child screaming and tantruming in a store to get candy and being given it. Or seeing a child that hits their mother and swears. It is extremely permissive and inept parenting and it makes people mad to see. because more broadly we are a society, and poorly raised children impact all of us.

Thanks for proving my point.

Judgmental twats who build up baseless narratives to defend their asshatness certainly aren’t worth worrying about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A speaking toddler can wait for his boobies. We’re not talking about an infant who is ebf.

Can? Maybe. But doesn’t have to just because op is big mad.

Doesn’t have to - but if mom makes this choice she is going to be judged as gross, rude and as having poor parenting skills.

Only by judgmental twats. So not worth worrying about.

Seeing entitled children inspires revulsion. This kind of behavior is really on the same spectrum as a child screaming and tantruming in a store to get candy and being given it. Or seeing a child that hits their mother and swears. It is extremely permissive and inept parenting and it makes people mad to see. because more broadly we are a society, and poorly raised children impact all of us.

Except none of this happened. If breasts weren’t involved this would be the equivalent of a child asking for a water bottle and being handed it.

But breasts were involved, that is the point. A walking, talking child was allowed to demand that a grown woman expose her breasts in public all because the grown woman cannot stand up to her toddler and have it wait 5 minutes. It’s honestly kind of disturbing.

Grandma, it’s 2025. Breastfeeding in public is fine. Even for a toddler. Grow TF up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A speaking toddler can wait for his boobies. We’re not talking about an infant who is ebf.

Can? Maybe. But doesn’t have to just because op is big mad.

Doesn’t have to - but if mom makes this choice she is going to be judged as gross, rude and as having poor parenting skills.

Only by judgmental twats. So not worth worrying about.

Seeing entitled children inspires revulsion. This kind of behavior is really on the same spectrum as a child screaming and tantruming in a store to get candy and being given it. Or seeing a child that hits their mother and swears. It is extremely permissive and inept parenting and it makes people mad to see. because more broadly we are a society, and poorly raised children impact all of us.

Thanks for proving my point.

Judgmental twats who build up baseless narratives to defend their asshatness certainly aren’t worth worrying about.

Ok as long as you own it. But then do not get all hurt and indignant when someone comments on your permissive parenting or they don’t extend the same permissiveness to your child as you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A speaking toddler can wait for his boobies. We’re not talking about an infant who is ebf.

Can? Maybe. But doesn’t have to just because op is big mad.

Doesn’t have to - but if mom makes this choice she is going to be judged as gross, rude and as having poor parenting skills.

Only by judgmental twats. So not worth worrying about.

Seeing entitled children inspires revulsion. This kind of behavior is really on the same spectrum as a child screaming and tantruming in a store to get candy and being given it. Or seeing a child that hits their mother and swears. It is extremely permissive and inept parenting and it makes people mad to see. because more broadly we are a society, and poorly raised children impact all of us.

Except none of this happened. If breasts weren’t involved this would be the equivalent of a child asking for a water bottle and being handed it.

But breasts were involved, that is the point. A walking, talking child was allowed to demand that a grown woman expose her breasts in public all because the grown woman cannot stand up to her toddler and have it wait 5 minutes. It’s honestly kind of disturbing.

Grandma, it’s 2025. Breastfeeding in public is fine. Even for a toddler. Grow TF up.

No it’s not fine for a toddler to demand “boob” and pull down his mother’s shirt in public. As much as you want to claim it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A speaking toddler can wait for his boobies. We’re not talking about an infant who is ebf.

Can? Maybe. But doesn’t have to just because op is big mad.

Doesn’t have to - but if mom makes this choice she is going to be judged as gross, rude and as having poor parenting skills.

Just by people like “museum leader who sees breastmilk as a threat” and honestly there’s some people in life whose judgement no one should worry about— op is one of them. The rest of us learned early to mind our own business and that good manners means leaving a room if we’re that uncomfortable.

You can go ahead and believe this. One thing I have learned about parenting is that if there is a widely held practice that I am departing from, it’s worth considering if I am doing the right thing or not, and why. So if people are telling you “breastfeeding a walking talking toddler on demand in a setting where that is not done is weird” the it is time to reflect on your parenting.

And others in this thread are saying it’s done, not weird, and that the person being weird is OP for being so triggered she had to write an internet post about it.

I have to offend one group or the other, I’ll offend the ones who pretend that as “museum leaders” they should tell me what to do and side with the group that lives and lets live. In general I think that leads to better outcomes. But your reflections have led you somewhere else and that’s ok.

+1

It’s only weird to old bats who refuse to MYOB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A speaking toddler can wait for his boobies. We’re not talking about an infant who is ebf.

Can? Maybe. But doesn’t have to just because op is big mad.

Doesn’t have to - but if mom makes this choice she is going to be judged as gross, rude and as having poor parenting skills.

Only by judgmental twats. So not worth worrying about.

Seeing entitled children inspires revulsion. This kind of behavior is really on the same spectrum as a child screaming and tantruming in a store to get candy and being given it. Or seeing a child that hits their mother and swears. It is extremely permissive and inept parenting and it makes people mad to see. because more broadly we are a society, and poorly raised children impact all of us.

Thanks for proving my point.

Judgmental twats who build up baseless narratives to defend their asshatness certainly aren’t worth worrying about.

Ok as long as you own it. But then do not get all hurt and indignant when someone comments on your permissive parenting or they don’t extend the same permissiveness to your child as you do.

LOL. More baseless narratives. The more defensive you get, the more creative they get.

MYOB.