Missing Manassas Park woman - Mamta Kafle Bhatt

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It would be good if the gov. allowed the child be with her maternal uncle and maternal grandparents in Nepal.

How creepy does the husband look???

Nepal is a very poor country. It would prob be better if one of her mother's nursing friends adopted her, and maintained contact with the family/culture.

OMG. You don't know anything about this woman's family. What a horrible, xenophobic thing to say.

[Anonymous]

https://www.gofundme.com/f/justice-for-mamta-help-her-daughter-thrive

[Anonymous]

Her family sounds very supportive and loving and they were in very frequent contact.

The MIL tormenting Mamta when she menstruated is an unfamiliar cultural concept.

https://kathmandupost.com/province-no-3/2024/08/26/mamata-kafle-case-family-prepares-to-travel-to-us-to-get-updates

[Anonymous]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chhaupadi

[Anonymous]

There were tenants in the basement of the home. If the MIL had her in a "shed" of some sort while menstruating, surely they witnessed odd things?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There were tenants in the basement of the home. If the MIL had her in a "shed" of some sort while menstruating, surely they witnessed odd things?

I don’t think they followed this custom while being in the US and the article does state it could just be a different room in the house, which is probably more sensible based on how they were living

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There were tenants in the basement of the home. If the MIL had her in a "shed" of some sort while menstruating, surely they witnessed odd things?

I don’t think they followed this custom while being in the US and the article does state it could just be a different room in the house, which is probably more sensible based on how they were living

The article states that MIL and H tried to compel her to follow it. They were from a more rural area, perhaps it was not a custom of hers previously. But yes, they used the "tradition" as a means to abuse her while in US, domestic abuse is discussed in the article and came up at the bond hearing today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There were tenants in the basement of the home. If the MIL had her in a "shed" of some sort while menstruating, surely they witnessed odd things?

I don’t think they followed this custom while being in the US and the article does state it could just be a different room in the house, which is probably more sensible based on how they were living

From link

Mamata’s parents and other kin are suspicious of foul play in the mysterious disappearance as they smelt a rat in Mamata’s mother-in-law’s treatment of their daughter.

“We started hearing that Mamata's mother-in-law, who had gone to the US to care for her, was not treating her well, and was sceptical about Mamata’s indifference to their demand of Chhaupadi, the tradition of keeping a person in different shed during menstrual period,” Kamal said. “Whenever we asked Mamata how she was doing, she always said she was fine. She never told us about the pain she was going through, though we did hear bits and pieces from outside. We thought it was just minor quarrels that would be resolved.”

According to Mamata’s father, there had been some tension in the family recently, leading Mamata to live separately with her daughter for a while. However, after reconciling, they started living together again.

Mamata’s family claims that recently, her husband, Naresh, and his mother had not been treating her well. “During her menstruation, they did not treat her well under the guise of tradition,” said Mamata's aunt, Maiya Kafle.

Maiya complained that ironically the woman who had gone to take care of the puerpera tortured her.

“Her mother-in-law had gone to care for her, but instead, she made Mamata work on an empty stomach and did not provide proper food or care. This has only deepened our suspicions,” she said. “We believe that their relationship started to deteriorate after her mother-in-law went to the US. Even after that, there were issues, which we were suspicious of.”

https://kathmandupost.com/province-no-3/2024/08/26/mamata-kafle-case-family-prepares-to-travel-to-us-to-get-updates

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m South Asian. Willing to bet any amount it was the husband in this case. Ugh

I read what the coworkers had to say and read about the wife’s desperate posts in a Facebook group looking for help. My guess is the husband did this.

[Anonymous]

Thankfully the GFM for the daughter's trust set up by coworkers is vastly outstripping the weird Nadia one. I actually wonder if the initial GFM post & all of the weird Nadia is wonderful posts on this thread are from her. It's weird that this thread was so focused on her fundraiser when the other one had 10x the donors and $$.

[Anonymous]

The system failed her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The system failed her.

And her workplace. Doctors, hospitals, and nurses are trained to recognize suspicious DV bruises and no one in an OBGYN unit recognized this???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thankfully the GFM for the daughter's trust set up by coworkers is vastly outstripping the weird Nadia one. I actually wonder if the initial GFM post & all of the weird Nadia is wonderful posts on this thread are from her. It's weird that this thread was so focused on her fundraiser when the other one had 10x the donors and $$.

It seems like she has a huge following of people who are defending her and attacking everyone who says anything about her or doesn’t agree with her posts. She is doing way too much and i don’t think it’s her place to use the GFM money for random items while initially people thought the money would go to search for mamta and to her daughter. She also doesn’t talk to the nepali community or the family who have asked her multiple times to stop the gfm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would she agree to this arranged marriage? How did he come across this poor woman? Maybe it is a cultural thing but this is just awful.

This post is a good example of how women born and raised here in the US have NO idea how good we have it. I am an immigrant and this is what life is like for millions of women all over the world (not just Nepal).

Women don’t have to ‘agree’ to anything. They are told what to do, when to do it and how to do it.

Just thank whatever higher power you believe in that you were born a woman in the US instead of any of these countries.

This is why I hope the baby girl is raised in the US.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m South Asian. Willing to bet any amount it was the husband in this case. Ugh

I read what the coworkers had to say and read about the wife’s desperate posts in a Facebook group looking for help. My guess is the husband did this.

Yes, that is why he has been arrested and held without bond.