Best way to keep kid from getting a tattoo while in college

[Anonymous]

This thread is a disaster

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Anonymous wrote:I despise tattoos and think OP is a complete lunatic for trying to control an adult man in this regard.

But, her best is saying that they should get matching tattoos.

Do you really think a not-quite-18yr old who is entering college in the fall is an adult man? Do you have toddlers or just cats?

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Anonymous wrote:You can't.

The hell you can’t.

Controlling an adult - not a good way to go.

Like you trying to control the mother.

How am I trying to do that? I’m just pointing out it’s a bad idea.

No, you aren’t pointing it out as a bad idea. You did, however dramatize it as controlling.

She literally said “how can I keep my kid from getting a tattoo”. That is literally the definition of controlling.

I think the word literally has control over you.
The definition of controlling is not “she literally said how can I keep my kid from getting a tattoo.”

Still waiting to hear how OP trying to stop her 18 year old from doing something is NOT controlling.

All parents should have some control over college age kid.
Someone needs to take control of you because you are dumb as a box of rocks.

All you are really doing is asking your adult kid to lie to you and hide things from you.

I got a tattoo at 19 and my parents didn't find out for a good decade. Control tactics do not work. Period.

Control tactics sure as hell worked on me. I knew there were consequences and didn’t want to abuse that.
You were a bad egg and a liar.

You are naïve and a sheep. Try growing a personality.

You’re the sheep for getting the tattoo. Try growing your own personality instead of trying to follow the cool crowd.

The cool kids don't get tattoos. The losers do. They're the ones who hang out around the smoking lounge in HS.

Put your glasses on biddies, bumping the post so you can read it again. It may have slipped your minds during the three seconds it takes to scroll down to reply

You should probably try to get a life.

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Anonymous wrote:I never fail to be amazed by the pearl-clutching on this site

You guys are crazy.

A tattoo with his college teammates is most likely something he will look back fondly on for literally the rest of his life.

You don't do this with your teammates. I don't think you understand sports culture or tattoos. They don't get cute little matching tattoos that say "Go Bulldogs" or whatever. They get sleeves of bible quotes and all manner of other things. Watch an NFL game.

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Anonymous wrote:You can't.

The hell you can’t.

Controlling an adult - not a good way to go.

Like you trying to control the mother.

How am I trying to do that? I’m just pointing out it’s a bad idea.

No, you aren’t pointing it out as a bad idea. You did, however dramatize it as controlling.

She literally said “how can I keep my kid from getting a tattoo”. That is literally the definition of controlling.

I think the word literally has control over you.
The definition of controlling is not “she literally said how can I keep my kid from getting a tattoo.”

Still waiting to hear how OP trying to stop her 18 year old from doing something is NOT controlling.

All parents should have some control over college age kid.
Someone needs to take control of you because you are dumb as a box of rocks.

All you are really doing is asking your adult kid to lie to you and hide things from you.

I got a tattoo at 19 and my parents didn't find out for a good decade. Control tactics do not work. Period.

Control tactics sure as hell worked on me. I knew there were consequences and didn’t want to abuse that.
You were a bad egg and a liar.

You are naïve and a sheep. Try growing a personality.

You’re the sheep for getting the tattoo. Try growing your own personality instead of trying to follow the cool crowd.

The cool kids don't get tattoos. The losers do. They're the ones who hang out around the smoking lounge in HS.

Put your glasses on biddies, bumping the post so you can read it again. It may have slipped your minds during the three seconds it takes to scroll down to reply

Maybe someone can explain the smokers lounge comment? It’s more likely it was just some offhand senile comment and the person forgot what century it was bc otherwise I have no clue why it was even brought up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I never fail to be amazed by the pearl-clutching on this site

You guys are crazy.

A tattoo with his college teammates is most likely something he will look back fondly on for literally the rest of his life.

You don't do this with your teammates. I don't think you understand sports culture or tattoos. They don't get cute little matching tattoos that say "Go Bulldogs" or whatever. They get sleeves of bible quotes and all manner of other things. Watch an NFL game.

Yes this is a thing among teammates. There’s a huge range between this and fully tatted up NFL players. You probably have friends (I’m being generous) with them but you would never know because they’re small and hidden.

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Anonymous wrote:I never fail to be amazed by the pearl-clutching on this site

You guys are crazy.

A tattoo with his college teammates is most likely something he will look back fondly on for literally the rest of his life.

You don't do this with your teammates. I don't think you understand sports culture or tattoos. They don't get cute little matching tattoos that say "Go Bulldogs" or whatever. They get sleeves of bible quotes and all manner of other things. Watch an NFL game.

Yes this is a thing among teammates. There’s a huge range between this and fully tatted up NFL players. You probably have friends (I’m being generous) with them but you would never know because they’re small and hidden.

It's pretty sports specific. You're both right.

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Anonymous wrote:You can't.

The hell you can’t.

Controlling an adult - not a good way to go.

Like you trying to control the mother.

How am I trying to do that? I’m just pointing out it’s a bad idea.

No, you aren’t pointing it out as a bad idea. You did, however dramatize it as controlling.

She literally said “how can I keep my kid from getting a tattoo”. That is literally the definition of controlling.

I think the word literally has control over you.
The definition of controlling is not “she literally said how can I keep my kid from getting a tattoo.”

Still waiting to hear how OP trying to stop her 18 year old from doing something is NOT controlling.

All parents should have some control over college age kid.
Someone needs to take control of you because you are dumb as a box of rocks.

All you are really doing is asking your adult kid to lie to you and hide things from you.

I got a tattoo at 19 and my parents didn't find out for a good decade. Control tactics do not work. Period.

Control tactics sure as hell worked on me. I knew there were consequences and didn’t want to abuse that.
You were a bad egg and a liar.

You are naïve and a sheep. Try growing a personality.

You’re the sheep for getting the tattoo. Try growing your own personality instead of trying to follow the cool crowd.

The cool kids don't get tattoos. The losers do. They're the ones who hang out around the smoking lounge in HS.

Put your glasses on biddies, bumping the post so you can read it again. It may have slipped your minds during the three seconds it takes to scroll down to reply

Maybe someone can explain the smokers lounge comment? It’s more likely it was just some offhand senile comment and the person forgot what century it was bc otherwise I have no clue why it was even brought up.

Ask the pp, who you are pretending not to be. She is the one who brought up age which was not relevant.

[Anonymous]

Good luck with that! My DD got piercings! Just roll with it.

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Anonymous wrote:You can't.

The hell you can’t.

Controlling an adult - not a good way to go.

Like you trying to control the mother.

How am I trying to do that? I’m just pointing out it’s a bad idea.

No, you aren’t pointing it out as a bad idea. You did, however dramatize it as controlling.

She literally said “how can I keep my kid from getting a tattoo”. That is literally the definition of controlling.

I think the word literally has control over you.
The definition of controlling is not “she literally said how can I keep my kid from getting a tattoo.”

Still waiting to hear how OP trying to stop her 18 year old from doing something is NOT controlling.

All parents should have some control over college age kid.
Someone needs to take control of you because you are dumb as a box of rocks.

All you are really doing is asking your adult kid to lie to you and hide things from you.

I got a tattoo at 19 and my parents didn't find out for a good decade. Control tactics do not work. Period.

Control tactics sure as hell worked on me. I knew there were consequences and didn’t want to abuse that.
You were a bad egg and a liar.

You are naïve and a sheep. Try growing a personality.

You’re the sheep for getting the tattoo. Try growing your own personality instead of trying to follow the cool crowd.

The cool kids don't get tattoos. The losers do. They're the ones who hang out around the smoking lounge in HS.

Put your glasses on biddies, bumping the post so you can read it again. It may have slipped your minds during the three seconds it takes to scroll down to reply

Maybe someone can explain the smokers lounge comment? It’s more likely it was just some offhand senile comment and the person forgot what century it was bc otherwise I have no clue why it was even brought up.

Ask the pp, who you are pretending not to be. She is the one who brought up age which was not relevant.

Was it you? Do you remember making this comment or no?

[Anonymous]

You can't.

You can offer to pull funds, but are you going to play chicken with that? Stubborn teens are known to dig their heels in.

Maybe you could do a "scared straight" style presentation with tattoos gone wrong? There are some real bad ones out there

[Anonymous]

Just make sure they don’t have access to like $300

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just make sure they don’t have access to like $300

Lol, a lot less than that! So many kids giving each other stick-and-pokes these days. The genie's out of the bottle, it's a whole new world, best a parent can do is talk to kids about safety and hygiene.

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Ugh. They just make such terrible decisions at this age about what the tattoo is,placement etc. Everything is a trend and fades away.... the lower back butterflies, the tribal arm bands, etc.

We told our kids that when they have their own health insurance, that to us qualifies them as full-blown adults capable of making permanent decisions about their bodies including tattoos. They are 26 and 24 now and tattoo-free fwiw.

And no, we didn't have them circumcized.

That you know of

Well, that's true. But if they do have any tattoos, they are not visible while they are wearing summer clothing, including bathing suits. Good enough for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Setting aside that it is a bad idea to try this, here is the only idea I can come up with that has any chance whatsoever of working....

Pay them.

Tell him that he'll get $X (whatever amount feels like a LOT to him) every semester that he proves he didn't get a tattoo.

That has about a 50% chance of working. Nothing else will.

This sounds…creepy