Best way to keep kid from getting a tattoo while in college

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Anonymous wrote:You spent all that time and money on cultivating a D1 athlete ensuring he'd get into the right school, and now you want to know how to make sure he doesn't fit in with the team meaning hell probably quit and you'll end up footing the entire college bill maybe he'd even drop out and change schools, maybe one closer to home where you can control his life forever.

Who thinks a d1 athlete has to get a tattoo to fit in with a team? And that not getting it will compel him to quit?
You are a complete moron.

Team culture and unless her son is the star player fitting in id important.

A tattoo is not the standard to “fit it.”

It is at the son's school.

No f-ing athlete gives a crap if a teammate has or doesn’t have a tattoo. If they are confident which a D1 athlete presumable is, is what matters.

It's literally what op wrote. Did you bother to read it or did you just start foaming at the mouth over tattoos and writing nonsensical ChatGPT rants?

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If he's never expressed interest in a tattoo he probably won't get one. If he has then he will hopefully it's smart like his number or team logo or related to the sport he plays.and relatively small.

But honestly if he's so susceptible to peer pressure that he can't make a choice about tattoos you have bigger issues and have failed as a parent.

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Just because someone is "D1" does not mean they are on full scholarship. For some sports, they are lucky to get a partial one or rely on merit.

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Anonymous wrote:You can't.

The hell you can’t.

Controlling an adult - not a good way to go.

Like you trying to control the mother.

How am I trying to do that? I’m just pointing out it’s a bad idea.

No, you aren’t pointing it out as a bad idea. You did, however dramatize it as controlling.

She literally said “how can I keep my kid from getting a tattoo”. That is literally the definition of controlling.

I think the word literally has control over you.
The definition of controlling is not “she literally said how can I keep my kid from getting a tattoo.”

Still waiting to hear how OP trying to stop her 18 year old from doing something is NOT controlling.

OP here. I'm not trying to stop him, I'm trying to have him put it off for a few years. Big difference.

Stopping him from doing something now is still controlling.

No it isn’t. He is walking around freely.

Excellent. So he can walk right into that tattoo parlor whenever he wants.
Looks like we’re done here.

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Anonymous wrote:You spent all that time and money on cultivating a D1 athlete ensuring he'd get into the right school, and now you want to know how to make sure he doesn't fit in with the team meaning hell probably quit and you'll end up footing the entire college bill maybe he'd even drop out and change schools, maybe one closer to home where you can control his life forever.

Who thinks a d1 athlete has to get a tattoo to fit in with a team? And that not getting it will compel him to quit?
You are a complete moron.

Team culture and unless her son is the star player fitting in id important.

They fit in on personality. My nephew is a d1 athlete and is a stud with no tattoos and no problem fitting in. That is an absurd suggestion that a tattoo is compulsory in order to fit in.

You call your nephew a stud??
This thread IS creepy

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None of the arguments but one here: it is your son's adult body. Period. Threatening funds because you don't like something is over the top controlling. The son has a right to bodily autonomy and our job as parents is to learn when to let go.

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't read the whole thread. Just curious, as to what sport? I was surprised to see hometown boy Jackson Merrill with so many.

OP here. Boy, this thread went haywire, and lots of people putting words in my mouth. I've posted once or twice since the original. Football, which has a big tattoo culture. Hence the OP. And for the record, I never said anything about withholding money, or trying to control him or his body. I was just looking for talking points to maybe help him see that waiting a few years might be a good idea. Some of you are nuts. (Not you PP who just asked about the sport. Read the thread and you'll see)

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Anonymous wrote:You spent all that time and money on cultivating a D1 athlete ensuring he'd get into the right school, and now you want to know how to make sure he doesn't fit in with the team meaning hell probably quit and you'll end up footing the entire college bill maybe he'd even drop out and change schools, maybe one closer to home where you can control his life forever.

Who thinks a d1 athlete has to get a tattoo to fit in with a team? And that not getting it will compel him to quit?
You are a complete moron.

Team culture and unless her son is the star player fitting in id important.

They fit in on personality. My nephew is a d1 athlete and is a stud with no tattoos and no problem fitting in. That is an absurd suggestion that a tattoo is compulsory in order to fit in.

You call your nephew a stud??
This thread IS creepy

No it's weird. .

1.' You have no idea if your nephew has tats or not.
2. It doesn't matter what happens at your nephew's school because we're talking about OP's sons's school, where apparently having a tattoo is the done thing, but I think you're a creep who just wanted to talk about you hot nephew.

Give us all a break, drama queen.

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Tell him you love tattoos...then he won’t get one just to spite you

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Anonymous wrote:Simple. You do something stupid = we don't pay for the next term. No spending allowance either. End of subject.

Bingo!

He's a D1 athlete that threat has no weight whatsoever

What sport does he play. Swimmers at the least likely to get one. Everyone else on teams get one.

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Anonymous wrote:Simple. You do something stupid = we don't pay for the next term. No spending allowance either. End of subject.

Bingo!

He's a D1 athlete that threat has no weight whatsoever

What sport does he play. Swimmers at the least likely to get one. Everyone else on teams get one.

Football, that was answered a couple of posts ago.

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Anonymous wrote:Send him information on how Maori people feel about those arm bands and on general tattoo fails. Suggest he wait until after college and/or ask future fiancee. I'd go with logic. Bribes and threats are uncool.

There are so many non-permanent ways to decorate yourself.

If future fiancee has one, no need to worry about what happens bc that's the person who will care the most.

I have seen a number of bad tattoos on formerly attractive real estate.

I understand bodily autonomy completely. It just seems like there are a lot of pitfalls related to enhancing oneself with ink.

Tangent: The Sofia Coppola movie Dogfight shows a bunch of young guys getting "killer bee" tattoos right before shipping off to Vietnam. I think this is the kind of solidarity that sports people may be looking for? That's beyond aesthetics. Also frat markings.

Sofia Coppola has nothing to do with this movie…did you mean Lili Taylor?

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Anonymous wrote:Friend told her son that if he gets a tattoo while in college they will stop paying for college.

Now whether or not that's a good idea is debatable, but it seems to be working.

That will work until graduation day. He'll have a tattoo soon after.

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Anonymous wrote:Simple. You do something stupid = we don't pay for the next term. No spending allowance either. End of subject.

Bingo!

He's a D1 athlete that threat has no weight whatsoever

What sport does he play. Swimmers at the least likely to get one. Everyone else on teams get one.

Check your classism, babe.

I swam in college. When we won the national championship, we all got matching tattoos with our college logo. We also got drunk at our end-of-season celebration and some of us had sex with our teammates. Young adults are young adults, regardless of their intellect or parents’ money.

We all graduated and grew up. We have respectable careers, and families, and houses, and typical midlife drama. The only person who regularly sees my tattoo is my husband. My tattoo has had no impact on me becoming a functional human being.

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Anonymous wrote:Friend told her son that if he gets a tattoo while in college they will stop paying for college.

Now whether or not that's a good idea is debatable, but it seems to be working.

OP, I don't think you can. I just wanted to comment on this post. If you do this, you should be ready to actually do this. And be ok with the consequences if you have to make good on your threat.