MIL ate my birthday chocolates

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Anonymous wrote:I am Team OP here. I would be livid and would never forgive MIL this outrageously childish behavior. The audacity to open someone’s mail, steal from it, and then gloat about it is just unreal. I cannot believe some apparently ill-mannered PPs think this was a defensible action or just no big deal.

Agreed. This is about as socially clueless as going to someone else’s house and taking a dump with the bathroom door open. Then acting surprised when your host gets uncomfortable.

Oh! I posted earlier in this thread. My FIL once entered our house, walked past the powder room, up the stairs, past the dedicated guest bathroom in the guest room they stay in, into our master bedroom and took the smelliest most disgusting toilet clogging poop in our master bathroom. Hours later when we tried to go to bed the stench was still lingering. After it happened multiple times that visit, we fitted our master with a lock and he had the audacity to complain that he couldn’t enter our bedroom.

Does he have dementia?

No. Just an a**hole. This was 15 years ago. He was perhaps 60 at the time.

What did he say when confronted? Insane!

[Anonymous]

Be careful maybe she is losing her marbles - so forgive her.

However yes I can understand why you'd be mad, it is very strange behaviour! So nervy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL/FIL are staying with us for the weekend, so that DH and I can go out to dinner and stay in a hotel for my birthday for one night. This is of course very nice of them to do.

They arrived this morning while DH and I were at work. When I came home, MIL was gloating—and I mean gloating—about the fact that she received a package for us, read that it was from the specialty chocolate shop in my hometown, and “couldn’t resist helping herself to a few.” This was a birthday present sent to me by my parents, a rare taste of home. They are expensive to ship, so it’s a real treat to get them.

I am so flipping mad. I can’t believe she would open a package for me, let alone open AND EAT a birthday present FOR ME from my parents!

Very rude and self-centered at a minimum. A) illegal and super nosy to open other peoples mail, and b) super selfish and inconsiderate and rude to eat someone’s girl treated (they opened themselves).

I hope you said, that was quite rude to open my mail, my gift and help yourself. Very rude.

Then be silent until she apologizes. If she doesn’t just walk off. I’d definitely of her less.

Very low chance she is aspergers in which case she does this sort of rude clueless stuff All The Time and doesn’t know social rules.
Very low chance she is mean and malicious, in which case she probably went through all your mails and files while you were gone. Enjoy.
Most likely she’s rude and selfish, sweet tooth who never gives or gets gifts so is a clueless rude jerk about it. And now you know.

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* that would new gift treat. Gift or nice stuff. You ask before stuffing your face. and might get a No.

[Anonymous]

Same thing happened when they visited during the early days of maternity leave to stay and see the baby. They started eating 80% of whatever nice chocolates and fruit baskets I got.

I ended up hiding $hit in the trunk if my car they were so rude.

And now every time they houseguest I hide 2-3 grocery bags of the nicest stuff (olive oil club) and my favorite snacks

And no it’s not cultural because they’ve been asked many times to ask before using a new appliance (they continue ti break everything but say they know what they’re doing) or before opening something new up (because there might be an open one in a canister.

They just ram about in their own world while we are at work.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m going to guess it’s chocolates from somewhere like Malleys in Cleveland. Good enough that you buy it all the time when you’re local, and get nostalgic for it when you’re far away, but not good enough that you’d rave about it to people who had no emotional connection to the product.

Or those chocolate turtles from wisconsin.

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Or truffles from San Fran.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. For the record, I do and always have shared these chocolates when I receive them—that’s how she knows what they are and that she likes them. I’ve even sent her some as gifts. But for her to open the package and eat some of my gift from my parents before I had any, that’s beyond. And by the way? Some of them are flavored/cream-filled, and she ate my favorite two flavors, which she favors as well.

Defend that, DCUM. Go on, I know you’ll find a way.

Divorce your husband for not inducing MIL to vomit the chocolate.
Or take a day to process and move on.
And tell your parents. They will likely send more.

I…literally am taking a day to process and move on. That’s what the DCUM vent was for. I haven’t said a word to MIL/FIL or DH, nor will I. But I will also never have them in my house when I’m not there ever again. And because I do most of the childcare arrangements when we travel, that means my kids will only do overnights/babysitting with my family and friends. Oh well.

You're way, way overreacting. It's CANDY. This shouldn't take you more than 30 seconds to "process."

No, it’s tampering with US mail, which is a crime.

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Anonymous wrote:I am Team OP here. I would be livid and would never forgive MIL this outrageously childish behavior. The audacity to open someone’s mail, steal from it, and then gloat about it is just unreal. I cannot believe some apparently ill-mannered PPs think this was a defensible action or just no big deal.

Agreed. This is about as socially clueless as going to someone else’s house and taking a dump with the bathroom door open. Then acting surprised when your host gets uncomfortable.

Oh! I posted earlier in this thread. My FIL once entered our house, walked past the powder room, up the stairs, past the dedicated guest bathroom in the guest room they stay in, into our master bedroom and took the smelliest most disgusting toilet clogging poop in our master bathroom. Hours later when we tried to go to bed the stench was still lingering. After it happened multiple times that visit, we fitted our master with a lock and he had the audacity to complain that he couldn’t enter our bedroom.

Does he have dementia?

No. Just an a**hole. This was 15 years ago. He was perhaps 60 at the time.

What did he say when confronted? Insane!

He said he prefers the toilet in there. All the toilets were the same. But that also clued us in to the fact that he’d clearly been in there prior to this incident to even know he had a preference, we just didn’t notice because it had likely happened while we were at work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same thing happened when they visited during the early days of maternity leave to stay and see the baby. They started eating 80% of whatever nice chocolates and fruit baskets I got.

I ended up hiding $hit in the trunk if my car they were so rude.

And now every time they houseguest I hide 2-3 grocery bags of the nicest stuff (olive oil club) and my favorite snacks

And no it’s not cultural because they’ve been asked many times to ask before using a new appliance (they continue ti break everything but say they know what they’re doing) or before opening something new up (because there might be an open one in a canister.

They just ram about in their own world while we are at work.

Did you post about this before? It sounds familiar. In any case, they sound awful. Can you insist they get a hotel when they come visit?

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Anonymous wrote:Same thing happened when they visited during the early days of maternity leave to stay and see the baby. They started eating 80% of whatever nice chocolates and fruit baskets I got.

I ended up hiding $hit in the trunk if my car they were so rude.

And now every time they houseguest I hide 2-3 grocery bags of the nicest stuff (olive oil club) and my favorite snacks

And no it’s not cultural because they’ve been asked many times to ask before using a new appliance (they continue ti break everything but say they know what they’re doing) or before opening something new up (because there might be an open one in a canister.

They just ram about in their own world while we are at work.

Awful, selfish, rude people. I would make a point to only have the most boring food and drink around when they visit, and not great quantity of it.

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Anonymous wrote:Now you know what to get her for her birthday EVERY year.

Oh, yeah. You now have to buy chocolate for her constantly and make sure to tell the “funny” story of when she couldn’t help herself and opened your birthday present while she was babysitting and devoured the chocolate. Enjoy the horrified looks from everyone listening.

It's chocolate. She didn't eat the children. Even in your "funny" retelling its funny. Nobody is going to be horrified

x1000 I cannot believe how immature some of these responses are. I really hope these are just middle schoolers trolling and not real live parents. Sheesh. No wonder our country is going to he11 in a handbasket.

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I can't believe anyone even slightly defends the MIL. Could she have done something way worse? Of course, but in no way is what she did ok.

What if there was an OP that said "I'm babysitting and there's a package that was delivered. Should I open it?" No one would tell her to open it.

What if the OP said "Im babysitting and a package was delivered full of wonderful treats. It's ok if I eat them, because I'm here to help, right?" There's no way anyone would think that was ok.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe anyone even slightly defends the MIL. Could she have done something way worse? Of course, but in no way is what she did ok.

What if there was an OP that said "I'm babysitting and there's a package that was delivered. Should I open it?" No one would tell her to open it.

What if the OP said "Im babysitting and a package was delivered full of wonderful treats. It's ok if I eat them, because I'm here to help, right?" There's no way anyone would think that was ok.

I think these posters are just being argumentative for the sake of it and trolling a little. No, In no world is it no big deal to open someone’s birthday gift and eat it. I also agree with the pp that it does seem like possibly senile behavior and might be something that should be looked into.

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Anonymous wrote:That's rude of her but you are overreacting. Surely she left some for you, right? And wouldn't you have offered to share since they were at your house anyway?

DA FUQ!
That takes nerve!